In this episode, we explore the reasons behind why individuals replay past events and the patterns of behaviour that emerge from these experiences. We discuss the impact of fixed identities, sedimented beliefs, the weight of regret and shame, and the importance of self-compassion in navigating these feelings.

The conversation emphasises the need for understanding our decision-making processes and the illusion of right choices, while also highlighting the significance of seeking help and support when feeling overwhelmed.

We hope that this discussion provides insights into breaking the cycle of overthinking and fostering personal growth.

Takeaways

We often replay the past due to ingrained patterns of behaviour.

Fixed identities can limit our perception of choices.

Shame and regret can lead to self-torture in our thoughts.

Decisions made in the past were based on available evidence at the time.

Self-compassion is crucial for personal growth and healing.

Thoughts are not facts; they can be observed and challenged.

Seeking help is not a weakness but a necessary step for recovery.

We take our existing patterns with us into new situations.

It's important to learn from the past without harsh judgment.

Acceptance of where we are now is the first step to change.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

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In this episode, we explore the importance of investing in friendships, the challenges of nurturing them as life changes, and the vital role of communication and vulnerability in maintaining connections. It can be easy to let connections slide as life gets busy, however we often regret the loss of friendships when this happens.

We emphasise the need for balance between self-care and social engagement, highlighting how meaningful relationships contribute to our overall well-being and sense of purpose. If we don’t value ourselves we can feel that others won’t mind, or even notice, if we don’t see them. And this can mean that relationships slide away without us necessarily meaning to let them do so.

It takes work to keep up with friendships especially as we get older, however the benefits are so valuable for us. Sometimes self-care means pushing ourselves to do something that feels effortful but will be meaningful for us.

Takeaways

Friendships often take a backseat as life gets busier.

Long-term friendships require ongoing nurturing to thrive.

Life changes can impact the time and energy we invest in friendships.

Communication is key to maintaining connections, especially during tough times.

Self-worth can affect how we engage in friendships.

Balancing self-care with social connections is crucial.

Creating meaning in life often comes from our relationships with others.

Community support is essential for mental well-being.

Modern connections may differ but are still valuable.

Acts of kindness can create a virtuous cycle of connection.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

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In this episode, we delve into what it really means to feel ‘ready’. We talk about our own experiences of not being ready to act, and what was holding us back. We explore how things like perfectionism, nerves and putting things off can hold us back, and why waiting for the ‘perfect moment’ often just keeps us stuck.

Along the way, we touch on relationships, decision-making, and why it helps to explore, and get comfortable with, a bit of uncertainty. Readiness isn’t something you wait for - it’s something you do, with courage and self-awareness

takeaways

• We can prevent ourselves from doing things because we don't feel ready.
• Perfectionism can create barriers to taking action.
• Anxiety can amplify feelings of unpreparedness.
• The need for everything to be perfect can hinder progress.
• Procrastination is often linked to fear of failure.
• There is no such thing as perfect conditions for starting something new.
• Waiting for the right time can lead to missed opportunities.
• Tolerating discomfort is essential for growth and action.
• Clarity in our intentions can help us move forward.
• Taking action is more important than waiting to feel ready.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.