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  • Dating 101: compatibility, chemistry, & attracting the right person
    May 1 2025

    #195. Add this to your to-do list: stop confusing chemistry for compatibility. Also, demand both! Class is in session, and we’re discussing how to attract the “right” partner.


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    37 min
  • How to Tell If You Have High-Functioning Depression & What to Do About It, with Dr. Judith Joseph
    Apr 24 2025

    #194. Have you heard of high-functioning depression? Because I hadn’t, until I read Dr. Judith Joseph’s book, High-Functioning. In today’s episode, Dr. Judith is on NTS to break down the signs of high-functioning depression, how to notice it in yourself, and what to do about it.

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    1 h et 1 min
  • ASK P: solo sex, setting boundaries, escaping the friend-zone, & “wasting” your 20s
    Apr 17 2025

    #193. In this installment of ASK P, your favorite monthly advice column, we’re discussing a few new-to-NTS topics. We’re tackling a beginner’s guide to self-pleasure, setting boundaries as a generous person, getting out of the friendzone with a man, feeling socially behind or alone, and giving yourself permission to be COMFORTABLE.

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    55 min
  • Little Habits That Make Life So Much Better
    Apr 10 2025

    #192. In true NTS style, we are discussing little ways to elevate your every day (continued). I, personally, like to test out new habits to see what *actually* makes a difference in my day-to-day in hopes I can pass my findings on to someone who may need them. In today’s episode, we’re running through 10 helpful habits I’ve found have made my life just a little bit better.

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    42 min
  • Dating 101: Getting Clear About Your Values, Goals & Deal-breakers
    Apr 3 2025

    #191. We are finding committed relationships here on NTS! In this installment of the Dating 101 series, we are laying the foundation for intentional dating BEFORE we start dating for commitment. We’re getting clear about our “why,” establishing our value-system, acknowledging our personal & relationship goals, talking about deal-breakers and shifting our mindset from casual dating to dating with a purpose.

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    40 min
  • I Moved (Again!): How to Get Settled, Build Community & Create Routines in a New City
    Mar 27 2025

    #190. I moved to Philadelphia! As I settle in to another new city, I’m sharing my step-by-step list to make the move to a new place as smooth as possible from-jump.


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    44 min
  • ASK P: talking about kids in a relationship, distancing from toxic friends & exiting the honeymoon phase
    Mar 20 2025

    #189. In this installment of ASK P, we’re covering listener questions about relationships, talking about kids with your partner, distancing from friends, keeping the spark alive and more.


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    50 min
  • Listen To This If You’re Experiencing an Identity Crisis
    Mar 13 2025

    #188. I’m having an identity crisis. Listen to this episode when you need to find some semblance of stability when you feel like your identity is in question. Whether it’s a big life change, or simply a disconnection from self, these times of transition can introduce us to the next version of ourselves if we let them.


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    41 min