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Us

Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

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Written by: Terrence Real
Narrated by: Terrence Real, Bruce Springsteen
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Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and bestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage

“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop

Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.

In his transformative new book Us, Real brilliantly observes how our winner-takes-all culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that go nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living “alone together.” With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that’s based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.

Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin.

*Includes a downloadable PDF of charts and diagrams from the book

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2022 Terrence Real (P)2022 Random House Audio
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What the critics say

“It’s cliche to say Dr. Terry Real’s new book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, changed the way I view every relationship in my life. But it’s true.”—Katie Couric Media

“[An] enveloping and insightful book . . . Real is a natural storyteller, pointed, jovial, and funny. If you’re struggling in your relationship and are open to hard truths, delivered with compassion and zero wasted time, Real is the ticket.”Esquire (Best Wellness Books)

“Love has the power to hurt but it also has the power to heal, and Terry Real shows us how in this revolutionary guide to happy, thriving couplehood. Chock-full of wisdom, research, and innovative teachings, Us is the book every human should read in order to truly understand not just their partners, but themselves.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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I started reading this book so that I could figure out how to be a better partner with my partner. what I realize is that this book directly translates into all aspects of humanity. you can either have a selfish mindset when it comes to everybody else around you or you can choose to grow and work together as a unit. you can apply that to a family unit. a couple in a relationship. a business. a country. The power of the "US" mentality will completely change your perspective.

changed my perspective on humanity as well as my relationship.

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In the audio, Terry talks about the extras to view - so why isn't it provided? Is this a glitch? Please provide the accompanying PDF to go along with the audio - thanks

UPDATE: thanks for adding the PDF
I enjoyed Terry's latest book. He obviously has a great amount of experience and understanding while also exhibiting an openness to address his own possible blind spots. This is admirable.

Very helpful to me in my practice.

where is the "view PDF"

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This is a fantastic book. It helps create a road map to navigate through three states in relationship. When harmony is taken over by discord the book teaches us how to repair and return to harmony. It shows us how to remain calm and listen to an unhappy partner and gives constructive tips on how to speak our truth with generosity and a degree of elegance in those emotionally charged moments. Instead of just airing grievances it teaches us to ask for what we might need to make things better. And it helps us to do it without triggering our partners into defensively hijacking the conversation, keeping us stuck in discord…. It is a compassionate approach to understanding ourselves and our partners….Wow important stuff! Thank you Terry!

Harmony Discord & Repair….. getting past right and wrong….

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Loved this book! Terry is a amazing therapist and even more amazing writer! Highly recommend if you want to do the work to better yourself

Highly recommend! Terry always has so much insight to give

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Terrance real changed my life and relationship. I can honestly say it changed my thinking right away.

love this so much

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As both a couples counsellor and someone who is have relationship issues I have benefitted from this book in so many ways.

At first I found Terry’s tangents into more ecological and cultural perspectives distracting, however Terry masterfully weaves the information into the subject matter giving a depth a breadth that is both appreciable and useful. I also found these periodic shifts provided opportunity for what I had learned previously to settle in and not feel overwhelmed by it all.

I highly recommend this book to anyone and everyone!

Powerfully Insightful! A Must Read For Anyone Looking to Learn How To Grow and Improve ANY and EVERY Relationship

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I learned about myself and my partner. I laughed and I cried. I am an avid reader of personal development and this one tops the list. a MUST read for everyone

brilliant insights into human nature and relationships

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One of THE most relevant, meaningful, insightful books ever read!!! Absolutely brilliant!!!!
Have listened to audio book 3 times...an authentic powerful catalyst for real positive personal change !!!

ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!!!!!

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I enjoyed this audiobook through and through. I learned a lot, and I plan to re-listen shortly to help absorb the material better. Don’t wait, grab this book and give it a listen.

I loved it

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I absolutely love the scenarios the REAL feedback Terry provides as a studying psychotherapist to say I’m obsessed with his work is an understatement

I think my favourite yet!

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