What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You’ll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.

Show notes:
(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”
(5:38) Why women do the emotional work
(7:13) Men judge their own growth
(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning
(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men
(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym
(20:18) What’s under male frustration
(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong
(27:29) Outro

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share the surprising truth behind what actually predicts long-term success in relationships, and the one thing partners must do to stay aligned for life. You’ll rethink how you set goals, communicate, and build your future together. Forget the fairytale. This is the science of staying in love for decades. Stay curious, stay conscious, and don’t just grow old together, grow better together.

Show notes:
(5:37) The study that shocked us
(9:01) 46% higher divorce risk explained
(10:28) Why missed check-ins matter
(11:47) How to create shared goals
(14:42) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(17:17) The power of time perspective
(22:20) Weekly “life optimization” meetings
(25:31) Calling your partner forward with humility
(29:05) Outro

Episode Reference:
The Effects of Lack of Joint Goal Planning on Divorce Over 10 Years -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yo796KxkvxeWrlo-KJgEjw1BzvVoZoln/view?usp=drive_link

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this fiery episode, they open the secret rhythm running your relationship and how it quietly shapes your moods, energy, and connection. Forget the “be more consistent” advice. What if you’re already consistent, just on a different wavelength? It’s science meets self-awareness with a twist of humor, honesty, and relationship real talk you won’t hear anywhere else. Tune in, sync up, and watch your relationship level up in ways that’ll surprise you.

Show notes:
(2:29) The 24-hour Vs. 28-day rhythm explained
(4:01) Why women think they lack consistency
(5:49) The lightbulb moment that changes everything
(7:04) The four hormonal “seasons” explained
(9:18) How emotions and body temperature fluctuate
(11:00) The Peaceful Period Project and resources
(12:12) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(14:42) How mismatched cycles cause disconnection
(17:06) The belief shift that improves relationships
(20:12) Are you operating on a 24- or 28-day cycle?
(23:39) Outro

Digital Asset:
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What if the real test of love isn’t passion, but safety? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down the difference between feeling comfortable and being safe. They reveal the top three signs you’re in an unsafe relationship, the cues your body gives when something feels “off,” and how to stop overriding your intuition. From unmet needs to emotional neglect, they explain how safety starts with awareness and grows through repair, not perfection. Whether you’re single or partnered, this episode will help you identify what a safe relationship feels like and how to build one grounded in trust, vulnerability, and calm. Don’t just settle for chemistry. Learn what safety really feels like. Hit play and find out.

Show notes:
(3:04) What safe relating really means
(5:00) Overriding intuition and ignoring red flags
(6:42) Defining what safety feels like
(9:30) High standards Vs. Psychological safety
(13:08) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(16:00) The truth about men and vulnerability
(20:21) Top 3 signs of an unsafe and safe relationship
(24:20) Outro

Digital Asset:
Safe Relationship Assessment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CpmwZ187J6Dspb4mqQ3a33grR3Wl0uHJ/view?usp=drive_link

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down why most relationships crumble under the weight of tradition and how to build a bond that actually stands the test of time. From skipping the wedding checklist to investing in what really matters. Together, they share real stories, hard truths, and a powerful tool that will completely change how you see love and commitment. Forget the highlight reel. This is about building your “we” on purpose, not pressure. Press play, and start building your forever, your way.

Show notes:
(2:17) Why the wedding industry misguides couples
(5:32) The real cost of chasing tradition
(8:34) Redefining what engagement means
(9:49) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(11:09) The core values exercise
(16:26) How three values shape your future
(18:56) Clarity over social pressure
(20:21) Outro

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What if everything you’ve been taught about love languages is outdated and keeping you from the connection you crave? In this raw and high-energy episode, Emilia and Alan break open The Five Love Languages No One Talks About, the real codes to emotional depth, passion, and unstoppable partnership. Forget surface-level affection, this is about conscious love that challenges, ignites, and transforms. If you’re ready to stop settling for “fine” and start building a love that’s alive, electric, and unbreakable, this episode will wake something up in you. It’s time to upgrade how you love. Press play and feel the fire.

Show notes:
(3:30) Why traditional love languages fall short
(5:01) The truth about unmet emotional needs
(8:10) Lessons from Hope Springs on connection
(10:47) The real reason couples stop expressing feelings
(14:43) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(16:29) Introducing the five conscious love languages
(19:00) How proactive thoughtfulness strengthens trust
(21:25) Conscious loving care that melts distance
(23:49) Building mutual mastery as a couple
(25:54) The power of loving challenge in growth
(29:29) Invitation to grow your love consciously
(31:43) Outro

Digital Assets:
Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/view

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In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share real stories about emotional intelligence, trust, and what it takes to truly be in tune with your partner. From reading micro-expressions to building honest communication, you’ll hear how small moments can shape the future of a relationship. Ready to stop missing the signals that matter most? Listen now and learn how to create the connection you’ve been searching for.

Show notes:
(1:09) Early conflict that built trust
(3:17) Reading micro-expressions and emotions
(6:15) Why men struggle with emotional intelligence
(9:12) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(12:50) Simple steps to tune into yourself
(14:21) How to tune into your partner
(17:11) Outro

Digital Assets:
Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/view

The Wheel of Emotions: “The Feel Wheel” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iZr7klGpnU7zYGKISXMylyOoWhKxDw55/view

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they reveal how emotional attunement can transform your relationship. Through powerful real-life coaching stories, a surprising Pixar metaphor, and simple tools like the emotions wheel, they show why validation and empathy, not quick fixes, are the key to lasting connection. Whether you’re newly together or years into marriage, this conversation will help you build emotional literacy, strengthen intimacy, and create a bond that lasts.

Show notes:
(2:12) Real coaching call with a young couple
(3:38) Top conscious love language: Trauma & triggers
(4:42) Inside Out metaphor on emotional validation
(6:40) Why sadness is a powerful connector
(8:41) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(10:22) Emotional literacy and the emotions wheel
(15:26) Simple practice: “A part of me feels…”
(16:52) Outro

Digital Assets:
Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/view

The Wheel of Emotions: “The Feel Wheel” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iZr7klGpnU7zYGKISXMylyOoWhKxDw55/view

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✨We do what we do best so you can do what you do best.
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Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!