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Welcome to Episode 2 of my book review series! (originally recorded in July)

Today I review Chapter 2 of You Are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz: The Development and Power of Exiles. There is SO much depth in this chapter. Join me as I dive in to explain exiles with examples from the book as well as real life.

Grab a pen and paper because there is a LOT of powerful info in this episode!

This episode describes how our exiled parts can be activated within our intimate relationships and how they develop.

A little about exiles:

Exiles are our most vulnerable and sensitive parts. They are created when we learn that being vulnerable isn't safe- these childlike parts get locked away inside and they become exiles of our psyche. This is based on how caretakers and later, peers, respond to our sensitivity

Exiled parts are burdened by beliefs and emotions, such as “I’m not good enough, I’m worthless, I’m unloveable.” Protector parts want to keep these locked away so we don’t become overwhelmed by this pain.

Buried beneath our visible (protective) behavior in relationships such as how we respond to or start conflict, is an exiled part.

Questions to consider:

1-How did your family of origin / caretakers react to your vulnerability or sensitivity; AND how did their reactions affect the way you learned to relate to those parts of you?

2-Apply this same question to PEERS or PARTNERs

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Welcome to the first episode of book review series! (recorded in July)

This first week I am reviewing the Introduction & Chapter 1 of You are the One You've been Waiting For by Dr. Richard Schwartz. This book will change everything you thought you new about romantic relationships!

In this episode I cover:

Brief overview of the concepts in Internal Family Systems (IFS)

-protectors, exiles & Self

The 3 projects we take in on in intimate relatioships

The importance of the Self

Cultural & Gender implications that impact parts and expectations of intimate relationships

Reflection Questions:

1- What parts of me show up most in my intimate relationship?- do protectors like criticism, withdrawal, caretaking, people pleasing or control show up?

2-When do I feel most connected to my Self:

(calm, curious, connected, compassion, clarity, courage, confidence, creativity)

3- Do I carry the expectation that my parter or future partner will "fix, compete or rescue me."

4-What does it feel like to imagine that my core Self is always present even if hidden?

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

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How do the wounds from our past shape our present relationships? In this compelling conversation with Elaine Evans, EMDR-certified therapist and owner of Third Place Therapy, we explore the invisible threads connecting childhood experiences to adult relationship patterns.

Elaine masterfully breaks down how trauma lives in our bodies long after the original experiences have passed. She explains trauma as "anything that is too much too soon, too much for too long, or too little for too long" – a definition that honors the unique way each person's nervous system responds to life events. Through vivid examples and compassionate insights, she illuminates how these early wounds create the lens through which we view our partners' actions today.

The discussion takes a fascinating turn as we explore attachment styles and the magnetic attraction between anxious and avoidant types – that classic dynamic portrayed in countless romantic movies. Elaine challenges the stigma around "emotionally unavailable" partners, reframing avoidant attachment as a brilliant survival strategy rather than a character flaw. This perspective shift alone could transform how many listeners understand their relationship challenges.

What truly sets this conversation apart is Elaine's emphasis that healing doesn't mean "fixing" ourselves. "Often the belief that I'm broken and need fixing is the problem," she explains. Her approach invites us to see that while our situations may have been broken, we remained whole at our core – worthy of love and connection.

Whether you're struggling to understand persistent relationship patterns, curious about how your past influences your present, or simply wanting deeper connection with yourself and others, this episode offers practical wisdom and healing perspectives.

Ready to transform your relationship with yourself and others? This conversation is your starting point!

Connect with Elaine:

Third Place Therapy Website

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Self Paced Course: Heal Your Trauma to Improve Your Relationships

Free e-book: Heal Your Trauma to Improve Your Relationships

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

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This episode has the MOST downloads of any episode so far.

Emotional maturity isn’t about having your emotions all figured out—it’s about understanding them and choosing how to respond, instead of just reacting. In this episode, we’re digging into what emotional maturity actually means, why it’s so important for your relationships, and how to start showing up as a more emotionally mature version of yourself. From recognizing emotional triggers to handling tough conversations, this one’s all about giving you the tools to feel and respond in ways that actually move you forward.

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

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Today I chat about the 4 basic things that impact our emotional capacity, and one may surprise you!

Don't forget to get your podcast companion PDF to dive a little deeper into reflection based on this episode! Linked below

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

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Its been a long time... I shouldn't have left you..without a dope podcast to step to

(please tell me you know the song I am referencing)

anyway...I am kicking off this season with a series for couples and the 3 most difficult conversations to have with your partner. Can you guess?

1- How you feel

2-Finances

3- Sex

In the next 3 episodes, I will go into detail about each of these challenging conversations and share tips on how to be more confident when having them.

https://www.innerbloomtherapyaz.com/therapy-podcast

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

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Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

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Today I chat about the different ways we can respond to having the “feelings” convo in relationships.

How you respond to/express warm and fuzzies vs how you respond to/express concerns

Disclaimer: Although I am a licensed therapist, the information in this podcast is not therapy and not intended to replace mental health counseling.

If you are seeking therapy services in AZ and would like a free consultation fill out this form!

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