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Why Are We Yelling?

The Art of Productive Disagreement

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Why Are We Yelling?

Written by: Buster Benson
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 Have you ever walked away from an argument and suddenly thought of all the brilliant things you wish you'd said? Do you avoid certain family members and colleagues because of bitter, festering tension that you can't figure out how to address?

Now, finally, there's a solution: a new framework that frees you from the trap of unproductive conflict and pointless arguing forever.

If the threat of raised voices, emotional outbursts, and public discord makes you want to hide under the conference room table, you're not alone. Conflict, or the fear of it, can be exhausting. But as this powerful book argues, conflict doesn't have to be unpleasant. In fact, properly channeled, conflict can be the most valuable tool we have at our disposal for deepening relationships, solving problems, and coming up with new ideas.

As the mastermind behind some of the highest-performing teams at Amazon, Twitter, and Slack, Buster Benson spent decades facilitating hard conversations in stressful environments. In this book, Buster reveals the psychological underpinnings of awkward, unproductive conflict and the critical habits anyone can learn to avoid it. Armed with a deeper understanding of how arguments, you'll be able to:

  • Remain confident when you're put on the spot
  • Diffuse tense moments with a few strategic questions
  • Facilitate creative solutions even when your team has radically different perspectives

    • Why Are We Yelling will shatter your assumptions about what makes arguments productive. You'll find yourself having fewer repetitive, predictable fights once you're empowered to identify your biases, listen with an open mind, and communicate well.     Communication & Social Skills Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Career
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    This book had set out to tackle something ambitious, and it delivers. Why Are We Yelling breaks down types of disagreements we tend to have (factual, valuable, useful), voices that dominate our thoughts during an argument (power, reason, avoidance, possibility), and the outcomes we seek when we engage (security, growth, connection, enjoyment). It then runs through practical strategies to help us cultivate better outcomes as we approach disagreable topics. Throughout this book are experiments carried out by the author. The stories are relatable and the more productive outcomes are insightful.

    Reading Why Are We Yelling invaluable if you work in a team, get stuck in conflict with people close to you or find yourself pulled into heated debates on the internet.

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    I was expecting more of hearing ways to manoeuvre angry debates or disagreements. exciting ideas and conversational skills. it was more of restating the obvious of basic civilised discussions.

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