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Under Pressure

Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls
Written by: Lisa Damour
Narrated by: Lisa Damour
Length: 7 hrs and 17 mins
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New York Times best seller

An urgently needed guide to the alarming increase in anxiety and stress experienced by girls from elementary school through college, from the author of Untangled

“An invaluable read for anyone who has girls, works with girls, or cares about girls - for everyone!” (Claire Shipman, author of The Confidence Code and The Confidence Code for Girls)

Though anxiety has risen among young people overall, studies confirm that it has skyrocketed in girls. Research finds that the number of girls who said that they often felt nervous, worried, or fearful jumped 55 percent from 2009 to 2014, while the comparable number for adolescent boys has remained unchanged. As a clinical psychologist who specializes in working with girls, Lisa Damour, PhD, has witnessed this rising tide of stress and anxiety in her own research, in private practice, and in the all-girls’ school where she consults. She knew this had to be the topic of her new book.

In the engaging, anecdotal style and reassuring tone that won over thousands of fans of her first book, Untangled, Damour starts by addressing the facts about psychological pressure. She explains the surprising and underappreciated value of stress and anxiety: that stress can helpfully stretch us beyond our comfort zones, and anxiety can play a key role in keeping girls safe. When we emphasize the benefits of stress and anxiety, we can help our daughters take them in stride.

But no parents want their daughter to suffer from emotional overload, so Damour then turns to the many facets of girls’ lives where tension takes hold: their interactions at home, pressures at school, social anxiety among other girls and among boys, and their lives online. As listeners move through the layers of girls’ lives, they’ll learn about the critical steps that adults can take to shield their daughters from the toxic pressures to which our culture - including we, as parents - subjects girls. 

Listeners who know Damour from Untangled or the New York Times, or from her regular appearances on CBS News, will be drawn to this important new contribution to understanding and supporting today’s girls.

Praise for Under Pressure

“Truly a must-read for parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors wanting to help girls along the path to adulthood.” (Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult

©2019 Lisa Damour (P)2019 Random House Audio

What the critics say

“Lisa Damour offers a fresh, riveting take on the unsustainable stress girls face today, which is often fueled unintentionally by the most well-meaning parents and teachers. Damour also offers refreshing and research-based practical fixes; it’s possible to normalize pressure, in many cases, and use it in fortifying ways to build strength and confidence. Under Pressure is an invaluable read for anyone who has girls, works with girls, or cares about girls - for everyone!” (Claire Shipman, New York Times best-selling author of The Confidence Code and The Confidence Code for Girls)

“Anyone who has read the beloved Untangled knows that Lisa Damour gets girls. This timely sequel brings stunning clarity to the complicated set of stressors that girls experience - in the classroom, online, with peers, and at home - and models how to show up as an ally instead of an adversary. Truly a must-read for parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors wanting to help girls along the path to adulthood.” (Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times best-selling author of How to Raise an Adult)

Under Pressure is exactly what parents need and, as a mother, it helped me to relax! Damour explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress and anxiety. She offers a detailed, comprehensive look at how to help our daughters manage naturally occurring tension, toxic stress, and anxiety. This brilliant book is a must-read.” (Norah O’Donnell, host, CBS This Morning

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-03-10

Everyone should read/listen to this book.

As a childless female police officer, I had been asked many times to speak with the high school girls about current social pressures they are facing. I decided to listen to this book to get a better understanding on this subject and I cannot rave enough about what I learned. Lisa Damour offers strategies and outlooks on conversations anyone could face with a teenaged girl. Everyone should listen/read to this book to be more supporting and understanding to the current social pressures and tools to deploy when someone young has questions or is struggling.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 2019-03-20

amazing resource for any parent

I just finished this and Lisa's earlier book titled untangled. Both were well written and so resourceful. I will be re- reading both and in print so I can take good notes. thank you Lisa for the work you do and the ability to share it from both could and parent perspective.

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  • D Stone
  • 2019-03-13

Very Helpful!

Great and useful information which can be easily applied as needed! Nice reading be the author, easily engaging voice

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  • Duncan
  • 2019-03-04

Must read for parents navigating the world today!

Packs a punch with current statistics of the challenges our daughters face and how those challenges can impact their development both socially and intellectually. Offers valuable realistic actions and perspectives in support of learning how to manage anxiety and stress at any age.

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  • Marnie
  • 2019-03-01

Fantastic read!!

I have two daughters and this was a fantastic read with tons of really important information.

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  • Julie P
  • Michigan
  • 2019-02-21

Excellent book, must read

I bought this book because my daughter has been dealing with excessive anxiety. This book addressed the issues we’re dealing with here at home and many i haven’t thought or had to tackle yet. Every topic offers research backed information as well as techniques and ideas on how to help your daughter maneuver these difficult situations and topics. I have read many parenting and psychology books and this is one I know I’ll come back to over and over. I highly recommend this for anyone that has a daughter, or works with girls.

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  • Lauren H.
  • MEMPHIS, TN, United States
  • 2019-02-18

Another great one

Loved listening to this as read by the author! Lisa Damour has a great way of storytelling that leaves you with a wonderful understanding of her point. She knows girls, knows the research, and can help navigate the difference between knowing what research says and knowing how to apply it. This is a great read for parents, teacher, coaches, or mentors of young girls.

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  • The Mays
  • 2019-02-14

So important for parents of teenage girls

Not only has this book given me new insight into what today’s girls are going through, it helped me open the line of communication with my 13 year old daughter about uncomfortable but very important topics. This book is very thorough and Lisa Damour does a fantastic job narrating it. I highly recommend it.
Happy listening!!