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What My Mother and I Don't Talk About

Written by: Michele Filgate
Narrated by: Michele Filgate,Fajer Al-Kaisi,Roger Casey,Janina Edwards,Emily Ellet,Cynthia Farrell,Soneela Nankani,David Sadzin
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Publisher's Summary

“You will devour these beautifully written - and very important - tales of honesty, pain, and resilience” (Elizabeth Gilbert, New York Times best-selling author of Eat Pray Love and City of Girls) from 15 brilliant writers who explore how what we don’t talk about with our mothers affects us, for better or for worse.

As an undergraduate, Michele Filgate started writing an essay about being abused by her stepfather. It took her more than a decade to realize that she was actually trying to write about how this affected her relationship with her mother. When it was finally published, the essay went viral, shared on social media by Anne Lamott, Rebecca Solnit, and many others. This gave Filgate an idea, and the resulting anthology offers a candid look at our relationships with our mothers.

Leslie Jamison writes about trying to discover who her seemingly perfect mother was before ever becoming a mom. In Cathi Hanauer’s hilarious piece, she finally gets a chance to have a conversation with her mother that isn’t interrupted by her domineering (but lovable) father. André Aciman writes about what it was like to have a deaf mother. Melissa Febos uses mythology as a lens to look at her close-knit relationship with her psychotherapist mother. And Julianna Baggott talks about having a mom who tells her everything.

As Filgate writes, “Our mothers are our first homes, and that’s why we’re always trying to return to them.” There’s relief in acknowledging how what we couldn’t say for so long is a way to heal our relationships with others and, perhaps most important, with ourselves.

Contributions by Cathi Hanauer, Melissa Febos, Alexander Chee, Dylan Landis, Bernice L. McFadden, Julianna Baggott, Lynn Steger Strong, Kiese Laymon, Carmen Maria Machado, André Aciman, Sari Botton, Nayomi Munaweera, Brandon Taylor, and Leslie Jamison.

The complete list of narrators includes: Michele Filgate, Fajer Al-Kaisi, Roger Casey, Janina Edwards, Emily Ellet, Cynthia Farrell, Soneela Nankani, David Sadzin, Keong Sim, and Candace Thaxton.

©2019 Michele Filgate (P)2019 Simon & Schuster

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Amazing lenses for humanity to humanize women

I really love this book. This collection of essays is beautifully written on sheds light on the humanity of motherhood. Each story adds a complex layer of understanding to what it means to be a woman and a mother in a changing & complex society. I would highly recommend anyone looking to expand their knowledge of womanhood to read this.

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  • wonderwoman0414
  • 2021-08-24

Now I’m healing

To understand your pain you must be able to understand others’. While they are not replicas of your story, you will find shattered pieces of yourself in them. For me, I cried intensely within the first 15 minutes. I didn’t come back to these pages for a few weeks. I took baby steps. Now I’m healing.

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  • Jasmin Johnson
  • 2021-06-12

Worthy Read

It's a heavy read, but a healing read. To hear the variety of stories was powerful to me.

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  • Rachel F Bale
  • 2019-08-30

Must read- stunning writing.

This book was captivating, heartfelt and moving. I found myself relating to characters, crying with them, feeling what they felt. I was sucked in completely, and have rewritten my own thoughts on my mother. This book is great for anyone who doesn’t understand their maternal relationship, or needs a new way to define it. Thank you- to all 15 writers. You have helped me understand the notion of maternal love.

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  • cheryl
  • 2020-08-11

A daunting task

Looking into one's life after 66 years can be a dauting task...Thanks for showing me it is possible and maybe!!! required.

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  • 2020-05-04

will probably make you feel grateful

I expected the book to have deep stories with complicated relationships, but oh my lanta... it would have been nice to sprinkle happy/funny/in hindsight tales of a mother daughter relationship. Every story, had a deep dark take. I expected some laughs and tears, it was just tears and "oh mys" I barely finished it.

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  • Heather
  • 2020-04-26

Worth a listen.

Amazing stories! As an audiobook it was sometimes hard to discern who the reader was talking about, but the stories were well developed and filled with emotion. Recommend for anyone with a interesting or difficult relationship with their mother.

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  • PU29
  • 2023-01-04

Wow

Dang! This was nothing like I thought it would be. Not sure where my expectations came from, but this was definitely worth reading.
On that note, this book makes me more aware that I’m far from alone in my childhood trauma. Also, I ponder what I would write if asked what my mother and I don’t talk about. Damn. It’s deep. A good deep. But still deep.

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  • 2022-01-10

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Incredible. I’m amazed by how well and emotion full these essays were. Everyone wrote with such raw honesty fearless of how it would be perceived.

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  • Miss G
  • 2019-09-18

One sided stories

Some of the stories were valid. Some were a bit windy and only from one point of view

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  • Mark My Words
  • 2023-06-27

Insightful

This book presents an insight into various perspectives of the mother/offspring relationship. I can't say it offered any new revelations. It was not as an engaging read as I expected.

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