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Growth hurts before it heals. In today’s episode, we break down the hidden expectations that quietly sabotage healing and why real growth rarely feels comfortable. Together, we explore what high-quality therapy actually looks like, the mindset shift that changes everything, and why avoiding discomfort keeps us stuck in the same cycles. If we’ve ever wondered why progress feels slow, why sessions feel heavy, or why we pull back when things get hard, this episode brings truth, clarity, and a new standard for what real healing means.

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#341 | Are You Wearing Your Trauma Like a Badge of Honor? - https://apple.co/3WVZF4t
#448 | What REAL Validation Looks Like - https://apple.co/4hECPHQ

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Show notes:
(3:51) The hidden red flag
(5:59) The myth that therapy should feel good
(8:38) Why chasing comfort keeps you stuck
(11:11) How others influence your healing
(15:10) We don’t go to therapy to feel good
(18:38) Comfort is ruining your life
(20:25) Real growth means discomfort
(23:46) The evolved therapy standard
(28:08) Questions to ask your therapist
(30:32) Why the basics aren’t enough
(32:26) Outro

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What if the person you love is also the one breaking you? In this awakening episode, we shatter the silence around trauma bonds and why so many mistake chaos for chemistry. Together, we expose the hidden patterns that make you stay, the brain wiring that keeps you hooked, and the truth that finally sets you free. No sugarcoating. Just clarity, healing, and real love. Listen now, and remember what peace actually feels like.

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#360 | The REAL Reason Why We Self-Sabotage - https://apple.co/43lcRUO
#438 | Understanding Trauma Responses You Mistake for Personality - https://apple.co/438qTIF

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
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Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
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Show notes:
(2:02) The five components Emilia and Bianca cover
(5:31) Why misinformation keeps people stuck
(8:12) How language helps you heal
(10:09) What separates trauma bonds from abuse
(14:45) The infinity cycle of mutual harm
(17:14) How childhood violence wires adult love
(19:09) Derek thanks Emilia and Bianca for his phenomenal experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures team.
(24:37) When your brain gets hooked like a drug
(30:27) Real-world examples of financial and emotional control
(36:58) Outro

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In today’s episode of Evolve Ventures, we open up about the truth behind toxic relationships, why we stay longer than we should, and how guilt can actually become one of your greatest teachers. Together, we peel back the layers of shame, scarcity, and self-blame to show how transformation begins when you finally stop running from yourself. This isn’t just our story, it’s all of ours. Listen now and learn how to turn guilt into growth.

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#405 | How Parents Emotionally Trap You (Without Realizing It) - https://apple.co/4nN2xvo
#449 | How to Know If a Relationship is Safe - https://apple.co/3JQxnVQ

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
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Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/
Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1

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Show notes:
(2:27) Bianca’s story of a toxic relationship
(6:10) Why do we stay longer than we should
(12:26) The stories we tell ourselves to justify staying
(17:21) How scarcity and fear keep us trapped
(26:12) First steps to heal from guilt and shame
(32:10) Reframing the past to build strength
(34:25) Rediscovering yourself after a toxic relationship
(36:10) Outro

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Drive change through leadership, not title. In this bold episode, we get honest about the illusion of “psychological safety” and why so many teams talk about it but don’t live it. Together, we break down what true safety looks like, how to lead yourself when your environment feels toxic, and why real growth starts long before your boss catches on. This one’s for every quiet leader ready to stop waiting for permission and start setting the tone. We’re not here to fix the system. We’re here to rewrite it. Press play and lead from the inside out.

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#448 | What REAL Validation Looks Like - https://apple.co/4hECPHQ
#435 | The Hidden Signs You're Burnt Out (and Don't Know It Yet) - https://apple.co/3LjFaw1

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794
Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/
Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1

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Show notes:
(3:07) Simple definition and real example
(6:56) The “fail forward” mindset explained
(9:51) Red flags of unsafe leadership
(11:52) Eddie shares his uplifting and empowering experience with the Evolve Ventures Society.
(13:22) Why nervous system regulation matters at work
(15:57) The truth about internal vs. external control
(18:12) Three keys to leading in unsafe spaces
(20:18) What real self-leadership looks like
(22:34) Outro

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Ever felt that instant spark with someone, only to realize later your body knew better? In today’s episode, we talk about what real safety feels like in relationships and why so many of us confuse excitement for connection. Together, we break down the cues your nervous system has been trying to send, the childhood wiring that shapes your boundaries, and how to tell the difference between feeling seen and being stuck. This one’s equal parts truth, laughter, and gentle reality check. Hit play before your intuition rolls its eyes and says, “Told you so.”

