NOTE: This is Part 1 of 2 with Andrea.

What does it take to break cycles, beat the odds, and build something better—for yourself and your family? In this episode, we sit down with "Dr. Dre" a.k.a. Andrea D. Mata, PhD—clinical psychologist, founder of BrightSpot Families, and unapologetic straight shooter. And should I mention, funny as all get out! From growing up in a gang-ridden neighborhood on Chicago’s south side to reshaping how families fight anxiety, Dr. Dre shares the raw truth about resilience, parenting, and mental health. Get ready for no-filter wisdom! Dr. Dre is in the house!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Dr. Andrea Mata and Her Mission

02:06 Dr. Mata's Journey and Background

04:01 The Impact of Dr. Mata's TED Talk

05:17 The Unique Approach of Dr. Mata's Book

07:52 Transitioning to Sports Psychology

09:54 The Importance of Composure Training

12:52 Emotional Regulation in Sports

18:38 Managing Parental Behavior at Games

21:26 Modeling Emotional Regulation for Teens

25:42 Navigating the Conversation Flow

LOOK FOR PART 2 with Dr. Andrea Mata, Ph.D coming soon within the next few weeks! In the meantime if you're looking for more from Dr. Dre here is where you may find her (and if you really want the Coop the Poop bookmark, connect with Andrea on LinkedIn and order the book directly from her--you can also get the book minus the bookmark on Amazon ("The No. 2 Parenting Book: Practical Tips for the Pooped Out Parent":

https://andreadmata.com/

https://www.brightspotfamilies.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@drdremata

https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-mata-ph-d-278765225/

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

If you’ve ever said, “My teen needs to be taken down a notch,” this episode is your wake-up call. We break down why that mindset crushes confidence and how a coaching approach actually develops humility, strength, and real independence. You’ll learn how to use love, challenge, and questions—not control or shame—to raise high-performing, emotionally healthy teens.

In this episode, we dive into how humiliation, even when subtle, can derail your teen’s confidence and passion. Instead, we offer some powerful questions to guide your teen’s growth through thoughtful challenges, encouragement, and conversations that fuel both their character and their performance (even if they're a bit defiant!).

The Timestamps!

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Philosophy

02:15 The Concept of Taking Down a Notch

04:48 The Emotional Cost of Humiliation

07:40 Challenging Overconfidence in Teens

10:18 Healthy Alternatives to Humiliation

12:49 Encouraging Growth and Confidence

15:14 Conclusion and Call to Action

Takeaways

-Taking your teen down a notch can be harmful.

-Humiliation has staggering emotional costs for kids.

-Parents should foster confidence in their children.

-Redirecting defiance is more effective than punishment.

-Asking questions can help teens reflect on their behavior.

-Love is a stronger motivator than fear.

-Modeling humility is essential for parents.

-Encouraging service can teach gratitude and humility.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve

Parents, here’s the hard truth: growth doesn’t happen where honesty is avoided. In Episode 118, we dive deep into why facing the truth—especially the uncomfortable kind—creates the breakthrough moments your teen athlete or performer needs. You’ll quickly learn how to apply our “3 Reframing R’s”—Reflect, Refocus, and Recommit—to transform your approach from typical parental reacting to coaching with clarity and power.

Moms and dads--we believe in you and we believe you CAN handle the truth!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Importance of Truth in Growth

02:15 Keys to Confronting the Truth

07:59 Personal Stories of Truth and Growth

12:46 The Three Rs: Reflect, Refocus, Recommit

Takeaways

-When you uncover more of the truth, the faster you grow.

-All progress starts with the truth. Rinse and repeat that!

-Be curious, not judgmental, when confronting the truth.

-Specificity helps focus on facts, not feelings.

-The 3 Reframing R's: Reflect, Refocus, & Recommit are a must!

-Consistency wins in all areas of life.

-Coaching can help identify blind spots.

-Accepting the truth opens doors for growth.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!

-Nate & Steve