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In this episode of the Autonomic Homeostasis Activation Podcast, Tom Pals and Ruth Lorensson continue their exploration of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs through the lens of wellness and trauma-informed wholeness. Focusing on esteem, they unpack what it truly means to “appraise” value—both in ourselves and in others—and how unmet needs and trauma can distort our perception of worth and significance.

Through rich conversation and powerful metaphors—like Tom’s image of humans as uncut diamonds—they reveal how esteem isn’t about hierarchy or status, but about mutual recognition of inherent worth. Together, they examine how physiological, safety, and belonging needs act as catalysts for healthy esteem, and how unmet needs can keep us stuck in cycles of comparison, defensiveness, or exclusion.

Listeners will come away with deeper insight into:

• The roots of esteem as appraisal rather than judgment
• How trauma and unmet needs shape our ability to value ourselves and others
• The difference between worth, significance, and accomplishment
• How to move from sympathetic fight-or-flight into parasympathetic homeostasis
• Practical reflection prompts for fostering self-worth and mutual significance

Join Ruth and Tom as they guide listeners toward restoring homeostasis of esteem, a crucial step in the broader journey toward self-actualization and holistic wellness.

🎧 Listen now and rediscover your worth as an uncut diamond in a world learning to see again.

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In this episode of the Autonomic Homeostasis Activation Podcast, hosts Tom Pals and Ruth Lorensson explore the profound connection between change, homeostasis, and wellness. They unpack why change isn’t something to resist but to embrace—because homeostasis itself is change, the constant dynamic adjustment that keeps us alive and well.

Drawing on neuroscience, Tom explains how the brain perceives change through the amygdala, either as a threat (activating the sympathetic fight-or-flight response) or as an opportunity (activating the parasympathetic rest-recover-digest state). Together, Tom and Ruth explore how our perception of change determines our experience of it—whether we spiral into anxiety and frustration or move toward growth, restoration, and resilience.

Listeners will learn the difference between wanting change and wanting to change, and how cultivating a mindset of beneficial anticipation—seeing change as life-giving—creates space for healing, adaptability, and sustainable wellness.

💡 Key Themes:

• Homeostasis as a living, dynamic process
• The neurobiology of change and emotional regulation
• How perception shapes our stress or peace response
• The power of beneficial anticipation over negative anticipation
• Why embracing change is central to true wellness

✨ “Change is not the enemy of wellness—it’s the evidence of life.”

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In this episode of the Autonomic Homeostasis Activation Podcast, Tom Pals and Ruth Lorensson continue their Fundamentals of Wellness series with a deep dive into the third level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs: love and belonging. Together they explore the universal ache for connection, community, and healing felt across society today and ask an essential question: what kind of love and belonging truly nurtures wellness and mental health?

Drawing a distinction between the “tsunami of stress” and “rational intimacy,” Tom and Ruth unpack how certain relationships, communities, and affiliations may appear loving and inclusive, yet actually perpetuate stress, trauma, insecurity, and disconnection. In contrast, they describe how authentic love and belonging cultivates safety, security, contentment, and mutual growth — the true foundation for self-actualization, resilience, and wholeness.

Listeners will learn how to recognize the signs of false belonging, how to choose pathways that foster genuine wellness, relational health, and homeostasis, and why this choice is central to becoming our truest, healthiest selves.

If you’ve ever wondered whether the spaces you belong to are building you up or holding you back, this episode offers clarity, encouragement, and practical insights for personal growth and sustainable wellness.

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