Episode Resource:
Evolve Safe Relationship Assessment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HBjn1a1QEFQWSYLtFmSdwNDHMb6ULYkf/view?usp=drive_link

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#438 | Understanding Trauma Responses You Mistake for Personality - https://apple.co/438qTIF
#439 | How to Tell if You're in a "Situationship" That's Damaging You - https://apple.co/4qAJwyH

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
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Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/
Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1

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Show notes:
(2:20) The role of group coaching
(5:20) Defining safety and regulation
(8:51) Balancing authenticity and attraction
(14:50) The science of safety and connection
(17:44) Childhood conditioning and consent
(24:32) How to stop overriding danger signals
(29:47) Steps when a relationship feels unsafe
(33:45) The power of repair and maturity
(35:49) Learning safety as a lifelong skill
(36:28) Outro

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In this powerful episode of Evolve Ventures, we open up about what real validation looks and feels like. Together, we break down the moments when connection breaks, why it happens, and how to repair it using six practical steps you can start practicing today. From emotional regulation to genuine care, we share how learning to validate yourself and others can completely transform your relationships, confidence, and peace of mind. This isn’t just theory, it’s real, relatable, and raw. If you’ve ever wished someone could finally understand you, this episode will show you how to make that possible.

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#406 | How & When to Tell People to F**k Off - https://apple.co/3X19fms
#443 | The "Right" Way to Self-Talk - https://apple.co/47u93RI

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794
Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/
Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1

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Show notes:
(2:21) The birthday role-play that says it all
(8:15) How validation begins within
(13:14) Childhood wounds and unmet needs
(22:11) The six steps to real validation
(27:24) Alex shares his experience and the incredible progress he has made under the coaching of both Emilia and Bianca.
(30:40) Emotional maturity Vs. Defensiveness
(38:31) Genuine care and relationship repair
(44:25) Self-validation before asking others
(48:42) Outro

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Master the rhythm, not the race. In today’s episode, we pull back the curtain on the dark side of hustle, discipline, and showing up no matter what. From shame-driven routines to the hidden cost of overperformance, we’re breaking down what real sustainability looks like when your capacity changes day to day. It’s raw, honest, and probably not the “motivation” talk you’re used to hearing. This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what matters. Hit play and learn how to build consistency that fuels you instead of breaks you.

Book Suggestions:
Grit by Angela Duckworth - https://amzn.to/4o6xeMX
Atomic Habits by James Clear - https://amzn.to/42ZojVj
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy - https://amzn.to/4oda5bU
Succeed by Heidi Grant Halvorson - https://amzn.to/47FF1eS
Mindset by Carol Dweck - https://amzn.to/3L11daG
The Art of Impossible by Steven Kotler - https://amzn.to/4noLSy8
Stealing Fire by Steven Kotler - https://amzn.to/4nIfMO5

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#411 | Why Most People Fail Long-Term—And How to Win - https://apple.co/4hzFToW
#429 | How NOT to Feel Like a Mess About Yourself - https://apple.co/47oQJcp

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
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Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/
Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1

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Show notes:
(3:14) Helpful Vs. Harmful consistency
(6:45) Showing up at your capacity
(9:27) Why direction and goals matter
(15:16) The Green-Yellow-Red Safety Framework
(23:20) The shame-based consistency loop
(29:28) Sustainability over hustle
(36:42) Healing through self-awareness
(53:37) Books that changed everything
(1:00:13) Outro

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What’s on your skin reveals what’s within. In this eye-opening episode, we uncover the surprising psychology behind body art. How trauma, identity, and the need for control can all shape what we choose to put on our skin. Together, we look at new research, share personal stories, and challenge the idea that self-expression is always conscious. This conversation will make you question not just what you wear on your body, but why. We’re not here to judge, we’re here to awaken. Hit play and see what your body art might be saying about you.

Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today’s conversation:
#433 | Why You Need to Understand Your Trauma Imprint - https://apple.co/48IMdIb
#415 | Are You Ignoring the Dope Dress Principle (and Sabotaging Yourself)? - https://apple.co/4qoYPdI

Evolve Together Experiences:
🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - “Breaking Free From Social Pressures” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registration

📽️ Insightful films, meaningful growth. Join our “Evolve Movie Club” - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

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Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)
Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794
Emilia’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/
Emilia’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemilia
Bianca’s IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/
Bianca’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1

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Show notes:
(3:40) Short-term choices, long-term impact
(6:43) Study linking tattoos and trauma
(10:48) Bianca’s story: Rebellion and regret
(12:27) Kayleigh talks about the supportive and caring environment within the Evolve Ventures team.
(14:00) Healing through self-awareness
(18:13) How predators perceive body art
(20:47) Conscious Vs. Unconscious decisions
(21:36) Outro

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