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What if setting boundaries isn’t selfish at all—but the holiest way to love God, love yourself, and love others well?

In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why constantly saying “yes” keeps us stuck, tired, and disconnected from God’s best. Through the lens of emotional and spiritual growth, he explains how boundaries protect relationships, promote honesty, and invite the Holy Spirit into our decision-making.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between boundaries, expectations, and motives
• Why guilt and shame appear when we say “no”
• How to set Spirit-led boundaries that build love instead of distance
• Why honesty—with God, yourself, and others—is the real foundation of healthy connection

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What if the conversations you’re avoiding are the very ones the Holy Spirit wants to use to change your life? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down the difference between speaking for clarity and speaking for control. You’ll learn how emotional intelligence, honesty, and love work together to create real connection in relationships—with God, yourself, and others. From learning to say what you feel to listening without defensiveness, this episode walks you through what it looks like to speak and listen for clarity in love.

If you’ve ever avoided hard conversations to “keep the peace,” this one’s for you.

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We all want love, joy, peace, and patience—but what if those things only come through the slow, messy process we keep trying to skip?

In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit isn’t a checklist of Christian behavior—it’s evidence of spiritual growth. From the apple tree that takes seven years to bear fruit, to the real-life moments when patience runs thin and self-control gets tested, this episode shows how the Holy Spirit produces fruit in us when we stop rushing and start surrendering.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” trying to be good, kind, or peaceful, this one’s for you. God’s not grading you—He’s growing you.

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