In this episode of Said Your Nan, James, Stuart and Steve dive head-first (and slightly under-qualified) into the world of Imposter Syndrome. That annoying voice in your head that insists you’re one mistake away from being “found out.”

With the usual blend of banter, honesty, and questionable wisdom, the lads explore why so many men feel like frauds in their own lives, even when they’re smashing it. James brings the facts: from the 70% of people who experience imposter syndrome to how it shows up across ages, while Stuart and Steve share stories, laughs, and wildly relatable moments of self-doubt.

They break down the symptoms, the role masculinity plays, and why mid-career blokes often feel it the hardest. And of course, they offer practical ways to challenge those thoughts. From talking openly to taking the piss out of your own inner critic.

It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s a reminder that nearly everyone is winging it…

especially your nan.

We’re back for Season 4!

This was an episode we recorded back in January 2025, so no need to be confused by 'Happy New Year' it's ok, you haven't slipped into a time shift.

In this episode, the lads dive into Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). what it really is, what it definitely isn’t, and how it affects men’s mental health in everyday life.

James, Stuart, and Steve open up about common misconceptions, share personal reflections, and unpack the difference between genuine OCD and casual phrases like “a bit OCD.” They explore routines, intrusive thoughts, compulsions, and how these experiences can impact identity, relationships, and wellbeing.

The trio also chat about practical ways to support someone living with OCD, seeking help without stigma, and the importance of honest conversation in breaking down barriers around men’s mental health.

We made it to the end of Season 3.

On this episode James. Stuart and Steve discuss some letters that listeners have sent in.

We really appreciate everyone who listens and takes the time to write to us. Its been a fantastic season with some great topics.

As we wrap up this season we are deep in the planning for Season 4 – If you have any suggestions please give us a shout.

If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed today, you can get support from the following organisations:

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Call: 116 123 (free) 24 hours a day

Mind: https://mind.org.uk Call: 0300 123 3393

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournan

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This episode James, Stuart and Steve delve into what was supposed to be Reddit.

!! EPISODE WARNING !!

It would only be right to provide a disclaimer here. The guys started the episode with great intentions if delving into a sub thread in reddit called ‘Am I the asshole’ Instead what ensued is a deep conversation about rectal hygiene, toilet habits including crowns, crayons, and booster seat urinals. Including some of those secrets that only men know.

We do eventually get round to Reddit… We all agree for us, this is the funniest episode we have done to date and it was an absolute blast to record. We hope you love it too!

If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed today, you can get support from the following organisations:

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Call: 116 123 (free) 24 hours a day

Mind: https://mind.org.uk Call: 0300 123 3393

Andrex https://www.andrex.co.uk/en-gb Call: 0800 626008

Charmin https://www.charmin.com/en-us

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournan

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On today’s episode James. Stuart and Steve discuss Letting it go (not the Disney movie!)

They talk about their own experiences with bottling things up, supressing thoughts and emotions and some tips on how to move forward. This is mixed with the usual jokes, sarcasm, and ringtones!

If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed today, you can get support from the following organisations:

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Call: 116 123 (free) 24 hours a day

Mind: https://mind.org.uk Call: 0300 123 3393

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournan

If you would like to get involved, please contact us:

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During this episode James. Stuart and Steve have a look at starting a conversation about mental health.

To make Time to Talk day, the guy’s chat about starting the conversation with someone who may be struggling /or/ if your someone struggling that wants to ask for help.

Time to Talk Day is the nation’s biggest mental health conversation. Happening every year, it’s a day for friends, families, communities, and workplaces to come together to talk, listen and change lives.

It’s run by Mind and Rethink Mental Illness and is being delivered in partnership with Co-op

For further details please have a look at: Time To Talk Day - Time To Talk Day

If you have been affected by any of the topics discussed today, you can get support from the following organisations:

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Call: 116 123 (free) 24 hours a day

Mind:     https://mind.org.uk Call: 0300 123 3393

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournan

If you would like to get involved, please contact us:

Email: saidyournan@onthemend.org.uk

Twitter: @saidyournan

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On today’s episode James and Steve discuss spiralling. So, what is it?

A downward spiral is defined as a situation with a series of negative thoughts, emotions, and actions that continuously feeds back into itself, causing the situation to become progressively worse.

This is commonly used to describe a person’s depressive state which becomes difficult to control leading to the negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviours getting worse very quickly.

A downward spiral can be mentally exhausting, disrupt your daily life, and affect the people around you. However, it doesn’t have to be this way.

It might seem like a downward spiral just comes out of nowhere, but actually, there are warning signs that we can look for when it happens. Join us as we discuss the signs and some coping strategies.

We also mention Calm who have written a blog on spiralling:

www.blog.calm.com

If you’ve been affected by any of the conversation. The following support is available:

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Call: 116 123 (free) 24 hours a day

Mind:     https://mind.org.uk Call: 0300 123 3393

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournan

If you would like to get involved, please contact us:

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On today’s episode Stuart, James, and Steve discuss dealing with debt and the impact on mental health. Steve and James give some insight into their personal experience and how they overcame it.

If you would like support with money advise, please contact the following charities:

Step Change http://stepchange.org

Tel: 0800 138 1111 Monday to Friday 8am to 8pm and Saturday 9am to 2pm

Money Helper https://www.moneyhelper.org.uk/en

Citizens Advice: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk

Tel: 0800 144 8848

Thanks for listening today. We really appreciate your support!

If you would like to support the Podcast and the On the MENd charity, please buy us a coffee on the following link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/saidyournan

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