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Ever feel like you're drifting through life without clear direction, making decisions based on whatever feels right in the moment? You're not broken—you're just missing the foundation that turns ordinary men into focused leaders who know exactly where they're going and why.

Most men think core values are corporate buzzwords or motivational fluff. They roll their eyes at vision statements and dismiss mission planning as something for boardrooms, not real life. But here's what they don't understand: without these foundational elements, you're essentially driving cross-country without a map, GPS, or destination in mind.

The Three-Part System That Changes Everything

Dr. Dave Jones breaks down why most men struggle with direction and purpose:

• Vision: Your North Star—where you're going and why it matters
• Mission: The specific steps and strategies to get there
• Core Values: The daily decision-making boundaries that keep you on track

Learn why these three elements work together like a perfectly seasoned burger—you can't just focus on one ingredient and expect the whole thing to work.

The Pro Athlete Mindset Applied to Real Life

Drawing from his experience as a professional hockey player and performance coach, Dr. Dave reveals:

• How elite athletes use repetition and commitment to achieve excellence (not perfection)
• Why 10,000 hours of practice creates expertise—and you're closer than you think
• The difference between a growth mindset and fixed mindset in daily decisions
• How Michael Jordan's approach to "learning opportunities" can transform your failures

This conversation provides the practical framework for men who are tired of feeling like they're just going through the motions. From the neuroscience of habit formation to biblical principles of leadership, you'll discover how to create the foundation that turns daily

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Ever finish a major goal and instead of feeling proud, your brain immediately whispers "What's next?" You're not broken—you're wired for more. But if you don't understand how this hunger works, it will eventually work against you.

Most men mistake their relentless drive for a character defect. They think something's wrong with them because they can't just sit back and enjoy their wins. The truth? Your hunger for growth isn't a bug in your system—it's a feature. But without proper understanding, this gift becomes a curse that steals your peace and damages your relationships.

The Neuroscience Behind Never Being Satisfied

• How dopamine rewards the chase more than the finish line
• Why your brain pushes you to the next thing before you can celebrate the last
• The biological reason you feel restless after every achievement

Learn the critical difference between being wired for growth and being trapped in endless striving. Your restlessness isn't a sign of failure—it's proof you're built for forward motion.

When Drive Becomes Destruction

• How performance-based identity turns growth into self-punishment
• Why men with unhealed wounds chase labels instead of goals
• The moment hunger stops being about growth and starts being about validation

Holy Hunger vs. Hollow Hunger

• Holy hunger: Growth rooted in identity, purpose, and calling
• Hollow hunger: Growth rooted in fear, insecurity, and ego
• How to tell if your drive strengthens or steals from your relationships

The Sweet Spot: Content and Hungry

• How contentment doesn't mean complacency—it means your soul can rest while your hands work
• The neuroscience of celebrating wins to build healthier dopamine cycles
• Why a content, hungry man changes the world while a starving man stops living

This episode reveals why your drive for more is actually a gift—when properly understood and directed. From the neuroscience of motivation to the spiritual principles of contentment, you'll discover how to stay hungry while remaining grounded.

Your hunger isn't the enemy. It just needs to know who's in charge. Stop running from your ambition and start leading it toward the life you were meant to build.

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In this Thanksgiving-week episode, Brent dives deep into one of the most common — and least talked about — struggles men face: feeling emotionally numb even when life is objectively good. Drawing from neuroscience, scripture, Stoic philosophy, and practical daily rhythms, he shows men how to turn gratitude from a concept into a neurological trigger that reopens the heart.

If you’ve ever found yourself wanting to feel grateful but unable to access the emotion… this episode will change your week.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why chronic stress shuts down the brain’s gratitude circuits
• How scripture validates emotional exhaustion (not shames it)
• The Stoic discipline that rewires your perspective
• How to practice gratitude even when you don’t feel it
• A 3-minute neuroscience-based gratitude activation
• How to reconnect with your wife and kids through spoken gratitude
• How to show up to Thanksgiving present, not numb

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In this critical episode of the Driven 2 Thrive Broadcast, Brent sits down with Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, certified DV advocate, and one of the leading voices helping parents survive high-conflict divorce, coercive control, and parental alienation.

Lisa’s own case became legal precedent and her testimony helped pass Jennifer’s Law. Today she’s giving men a roadmap through the chaos — practical, tactical, and emotionally grounded.

