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Love How Deep Marriage

Love How Deep Marriage

Auteur(s): Brian Mayer & Heather Mayer
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 Love How Deep is a podcast designed to equip married couples like you with resources that rely on the transformative power of God's Word to strengthen your relationship. The hosts, Brian & Heather Mayer desire is to connect couples more deeply to each other. They do this by offering episode content that can help couples communicate better, resolve conflict, understand each other more, tackle roles and responsbilities, parent in better ways, control their finances more, and increase emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual parts of their lives. Engaging guests from married couples, pastors, therapists, authors, and other experts in the field offer great advice.2024 Christianisme Pastorale et évangélisme Relations Sciences sociales Spiritualité
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  • 101: Travel Tips Every Empty Nest Couple Needs to Know

    101: Travel Tips Every Empty Nest Couple Needs to Know
    Sep 17 2025

    Episode Summary

    Just because the kids are gone doesn’t mean travel is easy! In this episode, we're sharing our best tips for empty nest couples who are ready to start traveling again—this time, just the two of you. We're pulling from our own 11 years of experience and sharing what we’ve learned, from balancing a meticulous planner with an easygoing wanderer to handling unexpected travel issues without a fight.

    In this episode, you’ll discover:

    • The Planning Power Play: How to balance your personality types for a trip that works for both of you.

    • Mastering the Budget: Why having a clear budget and playing to each other's strengths can prevent major disagreements.

    • The Art of Flexibility: What to do when things go wrong and why it's a test of your communication skills.

    • Making Every Moment Count: The most important tip of all—how to reconnect as a couple on vacation without distractions.
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    18 min
  • 99: No Sex and Intimacy? Let's Fix That!

    99: No Sex and Intimacy? Let's Fix That!
    Sep 3 2025
    Is Your Marriage Missing Intimacy? The Surprising Truth About Connecting in Christ Do you and your spouse ever feel like you're talking, but not truly connecting? Like something's just... missing? The root cause might be a lack of true intimacy, which is far more than just the physical. In this episode, we sit down with Belah Rose from Delight Your Marriage to demystify intimacy and help you and your spouse create a stronger, more connected relationship rooted in faith. Intimacy: Beyond the Bedroom Many of us mistakenly believe intimacy is just about sex. But as Belah explains, it's about being "naked and unashamed" in every aspect of your relationship. Intimacy is the full absence of walls and guardedness. It's the journey of becoming one flesh, not just physically, but also emotionally and spiritually. A true connection means being vulnerable and fully known by your spouse. The Common Intimacy Blocks Belah shares some of the most common dynamics she sees in her work: The Pressure Cycle: Many men are wired to seek physical intimacy as a way to feel loved. However, when a man pressures his wife for sex, it's the very thing that makes her reject it. A woman is designed to feel safe, and pressure feels like a violation of that safety. This can create a painful cycle of a husband feeling rejected and a wife feeling pushed. The Myth of "I Don't Wanna": For women, Belah challenges the idea of waiting for a desire for sex to arise naturally. Instead, she asks women to consider the greater call of being a "good and faithful servant." When we understand that a husband feels loved through physical intimacy, the question shifts from, "Do I want sex?" to, "How can I get myself to want to make love?" This change in mindset is a powerful act of selfless love. The Unkind Word: For men, a lack of respect and admiration can be a huge intimacy block. Constant criticism, nagging, and being "one-upped" by a spouse diminishes a man's drive to connect. A husband needs to feel that he is his wife's hero—her quarterback on the field with her cheering on the sidelines. The "Delight Your Marriage" Framework Belah's coaching framework provides a clear roadmap for what husbands and wives need to feel fulfilled. What a Wife Needs to Feel Loved: Safe: She needs to feel emotionally safe, knowing her husband accepts her, listens to her heart, and doesn't push or belittle her. Known: She needs to feel like she is the only woman in the world who matters to him. Her personality, passions, and unique traits should be seen and cherished. Wholeheartedly Cherished: This is the core desire to feel valued and adored for who she is. What a Husband Needs to Feel Loved: Respect: He needs to feel respected, not criticized, controlled, or demeaned. Admiration: He needs a wife who believes in him, sees his strengths, and cheers him on. Wholehearted Sexual Intimacy: Physical intimacy is a fundamental way a man feels loved and honored, designed by God to be a powerful symbol of their one-flesh union. The God-Given Design of Sexual Intimacy Belah offers a powerful and refreshing perspective on a man's sex drive, correcting common misconceptions. She explains that a man's desire for sex is not a mistake or something dirty, but a godly, biological design. God created a man's anatomy in a way that requires intimacy for both physical and spiritual health. Just as God asked Abraham to commit himself through circumcision, He designed a man's most prized possession to be a symbol of his commitment and a beautiful gift to his marriage. The enemy knows how powerful this kind of connection is, and he will do everything to get in between a husband and a wife. It is our opportunity as believers to show the world just how good and sacred this intimacy is within a God-honoring marriage. Your Next Step Are you ready to take the next step toward a more intimate marriage? As believers, we are called to serve our spouses. The journey starts with a change of heart and a willingness to understand and delight your partner in the way God designed them. Belah's Resources Mentioned Visit Delight Your Marriage for Coaching and other Resources. Book: Belah Rose's book, Delight Your Husband. Podcast: Delight Your Marriage podcast.
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    48 min
  • 98: Husbands - How to Lead Your Family

