Do you ever feel like being easygoing somehow turns into being overlooked, dismissed, or taken advantage of?

In this episode, I sit down with Cordelia for our second coaching session and we unpack a pattern so many people live inside of without realizing it. When you’re flexible, capable, and willing to help, those traits can quietly become the reason you end up carrying more than your share, questioning yourself, and feeling trapped or burned out. Together, we explore how these dynamics form, how your nervous system responds when boundaries aren’t honored, and what it actually looks like to start responding differently in real time. This is an honest, grounded conversation about confidence, boundaries, and learning to trust yourself again without becoming rigid or shut down.

You might want to listen if:
• You’re often described as easygoing but feel like it costs you
• You struggle to say no and then feel resentful or overwhelmed afterward
• You notice anxiety, shutdown, or burnout building over time
• You second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re the problem
• You want to set boundaries without feeling guilty, harsh, or unsafe

Check out Cordelia’s First Coaching Session

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Ever wonder how something meaningful actually gets built when you don’t rush it?
In this special New Year’s Eve episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the backstory of the Speak Honest Podcast and how it grew into 100 honest conversations about attachment, relationships, nervous system healing, and real change. From an accidental name in a college group project to a steady space for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine, this episode is about consistency, honesty, and staying when nothing seems to be happening yet. We’re celebrating the milestone, reflecting on the journey, and looking ahead to what’s coming next as we step into a new year together.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel behind in your life, healing, or relationships and wonder if the slow path still counts
• You’re exhausted from repeating the same patterns and want things to finally feel different
• You’re curious how Speak Honest actually began and why it means so much
• You’re heading into the new year craving reflection, not pressure
• You want a reminder that honest, consistent effort really does add up

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• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

Do you ever walk away from a conversation feeling exhausted because you said way more than you meant to?

In this episode of Speak Honest, we unpack the real reason you talk too much when you’re nervous. This isn’t about learning to “say less” or fixing your communication. It’s about understanding the story underneath your urge to overexplain, the fear of being misunderstood, and the quiet self judgment that kicks in when connection feels shaky. I’ll walk you through why overexplaining is actually a nervous system protection strategy and how to shift it by questioning the story instead of performing for understanding.

You might want to listen if:

• You replay conversations in your head wondering why you said so much
• You overexplain when you’re late, emotional, or afraid of being judged
• You feel a surge of panic when silence shows up in conversations
• You struggle to trust that your words can be simple and still be enough
• You want to communicate calmly without feeling exposed or unsafe

FIND OUT MORE!

• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

What happens after you lose control as a parent… and why that moment matters more than you think?
In this episode, I sit down with parenting expert and ICF-Certified coach Devon Kuntzman for an honest conversation about rupture, repair, and how secure attachment is actually built. We explore why losing control doesn’t damage attachment, how repair calms the nervous system, and what children truly need after emotional moments.

We also take this conversation deeper, looking at how the same repair process applies when you’re reparenting your own inner child. If you didn’t grow up with emotional repair, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap for learning how to come back to yourself after mistakes, overwhelm, or self-criticism.

This episode is a reminder that secure attachment isn’t about perfection. It’s about consistency, safety, and the willingness to return to connection, with your child and with yourself.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel intense guilt after losing your patience as a parent
• You’re healing your own attachment wounds while raising children
• You want to understand how repair builds secure attachment
• You struggle with self-criticism after emotional moments
• You’re learning how to reparent your inner child with compassion

FIND OUT MORE!

• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking… why did I say all of that?
In this episode we talk about why trauma dumping happens, why insecure attachment makes us overshare too fast, and what you can do to slow it down so you feel more grounded, confident, and connected in your relationships.

You might want to listen if:
• You overshare when you feel anxious or want someone to like you
• You crash into a shame spiral after being vulnerable
• You mistake urgency for intimacy
• You struggle to regulate before you communicate
• You want to understand the real attachment based reason trauma dumping happens

FIND OUT MORE!

• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

Have you ever wondered why the tiniest thing can send your whole body into a spiral even when nothing big is actually happening?
In this coaching call with Cordelia, we dig into what is really happening underneath those overwhelming somatic responses and why your nervous system reacts long before your logical mind can catch up. I walk Cordelia through understanding the deeper roots of activation, how trauma memories get stored in the body, and what it looks like to find real evidence of safety when everything feels chaotic. This is a gentle, honest, supportive conversation that will help you understand your own reactions in a whole new way.

You might want to listen if:
• You get big emotional or physical reactions to things that seem small
• You are exhausted from being in fight or flight all the time
• You feel unsafe in your body even when nothing is actually wrong
• You struggle to calm down once the spiral starts
• You want simple, compassionate tools to help your nervous system feel supported again

FIND OUT MORE!

• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

Ever find yourself replaying an argument and wishing you’d handled it differently?
In this episode, I’m walking you through two of the most powerful steps in my communication framework, validation and collaboration, so you can turn conflict into connection this holiday season. We’ll talk about what validation actually means (hint: it’s not agreeing with someone), how to create repair after a rupture, and how collaboration helps you co-create solutions that honor everyone’s needs. If last week’s episode was about regulation, this one’s about repair, the part that brings you back to love, trust, and safety.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep having the same argument on repeat with your partner or family
• You struggle to express your truth without sounding defensive
• You want to learn how to repair a rupture without losing your voice
• You crave deeper connection but don’t know how to get past the tension
• You’re ready to bring calm, compassion, and collaboration into your relationships this holiday season
  
  

FIND OUT MORE!

• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...

Ever walk into a holiday gathering already bracing for impact?

You know that moment when your stomach tightens, your jaw clenches, and you can feel yourself spiraling before the turkey’s even carved? In this episode, I’m walking you through my 5 step RAISE Method, the same one I teach in my Dance of Attachment book, to help you regulate your nervous system before you react. Think of it as your pre-holiday emotional tune up. I’ll show you how to catch yourself before the meltdown, soothe your body when family dynamics get messy, and stay grounded in who you are, no matter what Aunt Sally says.

You might want to listen if:
• Family gatherings leave you feeling drained, anxious, or on edge
• You tend to shut down, over explain, or spiral when triggered
• You want to understand your body’s warning signs before you blow up
• You’re craving a real, doable way to stay calm and connected during conflict
• You’re ready to learn how to regulate without pretending to be “fine”

FIND OUT MORE!

• Grab Your Copy of the #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Become a Speak Honest Member and access all you need to become secure.
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...