What happens when a master of human connection realizes he's barely talked about his most important role?

Guy Sengstock, co-founder of Circling and dialogical practices expert, joins me to explore the implicit nature of fatherhood. With a 22-year-old son and a 4-year-old, Guy shares raw insights on the wonder of witnessing consciousness emerge, the profound regret of signing away proximity to his eldest, and why aggression needs socialization, not suppression. We discuss how fathers teach most powerfully when they're not trying, the cosmological significance of rough-and-tumble play, and what it means to midwife young beings into self-awareness.

Key Takeaways:

• Why parenting happens most powerfully in implicit, unplanned moments
• The respect and otherness experienced during childbirth
• How physical play socializes healthy masculine aggression
• The deep regret of allowing distance from your child
• What it means to be present with wonder as a father
• How perspective becomes a father's greatest gift
• Why ending generational trauma matters more than legacy
• The importance of being fully present at birth and beyond

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Tony Elliott shares his journey raising two daughters through the lens of game styles, Love & Logic principles, and real-world trial and error. From tea parties to state championships, discover how understanding biological styles under pressure transforms parenting. Tony opens up about being harder on daughters versus sons, navigating different game styles between siblings, and why supporting the mother is the single most important job for any new dad. Whether you're a new dad podcast listener or raising teenagers, this conversation offers wisdom earned through decades of fatherhood.

Key Takeaways:

• How Love & Logic consequences with empathy shaped parenting decisions
• Understanding your child's biological game style reduces conflict
• Girl dads experience unexpected fulfillment in father-daughter relationships
• Supporting the mother is the primary job for new fathers
• You don't need all the answers right now—solve one problem at a time
• Being present at every event matters more than you realize
• Different game styles require different parenting approaches
• Sleep deprivation is the first problem to solve together
• Your job transitions from provider to supporter as kids grow
• The joy in their accomplishments surpasses any personal achievement

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This week on The Dad Manual, I’ve invited my friend Adam Hibble, father to 16-year-old Maya, to share his unconventional approach to modern fatherhood that began before pregnancy: a vision statement that evolved through playful teasing, open-ended questions, and countless short conversations. Adam reveals how his parenting style emerged from his own father's listening-first approach and the community of men around him. He opens up about the mistakes he made—including inadvertently limiting his daughter's emotional expression—and how he's worked to heal his own childhood wounds to break generational cycles. This parenting podcast explores the balance between fun and boundaries, the importance of apologizing when jokes don't land, and why being a dad means constantly learning on the job. Maya's confidence and emotional intelligence stand as testament to the power of being present, patient, and willing to do the hard work of self-reflection.

Key Takeaways:

• Create a parenting vision statement with your partner before your child arrives
• Model the ability to apologize when your attempts at humor or discipline don't land well
• Ask yourself "What would I have wanted at this age?" to guide your parenting decisions
• Focus on 1,000 short conversations rather than a few long, heavy talks
• Heal your own childhood wounds before trying to instill values you don't embody yourself
• Use playful teasing strategically to build resilience and humor in your children
• Practice listening more than talking and asking open-ended questions
• Allow children to express emotions without needing to categorize or justify them
• Take care of yourself first so you can better care for your family
• Remember that parenting is learn-as-you-go; you don't need all the answers upfront

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