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Summary

In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts explores the paradox of why calmness in relationships can feel unsettling while chaos feels familiar.

He delves into the wiring of our nervous systems, explaining how past experiences shape our perceptions of safety and connection Alan offers practical strategies for rewiring our responses to create healthier relationship dynamics, emphasising the importance of awareness and gradual exposure to new patterns.

Takeaways

Calm feels wrong because it was once unknown.

Your nervous system is wired for survival, affecting love.

Chaos can feel like home due to past experiences.

Awareness is the first step to changing automatic behaviours.

Micro exposure helps in adjusting to new relationship dynamics.

Regulating responses in the moment is crucial for safety.

Calmness can deepen attraction when familiar.

Self-protection is different from self-sabotage.

Creating new evidence of safety is essential for growth.

Box breathing can help manage anxiety in relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding the Chaos in Relationships

02:01 The Wiring of Our Nervous System

04:05 Rewiring for Safety and Connection

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Control to Connection

Summary

In this conversation, Alan Watts explores the intricate dynamics of relationships, self-creation, and personal growth. He emphasises the importance of vulnerability, energy, and self-reflection in fostering meaningful connections.

Through his journey, he shares insights on overcoming fear, the role of coaching, and the necessity of aligning one's inner self to create the love one desires. The discussion culminates in the idea that love is not merely found but engineered with intention and effort.

Takeaways

The journey of self-creation is ongoing and essential.

Understanding relationships requires recognizing their dynamics.

Vulnerability is a crucial element in love and connection.

Personal growth can be significantly enhanced through coaching.

Energy plays a vital role in relationships and personal interactions.

Overcoming fear is necessary to embrace change and growth.

Self-reflection helps in understanding past relationships and patterns.

Creating a positive circuit in life is essential for happiness.

Learning from past relationships can guide future choices.

Engineering love requires intention and effort.

Chapters

00:00 The Journey Begins: A Personal Story

08:10 Reflections on Relationships and Self-Discovery

14:38 The Power of Vulnerability and Personal Growth

20:29 Engineering Love: A New Perspective

23:55 Final Reflections and Call to Action

24:46 The Essence of Authenticity in Relationships

25:32 Self-Discovery as a Foundation for Connection

25:51 Modeling Success: The Art of Personal Development

28:39 Crafting Authentic Relationships: Lessons from Others

29:56 Embracing All Parts of Yourself: The Journey to Self-Acceptance

30:50 Who Are You? The Quest for Self-Identity

31:24 Navigating Relationships with Narcissists

33:21 Personal Growth and Its Impact on Children

33:40 Embracing Authenticity in Relationships

35:41 The Importance of Feeling Seen and Safe

35:49 Understanding Love and Relationships

35:58 The Five Stages of Man's Journey

38:12 Navigating Relationships and Personal Growth

39:58 Bridging Mindsets in Relationships

Summary

In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, Alan Watts engages with Mike Besant, an expert in confidence coaching.

They explore the journey of building confidence, especially after personal loss, and the challenges faced in corporate environments.

The conversation delves into the importance of communication, the dynamics of gender in relationships, and the role of honesty and mutual respect.

Mike shares personal anecdotes and insights on how experiences shape confidence and the significance of asking the right questions. The episode concludes with reflections on the ongoing journey of self-discovery and the importance of being true to oneself.

Takeaways

Confidence is not innate; it is built through experiences.

Reinventing oneself after loss is a crucial journey.

Communication is key to understanding and building confidence.

Personal experiences significantly shape one's confidence levels.

Asking the right questions can lead to deeper insights.

Humor can be a powerful tool in building confidence.

Mutual respect is essential in any relationship.

Letting go of the past is necessary for growth.

The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and complex.

Being honest and true to oneself is vital in relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Reinventing After Loss

06:08 Lessons from Corporate Life

10:55 Understanding Confidence and Competence

16:06 Navigating Personal Challenges

21:06 Finding Control in Transformation

32:38 Exploring NLP and Hypnosis

37:01 Building Confidence and Overcoming Doubts

43:06 The Power of Language and Self-Perception

52:25 Confidence in Communication and Personal Branding

58:17 Honesty in Relationships and Personal Growth

About the Host :-

Relationship Revolutions is hosted & presented by Alan Watts "The Love Engineer" Alan works with singles who are frustrated with swiping left for a muppet, swiping right for a moron or swiping up for a narc, whatever the options are on their preferred platform.

You can find Alan at www.theloveengineer.rocks, & links to socials from there.

Guest Info:-

Mike Beasant helps people build unshakable confidence from the inside out, but his real power lies in what he doesn’t pretend to have figured out.

From being the class joker who ran from his pain to becoming a global coach and speaker, Mike shares the raw truth about confidence, cancel culture, and the emotional cost of always “having it together.”

In this episode, he opens up about the gap between public power and private vulnerability, how men are conditioned to hide in their “Nothing Box,” and why true confidence means being able to stay present when it matters most.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/theworldsnumber1confidencecoach/

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