    98: Husbands - How to Lead Your Family
    Aug 27 2025
    How to Be a Spiritual Leader at Home This podcast episode is all about how to be a spiritual leader. We'll give you simple, easy things you can do every day to lead your family in faith. It's about being steady and kind, not doing big, flashy things. What This Video Is For: Husbands who: Are ready to start doing things after watching Part 1. Want simple, easy steps to follow. Want to help their family grow in faith. Need cheering on to get past feeling awkward at first. Main Ideas We'll Talk About: Doing a little bit often is better than doing a lot just once: Small steps build strong habits. Show, don't just tell: Your actions teach more than your words. Get your family involved: Make faith a natural part of your home life. It's okay not to be perfect: Every try counts! What We'll Cover: I. Getting Started & Review First thought: "Welcome back, husbands! In Part 1, we learned that being a spiritual leader means leading with love and showing your family Jesus. Now, let's talk about how to actually do it!" We'll quickly remember why this job is so important from Part 1. Remember to like, subscribe, and share this video! II. Small Steps Make a Big Difference "Forget thinking you need to be a Bible expert right away. Being a spiritual leader means doing small, steady things every day." "Think of it like going to the gym – you don't get strong in one day, but if you keep going, you'll see results!" Start where you are. You don't need to be perfect. III. Simple Ways to Be a Spiritual Leader (Pick 5-7 things to try!) Work on Your Own Faith First: What to do: Spend just 5-10 minutes each day reading your Bible or praying. Why it helps: "You can't pour water from an empty cup! You need to fill up your own spiritual tank." Tip: Find a time that works for you (morning, lunch, before bed). Pray With Your Wife and For Her: What to do: Ask your wife, "How can I pray for you today?" Then really pray with her (even for a short time) or pray for her on your own. Why it helps: It brings you closer, shows you care, and invites God into your marriage. Tip: A quick prayer before bed is a great start. Start Family Devotions (Even Short Ones): What to do: Read a simple Bible storybook to your kids, use a short devotion, or just read one Bible verse and ask, "What do you think this means?" at dinner. Why it helps: It creates special faith moments together and helps your kids learn about God. Tip: Do it often, even if it's just for 5 minutes. Say What You're Thankful For Out Loud: What to do: At dinner, before bed, or in the car, ask everyone to share 1-3 things they are thankful for. Why it helps: It helps your family see the good things God has given you and makes your home a thankful place. Tip: You start first to show them how! Serve Others Together as a Family: What to do: Find a simple way to help people – like volunteering, helping a neighbor, or putting together care packages. Why it helps: It teaches your family to care for others and live out their faith. Tip: Pick something small and close to home. Ask for Good Advice: What to do: Talk to a trusted pastor, a wise older couple, or a mentor. Why it helps: You don't have to know everything. Learning from others makes you a stronger leader. Tip: Be open to hearing new ideas. Show Forgiveness and Say Sorry: What to do: When you make a mistake (and you will!), say you're truly sorry and try to make things right. Why it helps: It teaches your family about being humble, about God's grace, and how to fix problems in a godly way. Tip: Show them, don't just tell them. IV. Dealing with Roadblocks & Real-Life Advice Feeling awkward: "It might feel strange at first. Just keep going. It gets easier over time." Family not wanting to: "Don't force them. Just invite them and let them see that you are serious and kind." Trying to be perfect: "Don't wait until you're perfect to start. Just start now, even if it's not perfect." Busy schedules: "Fit these things into times you already have – like meal times, bedtime, or car rides." Pray for yourself: "Ask God to give you wisdom, strength, and to help you be steady." V. Final Thoughts & Next Steps Quick look back: We talked about easy ways to be a spiritual leader. Last words of encouragement: "This is a journey for your whole life, not just one step. God is with you. Your family needs you to step up, and you can do it!" What to do next: "Try just one of these things this week. See what God does!" Get our free guide: "10 Practical Strategies to Communication." It's a great tool for your marriage. https://love-how-deep.kit.com/practical-communication-strategies Goodbye: "Thank you for being here, husbands. Keep pushing forward. See you next time!"
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    17 min
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