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The Gardener and the Carpenter

What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children
Auteur(s): Alison Gopnik
Narrateur(s): Erin Bennett
Durée: 8 h et 51 min
4.5 out of 5 stars (7 évaluations)

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Caring deeply about our children is part of what makes us human. Yet the thing we call "parenting" is a surprisingly new invention. In the past 30 years, the concept of parenting and the multibillion-dollar industry surrounding it have transformed child care into obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented labor intended to create a particular kind of child and therefore a particular kind of adult.

In The Gardener and the Carpenter, pioneering developmental psychologist and philosopher Alison Gopnik argues that the familiar 21st-century picture of parents and children is profoundly wrong - it's not just based on bad science, it's bad for kids and parents, too. Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own cutting-edge scientific research into how children learn, Gopnik shows that although caring for children is profoundly important, it is not a matter of shaping them to turn out a particular way. Children are designed to be messy and unpredictable, playful and imaginative, and very different both from their parents and from each other. The variability and flexibility of childhood lets them innovate, create, and survive in an unpredictable world. "Parenting" won't make children learn - but caring parents let children learn by creating secure, loving environments.

©2016 Alison Gopnik (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

Ce que les critiques en disent

"Narrator Erin Bennett commendably presents this unique audiobook on raising children. Alison Gopnik, an expert on children's development, lambasts the current style of parenting, which she calls the 'carpenter method' because it relies on an established blueprint (as in making a chair) to produce a successful but predictable child who also excels at test taking. Gopnik prefers the 'gardener approach,' which gives the child love, encouragement, and freedom to play and imagine, which she says results in a more creativity. Bennett's delivery of Gopnik's passionate argument is appealing and easy to understand. She also captures Gopnik's subtle humor and supporting quotes from experts. The moving conclusion comes full circle as it discusses end-of-life commitments that adult children have to their elderly parents." ( AudioFile Magazine)

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Much more than hild psychology

This is by far one the best reads in my life
It is a window on humanity, this is not a guide on how to raise children but rather a window on why we raise children and what does that mean anyway
Not to say this understanding doesn't help but to say this book is about understanding and letting you decide what to do
The early chapter on parenthood was great but the chapters on diagnosing ADHD and children ability to focus was a life saver for me, then finally comes the chapter on digital devices, I literally wanted to stand up, applaud and find the author to give her a thank you hug. Finally I realized and with good reasoning this time that I was not very wrong after all. And no..it is not what you expect bug I won't spoil it.
I honestly think if you are not a parent this book will still give you a lot of value.
Finally the narrator was so good at one point I was almost convinced she was the author! And that is the best thing I can say to any audio book. Bravo

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still waiting for the punch line

Not what I expected at all, Mostly this book was just giving you the research. I kept waiting for it to share insights about the relationships between parents and children, the whole but what does it all mean? Left with my question then answers and a somewhat better understanding of the author identifying as a free love hippy then of how raising my child a certain way affects their development or not. However lots of the research mentioned was interesting and has me thinking about the state of child rearing currently in fashion.

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  • See Reverse
  • 2017-01-18

Stop Parenting and Be a Parent

Would you listen to The Gardener and the Carpenter again? Why?

Yes - the book makes a strong case for being a parent to your children rather than parenting them toward your own specific end. It's definitely a message to hear and appreciate more than once.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The author talks about her experience as a grandmother throughout the book, which is a nice backdrop to the scientific understanding of the parent-child relationship.

What does Erin Bennett bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Erin conveys some of the coy remarks well - I'm not sure they would have stood out as clearly in the text.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I like this book in snippets - listening all in one sitting wouldn't do it justice.

Any additional comments?

Alison Gopnik is quoted so frequently in other books. It was nice to hear her voice directly - she has a wisdom about her work that other authors miss entirely.

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  • Chris
  • 2016-11-19

Great book about modern parenting misconceptions

Really great book that takes you through historical and traditional child rearing ideals to modern day misunderstandings. It was an enlightening read on how childrens' brains develop and how wrong our traditional ideas of this are. It's a very short book but touches on many examples and interesting view points. It had a good flow but not many action points to take away, except that I feel I need to read more about the subject!

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  • Thandi Lamprecht
  • 2016-10-29

Fascinating

Best book in the genre I've "read". Fascinating and entertaining from start to finish. I highly rec

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  • MoonOwl
  • 2016-10-23

Equal parts science and wisdom

The best chapter is the last one, in which Alison Gopnik weaves together the science of child development with philosophy and policy making.

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  • Juanita A. Smith
  • 2019-10-16

Not a fan of this book.

I was required to read this book for work. While there are some thought provoking ideas in this book, I did not agree with a majority of the content (i.e. her stance on evolution) therefore her way at looking at the research provided was unfounded, for me, on that basis. To be frank, I would have stopped reading the book after the first few pages if I could have.

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  • Au global
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  • Mummus
  • 2019-09-22

Not a practical read for implementing

I could not get through this book. There is very little practical takeaway information here. I kept waiting and nothing... Sadly, it was not for me.

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  • Wayne A. Hall
  • 2017-05-11

An important work

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This is the best book on child development I have seen. Much of what is practice today is based on faulty assumptions and this includes the experts who are working from disproved models that are 50 years old.

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  • The Wicked Parson
  • 2017-03-07

Always love Gopnik. This book was right up there.

At some level this book felt so much more personal. I have always loved the author's "reporting" on the latest discoveries. So, coming across a book where she opens up her soul, so to speak, was welcomed & refreshing! it was nice to hear that even a grandparent research scientist is ..... still a grandparent. This was a most enjoyable read.

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  • Brian
  • 2019-03-11

Too much blathering

Bought this one for a road trip, needed something my wife and I could listen to while driving. It was less about raising kids and more about the social and evolutionary development of parents and families (lots of examples about primates). This was not what we were looking for. I don't care why crows care for their young longer than other birds, I want to know how to get my son to stop whacking his sister with toy cars. We probably will not finish this one.

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  • Customer1
  • 2019-06-27

very theoretical

nothing too practical and the topics in each chapter were discussed too long. I did not find myself engaged.