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What if setting boundaries isn’t selfish at all—but the holiest way to love God, love yourself, and love others well?

In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why constantly saying “yes” keeps us stuck, tired, and disconnected from God’s best. Through the lens of emotional and spiritual growth, he explains how boundaries protect relationships, promote honesty, and invite the Holy Spirit into our decision-making.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between boundaries, expectations, and motives
• Why guilt and shame appear when we say “no”
• How to set Spirit-led boundaries that build love instead of distance
• Why honesty—with God, yourself, and others—is the real foundation of healthy connection

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What if the conversations you’re avoiding are the very ones the Holy Spirit wants to use to change your life? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down the difference between speaking for clarity and speaking for control. You’ll learn how emotional intelligence, honesty, and love work together to create real connection in relationships—with God, yourself, and others. From learning to say what you feel to listening without defensiveness, this episode walks you through what it looks like to speak and listen for clarity in love.

If you’ve ever avoided hard conversations to “keep the peace,” this one’s for you.

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We all want love, joy, peace, and patience—but what if those things only come through the slow, messy process we keep trying to skip?

In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down why the fruit of the Spirit isn’t a checklist of Christian behavior—it’s evidence of spiritual growth. From the apple tree that takes seven years to bear fruit, to the real-life moments when patience runs thin and self-control gets tested, this episode shows how the Holy Spirit produces fruit in us when we stop rushing and start surrendering.

If you’ve ever felt “stuck” trying to be good, kind, or peaceful, this one’s for you. God’s not grading you—He’s growing you.

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What if you took “rest” as seriously as “thou shalt not kill”?

In this episode, Rafer breaks down one of the most misunderstood commandments — rest. We talk about the cultural obsession with busyness, how Christians confuse doing for God with being with God, and why rest is not a luxury — it’s a command and a gift.

You’ll hear practical stories from Rafer’s own Sabbath rhythm (including Mario Party Saturdays with the family), insight from Psalm 23 and the Ten Commandments, and a reminder that only good things come from rest.

🧠 Inside this episode:

• Why “busy” is not a badge of honor.
• How rest reconnects you with God, yourself, and others.
• Why rest is counter-cultural and holy.
• The freedom that comes when you trust God to do the math.

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What if the greatest limit on your life isn’t your circumstances—but your mindset?
In this episode, Rafer breaks down how Jesus didn’t just come to save you—He came to grow you. A fixed mindset says, “This is just who I am.” But a growth mindset says, “With the Holy Spirit, I can change.”

Rafer unpacks why a fixed mindset is actually anti-Jesus, how growth is tied to sanctification, and why spiritual maturity requires believing that transformation is possible. You’ll learn how your faith, emotions, relationships, and daily life all shift when you embrace growth through the Holy Spirit.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, this episode will remind you that shift happens on purpose.

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What if Jesus didn’t just carry your sin—but your stress, anxiety, and emotional triggers too? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer Owens Jr. unpacks how emotional intelligence is not just a psychological concept—it’s a spiritual discipline. Learn how your emotions affect your relationship with God, yourself, and others, and how the Holy Spirit wants to redeem the way you feel, react, and love.

This episode dives into:

• Why emotional intelligence is essential to sanctification
• How to stop over-spiritualizing your emotions and start understanding them
• How to process emotions with the Holy Spirit in real time
• The 5 reflection questions that will help you respond like Jesus

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What if the freedom you’ve been praying for is waiting on the other side of the trash you refuse to pull into the light? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer dives deep into the difference between denial and suppression and how honesty with yourself opens the door to real transformation with God. Learn how the Holy Spirit reveals to redeem, why pretending everything’s “fine” keeps you stuck, and what it means to come boldly to the Father with your whole heart.

This isn’t about shame—it’s about freedom, wholeness, and living in the fullness of Jesus.

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What does it really mean to deny yourself? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer Owens Jr. breaks down Mark 8:34 and challenges the common belief that denying yourself equals suppressing your struggles. Suppression keeps us stuck in shame and guilt, but true denial—done with the Holy Spirit—leads to transformation.

Discover how to partner with the Holy Spirit to face your emotions, impulses, and habits honestly instead of pushing them down. Learn why sanctification isn’t about willpower but about awareness, surrender, and letting God do the work in you.

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