we love our cisgender allies! but sometimes they can say things they don't realize that can hurt us without realizing it. let's talk about it

let's get into the changes i've experienced in the intimacy department after close to a year into my medical transition as a MTF trans woman

this is a pretty raw, and immediate topic that I really wanted to discuss with ya'll as it is a possible reality for any trans person, the possibility of going no contact with your family let's talk about it

hi! been away for a few weeks, lets talk about why

lets recap my first pride experience, my first full year of being out as a proud trans woman and part of the LGBTQIA+ community

if you don't "pass" to society's standards, that doesn't make you any less valid or trans.

0:00 What is passing?

3:35 Toxicity of “How much do I pass?”

7:42 Point and laugh at me losing my train of thought

8:06 External Validation & Dangers of chasing the ability to Pass

14:28 My personal struggles with the pressure to Pass

24:44 Let me know your experiences with passing

little more of a fun topic this week, just kinda yapping tbh. But it is something has popped up for me more over the last few months on my TikTok of just men being unable with their tiny brains to comprehend transbians, and how us transitioning is completely separate from our sexual preference/attraction.

0:00 Intro - Men are gross

12:50 - Stuck in Binary Thinking

18:30 The Male Gaze

23:00 I don’t care about hate comments lmao

25:45 Fetishization of Lesbians, and Trans People

29:28 Chasers

33:45 Struggles of Dating Apps as a Transbian

49:00 Outro

this episode is… a lot. i talk about the moment i finally admitted it to myself, how long i tried to avoid it, all the mental gymnastics i pulled to convince myself otherwise, and what it actually felt like to just say it out loud for the first time. it wasn’t some cinematic revelation — more like an identity crisis in sweatpants. but it was real. and it changed everything. if you’ve ever questioned who you are, or been scared of the answer, you’ll get it. this one’s for you.

3:00 Podcast Info

6:50 How did I know I was Trans? (Early childhood)

8:38 Addiction & Abuse Trigger Warning

9:40 TW over

14:30 Seeing "Cross Dressers" for the first time

24:19 Transphobia TW

24:58 TW over

30:55 Are you sure you're not gay?

36:25 COVID-Non Binary

47:47 Suicide, Addiction TW

56:30 The Situation that led me to accept I'm Trans (Suicide, Addiction, Self Harm TW)

1:14:00 Accepting Myself & Coming Out to my Ex

1:18:00 The beginning of my Transition

1:27:00 Deciding to change my name

1:43:15 My goal with this show

1:44:43 Outro, leave your comments!