Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful.

I walk through how shame forms, what the “shame loop” looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others.

Key Takeaways:

• Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it’s a lie.
• Recognizing the “shame loop” is the first step out of it.
• Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame’s grip.
• Healing begins when we stop proving shame right.

If you’re ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/.

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In this episode, I’m talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven’t arrived yet, or when we know what’s true but acting on it feels terrifying, our nervous systems crave safety and control. But the in-between isn’t a punishment — it’s a teacher.

I open up about my own discomfort with waiting and how I’ve learned to anchor into safety inside myself instead of rushing for external clarity. You’ll learn why slowing your timeline, grounding into your body, and naming what’s true right now can shift the way you experience uncertainty.

The in-between may feel shaky, but it’s also where growth and truth emerge. You’re not behind. You’re exactly where you need to be.

In this episode, I share:

• How to stop making uncertainty mean something’s wrong with you
• Simple tools to ground yourself in the present moment
• Why waiting doesn’t mean nothing is happening
• A compassionate perspective on in-between seasons

If you’re tired of spinning in “not knowing,” I’d love to help you walk through it with strength and support. Apply to work with me and let’s do this together. https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite? In this episode, I explore the power of vulnerability and surrender—two qualities that may feel impossible after infidelity, yet are essential for real transformation.

I share how surrender isn’t submission—it’s the courageous act of dropping the fight with reality so you can finally see things clearly and choose from strength. Vulnerability, meanwhile, is about daring to show up fully, to feel your feelings, and to trust yourself again—even when there are no guarantees.

You’ll learn how to recognize your armor, soften it, and reconnect with your heart so you can reclaim your authority over your healing and your future.

Takeaways:

• The difference between surrender and submission
• Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness
• How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal
• Practical steps to release resistance and lean into healing

Ready to go deeper? Apply to join my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program and start your healing today at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles