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Three years after losing her limb, Victoria marks her "FU anniversary" with a raw, unfiltered conversation about survival, resilience, and finding your voice after trauma. This special edition podcast takes listeners on a deeply personal journey through narcissistic family dynamics and the challenging path of the family "black sheep."

Victoria shares exciting news about her new anthology "Dear Silence You Lost, We Get the Last Word" – a powerful collection of survivor stories from around the world. This international gathering of voices breaks the silence surrounding abuse in all its forms: emotional, physical, verbal, and sexual. With all proceeds funding healing scholarships, the project embodies Victoria's commitment to providing support without financial barriers.

The heart of this episode explores the psychological terrain familiar to many listeners – the impossible dynamics of narcissistic family relationships. Drawing from decades of therapy and her own painful experiences, Victoria articulates how narcissists systematically undermine and isolate the family truth-teller. She vulnerably shares her journey of surviving domestic violence that left her with over 100 surgeries, metal throughout her body, significant hearing loss, and ultimately, amputation.

Despite these challenges, Victoria transformed her trauma into purpose. Alongside her husband, she's created award-winning resources for survivors while building a family based on the unconditional love and support she never received growing up. Her memoirs "Who Kicked First?" and "Nard Nard Who's There?" document her experiences with evidence-based accounts, offering validation for others on similar journeys.

The episode closes with a powerful message for fellow black sheep and scapegoats everywhere: your worth isn't determined by those who can't accept responsibility for their actions. Though healing isn't easy, remembering your inherent value is the first step toward reclaiming your life after narcissistic abuse. If you've ever felt misunderstood, devalued, or silenced within your family, this conversation will resonate deeply and remind you that you're not alone.

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What would you do if you witnessed a violent attack in public? Would you step in to help, or freeze in the moment? This raw, unfiltered conversation begins with Michael and Victoria discussing a disturbing video of a random stabbing at Walmart, questioning why bystanders failed to intervene when they had the power to stop the threat.

The couple doesn't shy away from difficult topics as they share their perspectives on self-defense, situational awareness, and the Good Samaritan Law that protects those who step up in dangerous situations. Their passion for protecting others extends beyond physical safety into the emotional realm, where they've created an academy offering affordable healing resources for survivors of abuse.

Victoria opens up about her experiences with narcissistic family members, detailing the manipulation tactics like silent treatment and blame-shifting that defined these relationships. The painful authenticity in her voice resonates as she describes how narcissists refuse accountability and twist situations to make victims feel responsible for abuse. Michael's supportive presence highlights how healing relationships can develop even after experiencing profound betrayal from those who should have provided safety and love.

The conversation shifts to parenting concerns about today's screen-obsessed youth, the couple's shared joy in their strong family bonds, and Victoria's upcoming medical procedures resulting from past abuse. Their natural banter and occasional humor provide welcome relief from heavy topics while showcasing the genuine connection that defines their relationship and podcast.

Whether you're navigating complex family dynamics, recovering from abuse, or simply interested in authentic conversations about life's challenges, this episode offers validation, perspective, and hope. Subscribe now to join this supportive community where healing is prioritized and real talk is always on the menu.

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When doctors told us to call a priest because our daughter wouldn't make it through the night, we refused to accept that fate. Through dozens of surgeries, kidney failure, and countless medical interventions, we fought alongside Faith as she battled for her life. Today, she's not only thriving but hitting bullseyes at the shooting range during her recent birthday celebrations.

This episode takes you on an emotional journey through Faith's remarkable story – from her joyful birthday weekend complete with bowling adventures and her first-ever experience firing a real gun, to the heart-wrenching reality of family members who couldn't spare even ten seconds to send a birthday text. The contrast becomes even more stark when Victoria reads Faith's powerful letter from their upcoming book "Dear Silence," addressed to grandparents who were conspicuously absent during her life-threatening hospitalization.

