What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You’ll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.

Show notes:
(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”
(5:38) Why women do the emotional work
(7:13) Men judge their own growth
(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning
(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men
(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym
(20:18) What’s under male frustration
(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong
(27:29) Outro

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share the surprising truth behind what actually predicts long-term success in relationships, and the one thing partners must do to stay aligned for life. You’ll rethink how you set goals, communicate, and build your future together. Forget the fairytale. This is the science of staying in love for decades. Stay curious, stay conscious, and don’t just grow old together, grow better together.

Show notes:
(5:37) The study that shocked us
(9:01) 46% higher divorce risk explained
(10:28) Why missed check-ins matter
(11:47) How to create shared goals
(14:42) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(17:17) The power of time perspective
(22:20) Weekly “life optimization” meetings
(25:31) Calling your partner forward with humility
(29:05) Outro

Episode Reference:
The Effects of Lack of Joint Goal Planning on Divorce Over 10 Years -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yo796KxkvxeWrlo-KJgEjw1BzvVoZoln/view?usp=drive_link

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this fiery episode, they open the secret rhythm running your relationship and how it quietly shapes your moods, energy, and connection. Forget the “be more consistent” advice. What if you’re already consistent, just on a different wavelength? It’s science meets self-awareness with a twist of humor, honesty, and relationship real talk you won’t hear anywhere else. Tune in, sync up, and watch your relationship level up in ways that’ll surprise you.

Show notes:
(2:29) The 24-hour Vs. 28-day rhythm explained
(4:01) Why women think they lack consistency
(5:49) The lightbulb moment that changes everything
(7:04) The four hormonal “seasons” explained
(9:18) How emotions and body temperature fluctuate
(11:00) The Peaceful Period Project and resources
(12:12) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(14:42) How mismatched cycles cause disconnection
(17:06) The belief shift that improves relationships
(20:12) Are you operating on a 24- or 28-day cycle?
(23:39) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 28 Day Cycle - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bewUe8khOJIEfeEh6YDNk3vqeFIyC9d8/view?usp=drive_link

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Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!