The longer you wait to address problems in your relationship, the higher the cost to solve them. Just like ignoring the “check engine” light on your car, avoiding issues in your marriage or dating life only leads to bigger breakdowns later.

I explain how preventative maintenance can save your relationship before it’s too late. By paying attention to early warning signs and being proactive, you not only protect your relationship — you actually increase your peace, energy, trust, intimacy, and long-term satisfaction.

We’ll cover 3 key areas every couple needs to maintain to avoid unnecessary conflict and future regret:

How We Communicate – Avoidant, anxious, or aggressive styles that escalate conflict instead of resolving it.

Where We’re Going – Aligning goals, values, and vision for long-term compatibility, not just short-term chemistry.

How We Got Here – Accountability and taking responsibility for your impact on the relationship.

If you want to build a healthy, lasting relationship, this episode will give you tools to recognize problems early and address them with honesty and maturity. Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, preventative maintenance is the key.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why small problems compound like debt if ignored
• How communication patterns impact long-term intimacy
• The difference between chemistry and compatibility
• Why accountability is non-negotiable for marriage success
• Practical steps for maintaining trust, peace, and emotional connection

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Gottman 4 Horsemen: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

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Are you growing as a person but feeling like you’re growing apart from your partner? In this video, I break down the High-Low Dynamic—what happens when someone with high self-esteem, high energy, and high responsibility (High SER) pairs with someone who is struggling with low self-esteem, low energy, or low responsibility (Low SER).

I’m Taylor Chandler, a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. Using my SER framework, I’ll explain why this dynamic creates tension in relationships, dating, and marriage—and what you can do about it.

We’ll cover:
-Signs you’re in a High-Low relationship
-How the H-L dynamic starts
-Two paths forward

This advice applies whether you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or married. My goal is to help you become the best version of yourself and build the best possible relationship.

If you’re ready to do the work—individually or as a couple—use the link below to apply for a consultation.

👉 Work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/jqyMCsr3
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Responsibility is the “R” in my SER framework — and it’s one of the keys to a better life and higher attraction. In this video, I break down the gigantic miscommunication showing up in almost every couple, tell you the crucial difference between responsibility and accountability, and what makes taking responsibility so hard (especially in relationships). If you want to build better character and a healthier relationship, this one’s for you :)

03:30 Difference between Responsibility and Accountability

05:50 A Couple Problem

10:30 Responsibility and accountability go together

14:54 Who is worth coaching?

15:20 The relationship between responsibility and control

17:04 Which direction am I going?

24:17 Over-burdened with responsibilities

30:17 Enabled, coddled, misinformed

34:40 America the land of the free

37:45 Human nature to find fault

38:52 Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

45:41 It’s really your fault

55:22 What I’m seeing in session

55:55 Society does not delude men about responsibility

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