In this episode, we break down why New Year’s resolutions feel so hard to stick to. Most of us set extreme, all-or-nothing goals that fall apart the second we miss a day. We also get stuck focusing on the outcome—numbers, timelines, perfection—instead of the identity and small habits that actually create change.

We touch on the comparison trap, too: seeing everyone “level up” online can make your own progress feel invisible, like you didn’t grow enough this year. But growth isn’t always dramatic, and it definitely doesn’t happen on January 1st.

This episode is all about letting go of unrealistic expectations and redefining what real, sustainable change looks like.

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In this episode, I’m speaking as a 23-year-old who has only ever dated in this generation — so while I don’t have all the answers, I do have real thoughts on why dating right now feels so impossible.

Let’s be honest: dating sucks in 2025, and a lot of us feel it. From draining dating apps to hookup culture, commitment fears, and the never-ending bachelors who are “not ready,” meeting someone with real intentions is harder than ever.

We also get into how the digital world makes everything worse — the fear of choosing the wrong person, the pressure to find someone who aligns with your “future self,” and the overwhelming amount of online opinions telling you what you should want.

It’s a quick, honest breakdown of why dating today feels so confusing… and why you’re definitely not alone.

Snow on the ground means Christmas is officially here—so let’s unwrap today’s episode. After chatting about breakups last week, we’re jumping into the messy, magical question: How do you know you’re ready to date again?

We talk about why there’s no single “green light,” how to protect the healing you worked so hard for, and why one bad date doesn’t mean love is canceled. I break down the art of patience (because being ready doesn’t mean they are), the importance of noticing where you meet people, and the power of trusting your gut when something feels off—or surprisingly right.

We also challenge the idea that you have to be perfectly healed. Spoiler: you don’t. Some people actually help you grow. And through it all, we lean into God’s timing—asking for clarity, direction, and protection from anything that isn’t meant for us.

A quick, honest guide to stepping back into dating without losing yourself in the process.

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