Them: “Are you volunteering for the book drive again this year?”

You: “No.”

Them: “Oh, why not?”

You: “I don’t want to.”

**** crickets. awkward silence****

Could you calmly and confidently have this conversation with someone without:

Feeling an ounce of guilt trickle down your spine?

Feeling dread drop into the pit of your belly?

Feeling tingly sensations flitter in your fingers?

Yes! Stop reading. Congratulations 🎉🥳👏

You’ve beat out 70% of women who feel like they’ve robbed a granny or kicked a puppy when they simply say, “nope… won’t be doing that.”

If you’re like the rest of us… well (former Ashley) I designed a new program just for you called the Obligation Detox.

It’s all the learnings I needed when I was volunteering in five church departments, working full time, going to school full time and being a wife, daughter, sister… well just all the things.

AKA being the textbook over-giving, over-functioning, over-committed woman.

Read the deets here.

Q’s about the program? DM me on the Gram here.

xx, Ashley

About 6 weeks ago, I got on a call with my therapist and he said, “You look like you ate a string of Christmas lights. You’re glowing from the inside out.” 

I offered him a grin and teared up, because I felt it. 

Like oil on a hot stove crackling as it gets hotter and hotter, I’d been feeling it.

Like the pilot light on a furnace gets sparked — it felt like I my energy had been reignited. 

I was nourished. Fat. Like the chubby, squishy thighs of a baby feeding on liquid gold. 

Rested. Clear. Grounded. 

They weren’t just nice words, they were embodied wisdom. 

After collapsing into 2023 and first fighting my bodies call to rest then giving in and honoring it — I was feeling like myself again.  

Better really. 

4-5 months before this moment I was crying for a different reason. 

The guilt I felt over stepping back from relationships and commitments. Hasty imperfect asks for space. The wash of disappointment constantly flooding my body since I had spent the entire year doing the bare minimum. 

And he told me this: 

“Ashley, it’s a good thing that there isn’t enough of you to go around.” 

He added: 

“You did what there was to do. If a car is running out of gas, you don’t floor it and  force it to push through. It’ll eventually stop. You pull over to a gas station and refill it. Just like that car, you pulled over. The people who love you and genuinely care for you will be happy to see you well.” 

I exhaled and have kept exhaling. 

Which brings me to my point: 

I didn’t hit any of my career goals in 2023. 

And still… 

I left the year feeling mentally and emotionally stronger, energetically lighter, my vision is more clear, my creative expression is more free, I feel like I actually have the bandwidth and capacity to go out and re-engage the world. 

In this episode I’m sharing: 

• A permission slip for rest and an urging to answer the call for slowness. 
• Why I don’t believe in New Year Resolutions
• And the 3 guideposts I’m leaning on as I set the tone for 2024. 

If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me. 

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If you’re at a career crossroads and desire to make a change, DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 1:1 coaching container.

Have you ever felt the nagging feeling that you were just built different?

Like maybe real fulfillment or contentment with life would forever be playing a game of hide-n-seek with you?

Despite having checked the boxes, hit the career milestones, got the relationship, booked the trip... you still have felt like you're playing a smaller game than you wanted to be?

I can relate and many of my clients can too.

This episode covers:

- Why abandoning your career ambition isn't the solution to greater fulfillment.

- How gratitude and a desire for more aren't in competition.

- What to ask yourself and where to start if you find yourself wanting to play a bigger game.

- And more.

If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me. 

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DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

From the time you were a tiny-tot, you’ve been trained — see also indoctrinated — to make work/career/ job the main thing

Leaving the the rest of your life to play side-chick. 

You were taught to make your career the fancy centerpiece of the dining room table that is your life— but you’ve realized it’s not working for you. 

Career is no longer king — That’s the old model. 

You don’t just want to look “impressive” you want to feel/be fulfilled w/o compromising pay or power. 

The new model says— work matters and it’s also only one small part of who you are, how you live and how you express yourself in the world. 

You’ll still have big impact and make the money you wanna make— just not at the expense of being a whole ass human. 

That’s a price you aren’t willing to pay anymore. 

So where do you start? How do you begin designing a career where your life comes first?

That's what we're covering in today's episode.

Want me in your back pocket as you create this transformation in your own life? DM me “MORPH” and get to on building your life-first career. 

In my world, your quality of life is the main thing. 

You can do it w/o sacrificing your six-figure income or director title (I didn’t give up mine).

In my 1:1 coaching, you untangle the mental mess of “what do I really want next from work.” 