🎯 What You’ll Learn

• The #1 mistake dads make that damages their case — and how to avoid it
• Exactly how to talk to your child when they repeat your ex’s poisonous messages
• Why defending yourself directly doesn’t work (and what to do instead)
• The 5 things to start doing immediately when alienation starts
• The 5 behaviors to avoid that courts use against you

✨ Why Listen?

Because one day of doing the wrong thing can harm your case —

…but one day of doing the right thing can change everything.

If you’re a father navigating alienation, or you know one who is suffering in silence, this episode may be the most important hour you invest this year.

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Ever feel like you're living with a roommate instead of a romantic partner? You love each other, but that magnetic pull has faded into something that feels more like a business partnership than a marriage. The spark didn't die dramatically—it just quietly slipped away while you were busy paying bills and raising kids.

The Problem with One-Dimensional Love

In English, we flatten everything into one word: love. I love my wife, I love my truck, I love tacos. But how can you love tacos the way you love your wife? Ancient languages understood something we've forgotten—there are actually six distinct types of love that build an unshakable marriage.

When one goes missing, your relationship feels it. When all six are present, your marriage becomes a force that heals, inspires, and endures.

The Six Loves That Transform Marriage

Discover the Hebrew framework that reveals why some marriages thrive while others merely survive:

• • Hesed - Unwavering commitment
• • Dabaq - Resilient love
• • Luo - Forgiving love
• • Yada - Intimate connection
• • Agape - Selfless service
• • Euangelion - Missional love

Why Your Brain Craves This Structure

Learn the neuroscience behind each type of love:

• • How consistent presence builds safety in your partner's nervous system
• • Why acts of service literally activate your brain's reward center
• • The chemical process that happens when you choose forgiveness over resentment
• • How vulnerability releases oxytocin and creates unbreakable bonds

The 30-Day Challenge That Changes Everything

Are you ready to stop being roommates and start being partners in purpose?

Your marriage doesn't need more romance. It needs rhythm. It doesn't need a spark—it needs structure. And the truth is, love was never meant to be one-dimensional.

Tune in to discover why love isn't a feeling—it's a framework. Build it right, and you'll carry it for a lifetime.

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Ever feel like you're caught in the middle of history with no clear purpose or direction? You're not alone. In this eye-opening conversation with Kirk Kappelhoff, we explore why modern men are facing an unprecedented crisis of identity and what you can do about it.

Drawing from the iconic Fight Club quote about being "middle children of history," Kirk breaks down the stark reality: men today are declining across virtually every measurable factor compared to previous generations. But this isn't just another doom-and-gloom discussion—it's a roadmap to reclaiming your potential.

The Battle in Your Brain

Discover why you know what you should do but struggle to do it:

• How your 350-million-year-old amygdala hijacks your 200,000-year-old prefrontal cortex
• Why video game time has doubled for men (and is set to double again)
• The neuroscience behind why delayed gratification feels impossible in our dopamine-driven world

The Harsh Reality: Top 10% vs. Bottom 90%

Kirk reveals shocking statistics that will change how you view modern masculinity:

• Only 15% of men can bench press 225 pounds (compared to previous generations)
• 15% of men report having no close friends (up from 3% in 1985)
• One in three men haven't had sex in the last 12 months
• 35% of men now live with their parents—more than those living with partners

But here's the twist: while the bottom 90% of men have never had it worse, the top 10% have never been more successful.

The Eight-Challenge Framework

Learn Kirk's comprehensive approach to male development:

• Four internal challenges: Mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual
• Four external challenges: Financial, vocational, social, and relational
• Why focusing on just one area (like wealth or fitness) leads to hollow achievement

From Gaming Addiction to Purpose

Both Kirk and I share our personal battles with video game addiction and how we broke free:

• Why virtual achievements feel more rewarding than real-world progress
• The difference between hobbies and side hustles (and why men have forgotten how to play)
• How to reclaim your time and redirect it toward meaningful growth

Systems Over Goals: Your Perfect Day Blueprint

Kirk shares his game-changing approach to personal development:

• How to design your "perfect day" and scale it to a "perfect week"
• Why someone who reads just 5 pages daily finishes 8 books per year
• The power of morning routines when your willpower is strongest
• How to measure the unmeasurable and gamify your growth

Are you ready to stop being a middle child of history and start building the life you were meant to live?

