How Trauma-Informed Tech Is Transforming Abuse & Harassment Reporting | Mary Lobson, REES Founder

What if reporting sexual violence, domestic abuse, harassment, or discrimination felt safe, clear, confidential, and survivor-centered?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Mary Lobson, founder of REES (Respect, Educate, Empower Survivors), to explore how trauma-informed technology is reshaping reporting systems across college campuses, sports organizations, live music events, workplaces, and community spaces.

Mary shares her journey from frontline domestic violence advocacy to building a privacy-first, trauma-informed reporting platform trusted across North America. We break down what survivor-centered design really means in practice, including:

✅ Encrypted records even the platform can’t access
✅ Plain-language safety and data practices
✅ Ability to document once and decide later how or when to share
✅ Anonymous reporting with secure two-way communication
✅ Repeat perpetrator identification to help prevent continued harm
✅ Tools that reduce the trauma of retelling while identifying trends, red flags, and campus red-zone risk periods

Mary explains how REES empowers survivors without pressure, protects privacy and due process, and gives institutions clear, actionable insights to stop abuse, prevent retaliation, and build safer culture.

We also explore real-world implementations — from festivals replacing “info@” inboxes, to national sports programs addressing bullying and harassment, to tech companies building safety into workplace culture by design.

If you’re a survivor, advocate, administrator, HR leader, Title IX coordinator, campus safety professional, or anyone committed to ending interpersonal violence, this episode offers:

✨ Trauma-informed reporting strategies
✨ Actionable prevention models
✨ Survivor-support language and best practices
✨ Technology frameworks that protect safety, consent, and agency

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Mary's Links:

https://www.reescommunity.com/

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Some stories don’t just deserve to be heard—they demand change. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, Morgan Scafe joins host Ingrid Dutton to share her harrowing story of child sexual abuse that began at age eight and continued until fifteen. She reveals how a courtroom turned her truth into a test—forcing her to relive trauma while sitting just feet from her abuser.

Together, we examine how statutes of limitations erased most of her abuse from trial and why Morgan wrote Carpenter Road: The Inadmissible Years—a prequel that exposes the grooming process and violent control tactics that adults and schools overlooked. This conversation dives deep into generational trauma, alcohol misuse, and the many missed red flags—plummeting grades, chronic absences, unexplained bruises, and emotional outbursts—that should have triggered mandated reporting.

Morgan offers a firsthand look at what trauma-informed justice should be: options for remote testimony, jury education on memory and stress, and legal teams trained to avoid re-victimization. The throughline is clear—prevention. Teaching “good touch, bad touch” isn’t enough. Children need age-appropriate education on grooming, including how abusers use gifts, secrets, isolation, and trust to gain control.

We also explore practical steps for parents, teachers, and communities to recognize early warning signs and make intervention the norm—not the exception. Morgan’s story is both a warning and a guidepost for how we can do better.

This episode closes with a message every survivor needs to hear: shame must change sides. Healing is possible. Therapy helps. And your voice isn’t just valid—it’s vital.

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Morgan’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/morgan-scafe-1/

https://morganscafe.net/

https://www.facebook.com/carpenterroadscafe

https://www.amazon.com/CARPENTER-ROAD-SENTENCED-MORGAN-SCAFE/dp/B0BW2LXP2N/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3 Dean shares the true story of helping his daughter escape domestic violence during a winter storm. A father’s gut feeling, a knock that wouldn’t stop, and a rescue that changed two lives. Dean walks us through the night he drove to a remote cabin and helped his daughter leave an abusive relationship—and the lessons every parent, partner, and friend should know about supporting someone in danger safely.

We talk about how early charm becomes control, how gaslighting distorts reality, and why leaving takes multiple attempts. Dean explains what helped most: staying calm, refusing to engage the abuser, and meeting disclosure with compassion instead of blame.

In the aftermath came healing from trauma—therapy, medication, rebuilding trust—and an unexpected new purpose. A nurse turned mentor, Dean now helps men who seem successful on the outside but feel stuck inside. Together we explore men’s mental health, defining values, and building a life of meaning.

If you’re seeking insight into domestic violence recovery, family support, or finding purpose after trauma, this episode offers hope and actionable guidance. Subscribe, share, and leave a review to help more people find stories that save lives.

Dean’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/dean-taylor/

https://deantaylorofficial.com/

https://www.instagram.com/deantaylorofficial/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe