In this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We explore the myths surrounding infidelity, the importance of facing one's pain, and the necessity of mutual understanding in the healing process.

Key Takeaways:

• Betrayed partners often feel worse while the betrayer appears unscathed.
• Pain avoidance leads to deeper issues later on.
• Indicators of healing include facing pain honestly and openly.
• Mutual understanding of pain is crucial for healing.
• Compassion does not mean excusing harmful behavior.
• Healing requires acknowledging grief and loss.
• Both partners must confront their own pain for true healing.
• Real change involves recognizing the impact of one's actions.
• Healing is a choice that requires active participation.
• Understanding each other's pain can liberate both partners.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode we discuss the pervasive issue of avoidance in relationships. We explore how avoidance manifests as a lack of communication and emotional engagement, leading to disconnection and mistrust. We look at the costs of avoidance, the importance of setting real boundaries, and the detrimental effects of cancel culture on personal growth and relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Avoidance is a habit that keeps us stuck.
• Hard conversations are essential for growth and intimacy.
• Real boundaries require clarity and courage.
• Cancel culture promotes disconnection instead of dialogue.
• Avoidance can lead to emotional numbness and self-abandonment.
• We must face our discomfort to heal effectively.
• Avoidance often masquerades as self-protection.
• Engaging in difficult conversations fosters trust and connection.
• Understanding triggers can lead to personal growth.
• We all have moments of avoidance; it's part of being human.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this powerful episode, we welcome Alysha Lee, who shares her intense journey of leaving an abusive relationship. Alysha opens up about her experiences, the challenges she faced, and how she ultimately reclaimed her life. This episode is a beacon of hope for those who may find themselves in similar situations, offering insights into healing and the courage to seek a better future.

Key Takeaways:

• Alysha's early experiences and the red flags she overlooked.
• The emotional and spiritual manipulation she endured.
• The pivotal moment when Alysha decided to break free.
• The healing process and the role of therapy in her recovery.
• Alysha's journey to writing her memoir and helping others.

About Alysha

Alysha currently lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado, with her husband and three daughters. She hopes readers who have experienced domestic abuse or similar trauma will be inspired by her story to share their stories and find the support and healing they need.

• Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Everything-I-Might-Have-Missed/dp/B0DSTD4GWY/
• Book on Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/everything-i-might-have-missed-alysha-tatiana-lee/1146710795
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roses.and.reading/

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, I explore the concept of being 'all in' on a relationship and talk about the importance of commitment, understanding deal breakers, and establishing rules of engagement. I highlight the significance of truth-telling, emotional maturity, and personal accountability in fostering a healthy relationship.

Key Takeaways:

• Being all in means commitment with your eyes wide open.
• It's important to know your deal breakers in a relationship.
• Rules of engagement help protect both partners during conflicts.
• Truth telling is an act of love and should be practiced.
• You are responsible for your own emotional maturity and growth.
• Being a lighthouse means guiding your partner without carrying their burdens.
• Repairing relationships involves recognizing the impact of your actions.
• Shared growth is essential for a thriving relationship.
• You cannot control your partner's actions, only your own.
• Choosing yourself is crucial in the journey of healing.

More from me:

• June Virtual Retreat: All In with Andrea Giles: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/7u3FE2aL/checkout
• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we'll discuss the concept of relational bypassing, a pattern where individuals avoid emotional pain in relationships, particularly after infidelity. This behavior can hinder intimacy and healing, so there is a real importance of emotional presence and truth in rebuilding the trust.

Key Takeaways:

• Relational bypassing can kill intimacy in relationships.
• Fixing without hearing leads to disconnection.
• Emotional shortcutting delays healing.
• What we resist stays stuck; what we feel can move.
• Both partners in infidelity need to process their emotions.
• Avoidance strategies prevent real connection.
• Emotional presence is crucial for rebuilding trust.
• Truth must come from a real place for healing.
• Controlling the narrative can be a form of bypassing.
• Choosing connection over comfort fosters intimacy.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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What does it mean to be "all in" on yourself, especially in the context of healing from infidelity? We'll talk about the importance of self-commitment and internal stability before you can fully engage in relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Going all in means committing to yourself first.
• You cannot be all in on a relationship without being all in on yourself.
• Internal stability is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Overriding your feelings leads to losing your peace.
• Being all in does not mean over-functioning for others.
• Recognizing when you're half in and half out is important.
• Your healing should not depend on someone else's actions.
• Building a sustainable foundation takes time and effort.
• Choosing yourself changes everything in your life.
• The upcoming virtual retreat will help you create your all-in plan.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, Majo Torreli, a somatic coach who helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate self-love, shares her personal journey of healing from emotionally abusive relationships and the transformative power of somatic coaching.

Key Takeaways:

• Majo Torreli is a somatic coach helping women heal from unhealthy relationship patterns.
• Her personal journey involved overcoming emotionally abusive relationships.
• Somatic coaching helped her achieve what years of therapy could not.
• Feeling safe in one's body is crucial for emotional healing.
• Intellectual understanding of self-worth is different from experiencing it emotionally.
• Forgiveness requires processing and releasing trapped energy.
• Women often need to create safety within themselves after betrayal.
• Trusting intuition takes time and requires emotional digestion.
• Taking accountability for relationship patterns is essential for growth.
• Healing is a gradual process that requires self-compassion.

Majo is a somatic coach who helps women break out of painful relationship patterns by reconnecting with their bodies. After more than a decade stuck in unhealthy cycles, anxiety, and self-doubt in love—despite doing “all the right things”—she finally broke free and found lasting self-love through somatic (body-based) coaching. Today, she guides other women through the same journey—helping them cultivate inner peace, confidence, and love they can feel in their bones, not just in their heads.

To learn more from Majo:

• Website: https://www.shesembodied.com/
• Instagram: @shesembodied

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by infidelity. We'll emphasize the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier interactions and personal growth. The discussion covers how manipulation often stems from fear and self-serving motives, while influence is rooted in strength, clarity, and a desire for collective betterment.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding the difference between manipulation and influence is crucial after infidelity.
• Manipulation often arises from fear and self-serving motives.
• Influence is about seeking the betterment of everyone involved.
• Recognizing patterns of manipulation can help break the cycle of unhealthy behaviors.
• Effective communication is key to fostering influence rather than manipulation.
• Living in alignment with your values can enhance your influence in relationships.
• Asking for what you want is a form of kindness, not manipulation.
• Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in distinguishing between manipulation and influence.
• Trust is built through honesty and consistency in relationships.
• Shifting from control to influence increases the chances of achieving desired outcomes.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles