Roger Federer missed 46% of the shots he took in his career. A decent professional baseball player fails 7 out of every 10 times they're at bat. Michael Jordan missed thousands of shots in his career.

Elite sports - like most of life - involves routine failure. You're not going to eliminate failure even if you tried.

The same is true of relationships. And yet we tell ourselves silly stories about things needing to feel perfect, that if we're arguing or if we have different personalities, we should think about breaking up.

Instead, Matt and Graham explore how to lean in to relationship imperfections, and how they can actually help a relationship thrive and grow.

How do you know if you're with the right person?

How do you know whether you should ask them to marry you?

Charles Darwin, that beacon of rationality, took a very logical approach to his decision to marry his cousin, Emma Wedgwood, making a list of all the pros and cons of getting married.

The results are hilarious. But simply trusting our gut doesn't work either. So what should we do?

Graham and Matt work their way through this tricky ground in today's episode based on this Psychology Today blogpost:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-some-help/202504/is-a-wife-is-better-than-a-dog-the-basis-for-a-good-marriage

Matt and Graham bring the party-pooper vibe to romantic relationships again in this episode with the claim that long-term relationships are no fun, and they're not meant to be.

Most films and songs about love tend to stop at the first kiss, the sprint through the airport. We're crazy in love. Our lovers complete us.

But that stage fades. It’s supposed to. If it didn’t, you’d die of exhaustion or lose your job. What replaces it—if you stick around—is something less exciting but more real.

Where are the stories and narratives about the realities of long-term romance? How do you make love last? Why is it worth the effort? That's the focus for today's episode of Crazy In Love.

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Here is the link to the blogpost discussed in today's episode:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-some-help/202504/long-term-relationships-are-no-fun