Épisodes

  • Helping Your Child Overcome Anxieties, Fears, and Rocky Transitions

    Helping Your Child Overcome Anxieties, Fears, and Rocky Transitions
    Sep 2 2025
    Transitions tend to be difficult for young children, and they express their struggles in a variety of concerning ways. They may be focused to distraction on particular random-seeming anxieties and fears. Worse, they take their feelings out on us by being uncooperative or lashing out in violent meltdowns. Two families reach out to Janet with these issues, and she proposes a three-step approach to help resolve them. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is at: NoBadKidsCourse.com Please support our sponsors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    31 min
  • Negativity, Pushback, No to EVERYTHING

    Negativity, Pushback, No to EVERYTHING
    Aug 26 2025
    The parent of a 7-year-old describes writes that her daughter has become relentlessly negative and argumentative. "It feels like everything is a debate, and she says no to almost every request." As one of Janet's longtime followers, she knows not to take the behavior personally, tries to maintain a light attitude, but she often finds herself lecturing and sometimes completely losing her cool. She wonders if Janet can suggest some other way to deal with her daughter's negative attitude. "I feel so exhausted from all the debating and negotiating and fighting." Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is at: NoBadKidsCourse.com Please support our sponsors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    25 min
  • Fighting Is Playing (Let the Kids Work It Out)

    Fighting Is Playing (Let the Kids Work It Out)
    Aug 19 2025
    It's unnerving when our kids engage in conflict with siblings or peers, whether it's over a toy, their perceived 'space', or even our attentions. As emotions escalate, so does grabbing, pushing, and sometimes hitting. No parent wants to witness this, and our instinct tends to be to try to manage the situation by separating the warring factions, comforting hurts and disappointments, figuring out alternative activities our kids can engage in, or admonishing them to "share." But peer and, especially, sibling conflicts offer our kids crucial developmental opportunities. Janet offers her perspective and advice to a parent whose children are constantly battling. She discusses how we can support our kids to resolve and learn from their conflicts, and when and how they need us to intervene. Janet's "No Bad Kids" Master Course is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com. Please support our sponsors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    33 min
  • Making a Successful Transition to Preschool (with Mr. Chazz)

    Making a Successful Transition to Preschool (with Mr. Chazz)
    Aug 12 2025
    Janet welcomes a timely visit from iconic educator Mr. Chazz who shares how parents and teachers can help kids successfully transition to a new preschool or childcare situation. His focus is on trust and maintaining the sense of connection that supports parents and kids to separate with confidence. Janet's "No Bad Kids" Master Course is at nobadkidscourse.com. Please support our sponsors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    45 min
  • How to Help a Strong-Willed Child (Without Wounding His Spirit)

    How to Help a Strong-Willed Child (Without Wounding His Spirit)
    Aug 5 2025
    A parent describes her 4-year-old son as energetic, independent and strong-willed. While she appreciates her son’s enthusiasm and free spirit, she constantly struggles to reign him in and finds herself yelling, "You're not listening!" As an example, she says they often take nature walks with friends, and he inevitably runs ahead at an unsafe distance. She feels overwhelmed, especially when they are out with other parents “that have high expectations for behavior." In this encore episode, Janet offers a few ways to help her son listen but “without killing his free spirit.” Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com and JanetLansbury.com. Please support our sponsors. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    23 min
  • Validating Feelings Isn't Working

    Validating Feelings Isn't Working
    Jul 29 2025
    The practice of acknowledging our children's feelings and struggles can provide healing, calming messages of safety and acceptance. With a genuine tone and a few words, our acknowledgments can help children share pent-up emotions, feel seen and heard, and gradually regulate, which in turn eases problematic behaviors. However, parents commonly share with Janet that validating feelings doesn't work for their child and feels more like an exercise in frustration. In this encore episode, Janet speaks to some of the common reasons this practice might feel less effective, what to do instead, and why we shouldn't give up on acknowledging as a powerfully empathic relationship-building tool. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com and JanetLansbury.com. Please support our sponsors. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    21 min
  • The Help Toddlers Need With Aggressive Behavior

    The Help Toddlers Need With Aggressive Behavior
    Jul 22 2025
    Janet responds to 3 messages from listeners who say their kids exhibit aggressive or violent behavior towards their peers, in one case "pushing, hitting, or attacking faces, sometimes without warning." While all these parents recognize that fatigue and other discomforts can contribute to this behavior, it often seems that their kids lash out for no reason at all. These parents have come to distrust their kids in social situations and are at their wit's end, worried they've done something wrong. "I feel like we have tried everything, and nothing is working. I just cry now because I don't know what I'm supposed to do." Janet offers insights that she hopes will ease these parents' minds as it helps them understand their children's behavior and respond in a manner that effectively changes it. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com. Please support our sponsors. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    33 min
  • The Bad Advice I Gave About Toilet Training

    The Bad Advice I Gave About Toilet Training
    Jul 15 2025
    In a previous "Unruffled" episode, Janet offered advice to a parent who was struggling with potty training. That parent wrote back recently to announce her daughter's 4-year saga had finally come to a successful conclusion... it was NOT the result of the parents following Janet's advice, but going full speed ahead in the opposite direction. In this episode, Janet revisits the guidance she originally offered, and explains why she believes her advice was unhelpful to this family. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com. Please support our sponsors. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    34 min