We have a fun one for you! Comedian Alec Flynn joins us to talk about The Performative Male (Are they a red flag? Is there a spectrum? How do you spot the “bad ones”?) as well as Black Cat Boyfriends vs. Golden Retriever Boyfriends. We also break down an email from a male listener about why he’s having trouble dating and offer advice for how to build confidence, and we discuss the notion that men have disappeared from the social and/or dating scenes and why. Other topics include: Leg tattoos, conspiracy theories about gambling, and panda diplomacy (we learned something new). Before Alec joins us, we’re talking about green flags in guys – everything from how they treat animals to drinking habits to what kind of music they like. Enjoy!

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Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about:

The best merch at the airport

A confusing celeb breakup on social media

Keke Palmer and Sean Evans smooch on Hot Ones

Emmy highlights (and conspiracy theory)

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The current political climate

Headlines: Coachella lineup, Taylor Frankie Paul as the new Bachelorette, Taylor Swift incognito at the Eagles/Chiefs game, Charlie Sheen doc

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We’ve all heard of fight, flight, and freeze, but what about the fourth F of trauma responses? It’s called fawning and we have Dr. Ingrid Clayon join us to discuss what it looks like (leaning in even when you’re uncomfortable, needing to please), why we fawn in childhood, relationships, the workplace, etc., and how to break these patterns. We discuss how fawning compares and contrasts to people pleasing, and how fawners have trouble finding healthy relationships, saying no, recognizing their own anxiety, and being honest in therapy. And Ingrid offers advice for getting curious about the trauma responses that could be holding you back, recognizing and not sabotaging healthy partners, and speaking up when you don’t like something. Before Ingrid joins us, we have a SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT, Ashley gives a family/health update, and Rayna is making new friends. Enjoy!

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