Sexuality isn’t just behavior—it’s an internal experience. We sit down with researcher-coach Dr. Sam Greenberg to map how Enneagram type and instincts shape desire, cues, assertiveness, and intimacy. Sam outlines the gifts and challenges of each instinct, why instincts often predict sexual patterns more than type, how repressed instincts show up in the bedroom, and what happens in common pairings (like self-pres x sexual). We also hit evolutionary frames, honeymoon-phase myths, “service sex,” stress/context loads, and practical ways couples can reduce friction and increase connection—without shame.

• A working definition of sexual desire vs. sexual behavior
• Why instincts set the framework and type adds nuance
• Gifts/challenges of self-pres, social, and sexual dominance
• How repressed instincts derail empathy, safety, or passion
• Common pairing dynamics (self-pres × sexual, etc.) and best practices
• Why stress, sleep, money, and context change desire—and what to do about it

• IG: @enneagasm (Sexy First Fridays with therapist Lindsay Frazier)
• Web: EnneagramSexpert.com

AS always : all our best material is at : www.aroundthecircle.org

Tammy joins Jeff for a live mistyping session that moves from opera halls to IT dashboards—and into the deep stuff beneath type. A lifelong Michigander with three degrees, a choir section-leader, and a self-described “walking contradiction,” Tammy is blunt and kind, fiercely independent, and devoted to care (for people…and five cats). Together we explore comparison, authenticity, and the tension between being known and staying buttoned-up.

Jeff had a stellar conversation with Enneagram Coach, Spiritual Director and Founder @reflecttheoriginal , Sarina Sherring.

You can connect to her work here: www.reflecttheoriginal.au

For the full interview go to: aroundthecircle.org