Do you and your partner define commitment the same way? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the quiet power of true commitment. They share their personal “Code of Commitment,” a five-part framework that keeps their relationship grounded in honesty, empathy, and connection, even during life’s toughest moments. Whether you're newly dating or decades in, this episode will give you the clarity to stop relying on assumptions and start building a relationship rooted in trust, safety, and love.

Show notes:
(2:03) The Doom Loop Vs. Success Loop
(3:41) What does commitment mean
(6:21) Creating your code of commitment
(10:30) Protecting each other’s hearts
(11:42) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:06) Honoring autonomy without changing each other
(16:28) Staying connected before bed
(18:01) Code of Commitment
(20:41) Outro

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Does chaos keep finding its way into your relationships? In this soul-stirring episode, Emilia and Alan explore how hidden wounds from our past, unhealed generational trauma, and toxic family dynamics can quietly weave tension into our closest relationships. Through raw stories, heartfelt reflection, and a metaphor that lingers long after listening, they help you trace the true origin of your relationship struggles. Discover how to name the patterns, reclaim your power, and set loving boundaries that make room for connection. Whether you’re in a relationship or preparing your heart for one, this is your invitation to choose peace over patterns and healing over history.

Show notes:
(2:33) When the source is your parent
(7:27) The toxic lake metaphor
(11:07) How shame shapes identity
(13:01) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(15:32) Three signs of a drama source
(18:05) The pain of breaking cycles
(20:01) Reclaiming peace through boundaries
(23:22) Outro

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Love their soul, but check their behavior. In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the emotional tension that arises when one partner is more growth-oriented than the other. Through real client stories and personal reflections, they explore the difference between loving someone for who they are and trying to change them into who you want them to be. You’ll discover the power of belief vs. hope, why dragging someone up a mountain never works, and how to hold high standards without losing compassion. This episode offers truth, encouragement, and a fresh perspective on love and growth.

Show notes:
(3:31) The strain of uneven growth
(5:31) Loving them, holding standards
(7:16) Accept, set boundaries, or leave
(9:05) Hope versus belief in change
(11:48) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(14:56) Know your limits as a catalyst
(17:57) Love their essence, not behavior
(20:39) Outro

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What makes a great partner, and how do you become one? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down the five essential relationship skills every couple needs to grow together, not apart. From emotional regulation to honest communication and conflict repair, they don’t just name the skills, they show you how to practice them every day. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing for one, this conversation offers the clarity and tools to stop guessing and start growing.

Show notes:
(3:06) The five skills preview
(7:01) Most people never learn this
(9:29) Why emotional regulation comes first
(11:35) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:00) How to communicate your needs
(14:25) The right way to repair conflict
(15:17) Why trust hinges on honesty
(17:19) What true self-ownership looks like
(20:08) Practice, not perfection
(21:10) Your reference group shapes your love
(22:49) Outro

Digital Asset:
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Is your partner really too different, or is that just the story you’ve been telling yourself? In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore what that phrase often hides: a lack of understanding, unresolved values, or a quiet cry for help. You’ll learn how to decode mismatches using the 25 Conscious Love Languages and uncover whether the differences in your relationship are deal-breakers or opportunities for growth. With real coaching stories and powerful insights, this episode is a must-listen for couples, singles, and conscious partners who want to build something real.

Show notes:
(3:27) The power of love language mismatches
(6:09) Core values Vs. Core conflicts
(9:16) When differences are actually deal-breakers
(11:54) The doom loop in relationships
(12:20) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(14:09) What “too different” really means
(17:52) Cry for help or emotional exit?
(20:59) Real integration requires mutual respect
(25:19) Outro

Digital Asset:
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Better love begins with knowing how we give and receive. In this intimate episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the five fight languages that quietly shape our conflicts and connection. With heartfelt stories and thoughtful insights, they reveal how our default reactions can create distance instead of closeness. You’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, respond with more grace, and build the kind of emotional safety that invites deeper intimacy and lasting love.

Show notes:
(1:48) Falling for potential in relationships
(5:28) Abuse, wake-up moments, and self-worth
(6:39) The HALT acronym and trauma responses
(10:23) The five fight languages explained
(12:21) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:51) Connection techniques for each type
(17:44) Fight Lingo Bingo and why it helps
(21:32) When effort feels one-sided in love
(24:52) Outro

Digital Assets:
Fight Lingo Bingo and Connection Techniques PDFs -
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

What if love isn’t just about chemistry but about shared care for the life you’re building? In today’s soulful episode, Emilia and Alan explore what happens when one heart holds a higher standard for health. From silent misalignments to moments of deep recognition, they reflect on how the wellness of the body, mind, and soul shapes connection. For those already walking together or those waiting for the right hand to hold, this conversation is a gentle nudge to lead with love, speak with courage, and choose a future built on intention.

Show notes:
(2:37) Who has the higher standard?
(4:43) Falling for potential in love
(6:25) Fitness values and misalignment
(10:42) What shared intensity reveals
(12:42) Brain health, memory, and love
(14:28) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(16:25) How health impacts the future
(22:48) Courageous conversations about wellness
(28:03) Systems that help love last
(30:45) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they share a powerful communication tool called Clear The Air, a three-step process to help you express emotions, feel understood, and strengthen connection without jumping into fix-it mode. Discover how a simple three-minute practice can reduce resentment, build trust, and transform how you and your partner show up for each other. Perfect for couples, conscious singles, or anyone craving a deeper emotional connection.

Show notes:
(4:33) The “Clear The Air” method
(6:10) Share emotions without fixing
(8:29) Why emotional timing matters
(11:52) How small annoyances become big issues
(14:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(17:39) Most people were never taught this
(20:43) Visualizing emotional balance with inside out
(22:13) Emotional Vs. Strategic relationship tools
(25:44) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!