I'm here to tell you, love is a far more sustaining human practice when it's taken into a practical work of our life. It's the heavy lifting of life the mountain climb, the marathon, because if we don't succeed at the project of love, far too many other things just don't matter.

Listen in as I give you these 10 practical practices, including: Being a hospitable person, welcoming to all; Listening beyond the ordinary; Creating an advice-free zone; Making room for an unpopular response, because labeling is lazy; Listening with silence; Knowing how to suspend judgment; Learning to turn to wonder when stuff gets tight; and Recognizing that all voices have value.

Join me in this great adventure. Let's go out there and do something beautiful every day, every blessed day, because ugly is getting done to death. It's time for the people of beauty and love to insert that beauty and love into every moment of every day.

I believe a hard truth: We, folks of faith, are not here to defend the institutions of Christianity, nor are we here to defend the institutionalized leaders who demand unquestioning allegiance.

Institutional Christianity has its own "spiritual asbestos" that needs to be removed. All the passion we spend defending the institution should be redirected only to love God, to love our neighbors, and to love our enemies.

Unquestioning followership has led to crisis and a loss of credibility. The credibility of Christianity is in love, not in our organizational charts. We must be brave enough to look at the painful truth and live our lives for love alone.

The biggest mistake we are making is we continue to think we've got time. Be present. Be kind. Love, more love. Now.

This week I'm challenging us all to stop making life about being right and start making it about being loved and being loving.

I believe the real issues we face are all found in the nuclear core of the power of love activated inside us. But too often, we've let our culture devolve into division and fighting. I’m inspired by one of my favorite authors, Felicia Murrell, who writes:

“I think the broad sweeping generalizations on both sides are killing us all... As a society, we’ve made life about being right instead of being loved.”

We have all suffered from love deprivations—deficiencies of love that we’ve accommodated as normal. It leads to fighting, resentment, and a relentless need to prove a point.

But as Presiding Bishop Michael Curry says, this love thing is not owned or controlled by anyone: The source is God. No one votes it in or out.

I'm calling on you to join me in the relentless pursuit of love.

• Confront your deprivations and recognize where love has been withheld.

• Practice the Love's Creed to keep love on your daily to-do list.

• Be courageous and disrupt the awkwardness by saying the three most holy words: I love you.

Let’s turn this anxious ship around, folks! It's going to take all of us to change the world, one breath and one act of love at a time.

Are you ready to join me and make the U-turn: stopping the fight to be right and starting the work of being loved?