Whether you're in the bottom 90% looking to climb or the top 10% seeking to give back, this episode offers the blueprint for maximizing your potential across all areas of life.

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Time Stamps

• 00:00:00 - The Crisis of Modern Masculinity: Fight Club's Timeless Message
• 00:17:05 - Eight Challenges Every Man Faces: Internal and External Struggles
• 00:43:49 - The Loneliness Epidemic: Men's Friendship Crisis Explained

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What scares the successful man more than any horror movie? It's not the chainsaw-wielding maniac or the shadow in the corner. It's the monsters hiding in his own head – the fears that steal confidence, drain clarity, and keep you from stepping into your full potential.

In this Halloween special episode, I pull back the mask on five terrifying fears that haunt high-achieving men, using classic slasher villains as metaphors for the real demons we face. This isn't your typical self-help episode – it's a deep dive into the neuroscience of fear and the practical tools to conquer what's really holding you back.

When Success Becomes Your Nightmare

• Freddy Krueger represents the fear of failure that sneaks in when you finally relax
• Your amygdala can't tell the difference between business risk and jumping into a shark tank

The Masks We Wear: From Imposter to Irrelevance

Learn how to identify and overcome:

• Ghostface and imposter syndrome – why your brain replays your greatest hits and failures on repeat
• Michael Myers and the fear of losing relevance – what happens when the applause fades and the phone stops ringing

Starting Over and Opening Up

Uncover the truth about:

• Pennywise and the fear of rebuilding – why your brain believes starting fresh is ego death
• Leatherface and emotional vulnerability – the real reason men armor up and keep loved ones at arm's length

The Ultimate Monster: Living Without Purpose

Explore:

• Jason Voorhees and the fear of meaninglessness – trapped in the same successful but hollow loop
• Why your dopamine reward pathway becomes desensitized to achievement

Are you ready to stop letting fear write your story?

Each monster comes with practical challenges and tools drawn from neuroscience, Stoic philosophy, and biblical wisdom. From the Intentional Microfail Challenge to the 3% Rule for emotional intimacy, you'll get actionable strategies to rewire your fear responses.

This episode reveals why courage isn't the absence of fear – it's the decision to act despite it. Plus, discover the weekly purpose audit that can help you break free from the cycle of hollow achievement and step into true significance.

Stop dressing up your fears with business bravado. It's time to name the monsters, take off the mask, and get back to your mission.

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Ever wonder what sets apart the John Wicks, James Bonds, and Jocko Willink's of the world from the average man? It's not just their fictional exploits or real-world accomplishments – it's a set of core traits that form the bedrock of exceptional manhood.

In this eye-opening episode, I break down the 10 essential qualities that turn ordinary men into extraordinary leaders, warriors, and visionaries. But this isn't just another list of virtues – it's a practical blueprint for rewiring your brain and reshaping your life.

The Foundation of Greatness: Purpose and Control

Discover why:

• Clarity of purpose is the root of all exceptional achievement
• Emotional mastery isn't about suppressing feelings, but choosing how you act
• Pain isn't a punishment, but a process that forges resilience

From Code to Competence: Building Unshakeable Character

Learn how to:

• Develop a personal code that guides your decisions under pressure
• Transform confidence through genuine competence in key areas of your life
• Cultivate a presence that influences others without saying a word

The Power of Connection and Courage

Uncover the truth about:

• Why "lone wolf" mentality is a myth, and how brotherhood multiplies your strength
• The neuroscience behind sacrifice and why it's essential for true fulfillment
• How courage isn't the absence of fear, but the decision to act despite it

Are you ready to stop drifting and start building a life of purpose and impact?

This isn't just theory – each trait comes with a practical challenge to implement starting today. Plus, I share personal stories and insights from both legendary figures and everyday heroes to illustrate these principles in action.

Tune in to learn why self-control is the ultimate key to freedom, and how mastering these 10 traits can transform you from living to thriving.

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Time Stamps

00:00:01 - Clarity of Purpose: The Foundation of Exceptional Manhood

00:09:45 - Resilience Through Pain: Transforming Suffering into Strength

00:18:15 - Competence: The Foundation of True Confidence

00:26:45 - Sacrificial Willingness: The Measure of a Man

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