In this powerful two-part interview, we sit down with Wendy: Dragonfly’s ex-wife, a social worker, domestic violence advocate, and respected member of her community. For eight years, Wendy lived a life with Dragonfly that was built on lies. She was conned into a marriage founded entirely on false pretences, enduring years of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse at the hands of a man she believed she knew.

In Part One, Wendy shares how she first met Dragonfly and how he carefully constructed the persona that drew her in, and she walks us through the slow erosion of trust and safety that followed - and the moments that exposed the truth. We begin comparing our stories and uncovering the strikingly similar tactics he used to manipulate, isolate, and control each of us.

Wendy also bravely revisits one of the darkest points in her life: when Dragonfly’s violence left her hospitalised with 22 stitches after he viciously physically attacked her. It’s a confronting story of survival and truth-telling, but also of strength, integrity, and reclaiming one’s voice.

This episode sheds light on how coercive control operates behind closed doors, even in the lives of educated and capable women, and how abusers use triangulation, charm, and deceit to maintain their power.

A woman who knows Dragonfly offers to go undercover to find out whether he's deep into conning a new victim, or just making up some fictional dates with women. She's confident, curious, and eager to help. But the more she reports back, the murkier things get. By the end, just as things start to spiral, it's Jules' turn to get a message that meant much more than we could have realised.

After the chaotic removal of the Dragonfly from Jules’ premises, we begin reaching out to the others who are caught in his web of lies. Some want to talk. Others disappear. Then we try to warn the woman he’s with now, hoping she’ll see the truth. But some truths only make sense in hindsight.

Our warning is dismissed, and it feels like the story has nowhere left to go. But then it takes a turn we never saw coming.