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How often do you feel guilty?

Guiding us on a guilt trip today is our resident psychologist (and published author) Dr Emily Musgrove.

Differentiating guilt from shame or regret, Dr Emily takes us back to the very beginning to explain the purpose and function of guilt as a pro-social behaviour which your cave-person ancestor probably would have used to keep them in the tribe.

When used wisely, guilt is a useful recognition of information that can alert us when we have gone against our values or dropped our moral standards.

However, as Dr Em explains (and people pleasers would know all too well) guilt can quickly becoming overwhelming, exhausting and make you feel like you’re always letting someone down. In this episode, Dr Em dives into the seemingly never-ending guilt of being a parent, especially a mum, as well as the guilt associated with caring for ageing parents.

Dr Em, you’ve done it again.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wLLJdF1edVE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - https://apple.co/4dckMpy
• Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries? - https://bit.ly/409jO91
• Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7
• Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9
• Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4jPHq9F
• Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB
• Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ

📖Things to read

• Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2
• The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins - https://bit.ly/3SUcvhv
• Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy - https://bit.ly/443BPXE
• Choice Points by Russ Harris and Colleagues - https://bit.ly/4jUZjnw

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au - this week, featuring a reflection from none other than Cate Campbell.

By the time she was 16, Cate Campbell had figured out her social currency: achievement, in the form of gold medals, no less.

Four time Olympian and world record holder Cate joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question ‘How and when have you been dishonest with yourself?’

From telling herself she was ‘fine’ to having a breakdown over a Milo, Cate recounts the intense period of loneliness she experienced during Covid, and the depression she ‘didn’t deserve’ to feel.

This episode emphasises the critical importance of connection for our mental health, and Cate so beautifully articulates the impact of finding love at first sight (friend addition), and navigating a changing relationship with her sister Bronte.

Coming of age in a world where perfection is praised and your failure makes headlines, Cate is so generous in sharing how she had learn to ask for help and to value her mental health like she would her physical.

Cate, you are simply the best.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/40ecuJc

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The Thief of Joy - https://bit.ly/44h52iW

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Do you think of yourself as a creative person? How does being creative make you feel?

Today we welcome into the Academy of Imperfection (reluctant) expert Campbell Walker, better known by his online moniker, Struthless.

Drawing on his hypothesis that creativity is the antithesis of destruction, Struthless discusses how to train yourself in creativity, the 70% rule in completing a creative pursuit, and, thankfully for Hugh, how to recognise and celebrate your creative brain in everyday tasks.

Struthless opens up about the moment he realised drugs had stopped becoming fun, going deeper into his struggles with addiction and how he reframed one of his most shameful moment by asking “how could this be the best thing that has ever happened to me”?

Ryan and Struthless chat about the mental health benefits, and absolute joy, of journalling (just ask anyone who’s bought My Imperfect Life), and how to make sure that the pain doesn’t win.

Figuratively, illustratively and literally, we loved hanging out with you, Struthless.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3TrGI7I

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://bit.ly/4ksJXYL
• How (And Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone - https://bit.ly/41RY15O

📖 Things to read

• Doom and Bloom, by Campbell Walker - https://bit.ly/3HnCQSv
• Your Head Is A Houseboat, by Campbell Walker - https://bit.ly/3SxJUOW
• The Medium is the Message, by Marshall McLuhan - https://bit.ly/3T7tUmP

📺 Things to watch

• Boss Baby - https://bit.ly/4438FJe
• Pingu - https://bit.ly/43V1EsW

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with addiction, the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline 1800 250 015, is a great place to start.

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.