"You didn't just miss my fight for life, you forfeited your place in it," writes Faith, now 19, who has endured over 54 surgeries in her young life. Her raw words capture the profound pain of abandonment during life's most critical moments, while highlighting the extraordinary strength she's developed as a result. The conversation expands to explore how true family is defined not by blood, but by who shows up consistently – like the strangers who brought food and offered help during Faith's hospital stay, demonstrating more authentic care than some biological relatives.

Between these powerful reflections, Victoria and Michael share insights about their educational program "Stucco Squad," designed to make learning fun for children with special needs, and offer humorous marriage advice centered on the importance of laughter and authenticity in relationships. The episode serves as both a celebration of Faith's resilience and a profound meditation on what it truly means to be family.

Join our community at acontagioussmile.com, where you can access our Academy resources, including Victoria's new ebook "Puppet Mastering the Manipulator," and learn more about the upcoming release of "Dear Silence" during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

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When we talk about domestic violence, the most damaging question survivors hear is "Why didn't you just leave?" In this raw and powerful episode, Victoria and Michael pull back the curtain on this misconception, sharing stories from their upcoming book project "Dear Silence, You Lost."

Victoria reveals a particularly moving submission from a child who once resented their mother for staying in an abusive relationship, only to later understand that leaving might have meant losing the protection their mother provided. This perspective shift challenges the judgment many survivors face and highlights the impossible choices victims must navigate within broken systems.

Drawing from personal experience, Victoria discusses her own journey of survival, including the physical consequences she still manages daily—hearing loss that will soon require major surgery, living with one arm, and dealing with Complex Regional Pain Syndrome. Yet despite these challenges, she focuses on creating accessible healing resources for others. "Nobody signs up and says 'hey, I want to be that battered wife,'" she reminds listeners. "And so many people are so quick to jump to ridicule instead of saying 'let me be your safe space.'"

The conversation shifts to breaking free from narcissistic relationships, with both hosts sharing their experiences with narcissistic parents who never take accountability for their actions. For those struggling with similar relationships, they offer practical advice on establishing boundaries and reclaiming personal power.

Their Trauma-Led Advocacy Academy—the first of its kind worldwide—offers affordable and free courses covering everything from healing resources to educational content for special needs children. "When you're going through healing, you shouldn't have to decide between paying your rent or mortgage or healing," Victoria explains, highlighting why keeping costs minimal remains their priority despite financial challenges.

Have you experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse? Share your story anonymously for the upcoming book by emailing phoenix@acontagioussmile.com, or explore healing resources at acontagioussmile.com.

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What happens when survivors of domestic violence finally break their silence? In this raw, powerful episode, we unveil "Dear Silence," our groundbreaking international book project launching this October for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This collection will feature letters from survivors who've endured the unimaginable—giving voice to those who were told to stay quiet for far too long.

Behind every "why didn't you just leave?" lies a complex reality that most people fail to understand. We dismantle this harmful question by exploring the impossible choices victims face, particularly mothers who endure abuse to shield their children from harm. When the system fails to recognize the escalating patterns of domestic violence, victims often sacrifice their own safety to protect those they love most.

Victoria shares her own harrowing journey, revealing the permanent physical consequences of her abuse—titanium jaw replacements, near-total hearing loss, and Complex Regional Pain Syndrome requiring spinal implants. These ongoing medical challenges demonstrate how domestic violence creates trauma that survivors must manage decades after escaping their abusers.

Some of the most heartbreaking submissions to "Dear Silence" come from children who witnessed abuse. One child wrote about always sleeping on the edge of the bed so their mother would have somewhere safe to retreat during nighttime violence—a devastating reminder that children see and understand far more than we realize.

We also discuss our Academy, featuring over 120 affordable courses designed to support healing. Victoria's newly launched course on Complex Regional Pain Syndrome offers unique insights from someone living with this challenging condition, continuing our mission to make healing accessible to everyone regardless of financial circumstances.

Join our movement by submitting your story to phoenix@acontagioussmile.com. Whether you're a survivor, witnessed abuse, or lost someone to domestic violence, your voice matters. Together, we're breaking the silence that protects abusers and building a community where survivors are heard, believed, and supported.

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