I don’t ask you to trash your ambition or stop giving AF about your team, but you do raise the standards for your own personal fulfillment and well-being. 

Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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“Maybe I just got lucky?” 

“Maybe it was my connections?” 

“Maybe it was just a coincidence?” 

“Maybe they didn’t have a better option?”

Nah, boo – you did that. 

Own that sh*t. 

The above were lies I was believing when I was in self-protect mode after a toxic AF workplace experience left my confidence in the toilet. 

These useless thoughts kept me stuck in career purgatory making $14/hr when I had 6-figure skills. 

We go to church in this podcast ep. I intend for you to leave the episode OWNING your results and giving yourself boatloads of credit for every damn thing you’ve done. 

That’s the HOW of building rock solid self belief. 

In the episode, I share:

• A story I’ve never put anywhere on the interwebs, all about how I was unqualified for a promotion and raised my hand anyway. And things outside my control made it so that I was still the best choice. 
• Why happy accidents are a part of the success journey and not enough people are being honest about it. 
• A riff on gratitude… plus much more. 

PS… 

Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic. 

A 6 week program where you learn how to stop the doubt spiral, clear fear and take powerful action everyday.

What would it feel like for taking action in life and work felt as easy as making your morning cup of coffee? 

No mental boxing match with doubt.

No worrying about whether or not you'll fail.

No stressing about what other people will think.

Just moving forward. 

You’re about to find out.

⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠

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Hi Friend— 

In this episode we cover a range of ideas, see the highlights below: 

• Riff on relationships and allowing yourself to be supported. I talk about how this hasn’t been the easiest thing for me as someone used to being the “strong friend.” 
• Why I question “imposter syndrome” and how I see it as something that pathologizes normal human behavior. 
• The value of being a good question asker. 
• A case for treating life more like a scientific experiment and less like a 100 point test that we could fail, I think we’d all be a little happier in life. 
• How digging into the real definition of confidence set me free and I think it will for you too. 
• Plus more… 

Curious about the Anti Confidence Clinic — HERE is a link to a short video that answers the why and what you’ll be learning. 

The focus of the program is simple: turning down the dial on fear and turning up your power to take action. 

Ready to enroll — ⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠

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In this episode I share: 

• A riff on proving your power to yourself. 

• The difference between being seen, felt, heard and understood and having the power bring solutions to problems. 

• A breakdown on my favorite part of the Anti Confidence Clinic and how you can initiate your very own Personal Power Project. 

• And more…

PS… 

Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic. 

A 6 week program where you unplug from the pressure to feel confident so you can move. 

What would it feel like for taking action in life and work felt as easy as making your morning cup of coffee? 

No drama. 

No overthinking. 

No negotiating.

Just moving forward. 

You’re about to find out.

We’ll find yourself on the other side of overwhelm, lack of clarity, fear of judgement and feeling powerless. 

You’ll be running towards the things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by them. 

Taking action will begin to feel as easy as making your morning coffee. 

Enrollment is open now and the special of $100 is on thru Sun 09/03 @ 11:59PST. 

Promo code— MOVE100

⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠

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Holy sh*t! We did it!!!

We have officially completed 30 episodes in 30 days. 

What an incredible feeling — I for sure doubted whether or not we’d make it happen at the beginning of the month and also knew it would be completely freakin’ epic to actually do it. This was a real time of example of making action taking feel as easy and stress free as getting your coffee in the morning! 

In this episode I share: 

• The benefit of giving yourself grace and allowing yourself to be a human with real emotions. You can’t hack your humanity. You don’t have to suffer with it and you do have to feel it. 
• A case for adding more generative, nourishing and nurturing tasks into your day to day work + my biggest take away my 30 day podcast sprint. 
• The number one sign of purpose work.
• Why I don’t want you to do it scared, I want you to neutralize the fear so the path to taking action is smoother. 

PS… 

Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic. 

A 6 week program where you unplug from the pressure to feel confident so you can move. 

What would it feel like for taking action in life and work felt as easy as making your morning cup of coffee? 

No drama. 

No overthinking. 

No negotiating.

Just moving forward. 

You’re about to find out.

We’ll find yourself on the other side of overwhelm, lack of clarity, fear of judgement and feeling powerless. 

You’ll be running towards the things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by them. 

Taking action will begin to feel as easy as making your morning coffee. 

Enrollment is open now and the special promo has been extended to $200 off thru Thurs 8/31 @ 11:59PST. 

Promo code— MOVE200

⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠

Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers.