Today we’re talking about the kind of resilience no one applauds because no one sees it. The quiet reps. The basics. The “Tuesday mornings” that actually shape how you lead when everything tilts. I’m sharing the moment I finally understood what the military had been teaching me all along… plus one Kobe Bryant story that every leader needs to hear.

💬 “Resilience isn’t built in the trauma — it’s built on Tuesday mornings.”

Ready to stop managing your lens and start mastering it? Book a Leadership Strategy Call to discover which of your three filters is running your life and how to finally see clearly. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

• Resilience comes from the basics you practice long before the pressure shows up
• Crisis doesn’t create strength — it reveals it
• Your “Tuesday habits” shape your team’s confidence and stability
• Clarity and presence build trust faster than perfection ever will

➡️ The Kobe story — and why skipping the basics is the fastest way to weaken your team.

Choose one Tuesday habit to practice this week — a pause, a clear conversation, or a small “what if” drill with your team.

Where in my leadership have I been skipping the basics… and how is it showing up in my team?

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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

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• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Crisis doesn’t reveal your plan — it reveals your posture.

Nobody hands you a syllabus for crisis leadership.

It just shows up, taps you on the shoulder and says "you're up." In this first episode of our Resilient Leadership series, we're diving into what actually happens when everything shifts and your team is looking at you, not the plan.

I share my experience on an Air Force crisis response team and why the person with the biggest title isn't always who you want leading when chaos hits. Plus, what my new client discovered when they realized they had zero idea who on their team could actually handle pressure.

Ready to stop managing your lens and start mastering it? Book a Leadership Strategy Call to discover which of your three filters is running your life and how to finally see clearly. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

1. The three crisis realities every leader must know (and why most leadership training misses them completely)
2. Why your team reads your breathing before they hear your words
3. The exact four things to say when crisis hits (short, clear, unshakeable, human)
4. How to identify who should actually be on your crisis team (hint: it's not about titles)
5. Why uncertainty spreads faster than facts and what to do about it
6. The difference between suppressing emotions and regulating them for your team

Your team isn't reading your crisis plan. They're reading your nervous system.

In crisis, people don't follow procedures - they follow your breathing pattern, your shoulder tension, that micro-pause before you speak. You don't need all the answers. You need to be the person who refuses to panic first. That's it. That's the whole game. Your calm becomes a resource your team borrows to survive.

Look at your team right now. If crisis hit tomorrow, who would you tap for communication? Who would study the room? Would it be you? If you don't know, that's your first step. Start observing who stays steady when small stressors hit. Those are your crisis leaders, regardless of their titles

• What is my default response when uncertainty hits - do I go silent or flood with information?

• Who do I need to be in order to lead (not what do I need to know)?

• When has my energy shifted an entire room, for better or worse?

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

You know that feeling when you walk into a room and instantly know who's going to irritate you? Or when feedback makes your body tense before your brain even processes the words? That's not intuition. That's your Leadership Lens at work. Today I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible filter that's making your decisions before you even realize it, and why this is the real reason all those leadership books aren't fixing what you thought they would.

💬 "Most leaders spend their whole careers trying to change what they're looking at instead of adjusting how they're seeing it."

Ready to stop managing your lens and start mastering it? Book a Leadership Strategy Call to discover which of your three filters is running your life and how to finally see clearly. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call

• Your Leadership Lens has 3 filters making decisions before you do: Core drivers (unchangeable), personality wiring (your 30-year-old autopilot), and internal narratives (stories on repeat)

• You're not broken, your lens is just outdated - like wearing scratched 20-year-old prescription glasses and wondering why you keep hitting the same walls

• Surface solutions can't fix root issues - It's like putting premium gas in a car with a broken transmission

• When you bring things to light, they lose power over you - This is why awareness without integration is just noise

• Your next level isn't about doing more, it's about seeing differently - And that starts with seeing your lens

➡️ The Reed Hastings story at minute 8 - How the Netflix CEO almost destroyed the company because his lens was "I'm smarter than everyone" and what shifted when he finally changed it. This is the pattern I see in every executive who's stuck.

This week, notice your physical reaction BEFORE your brain processes feedback. When someone challenges you in a meeting, pause and ask: "Is this my lens or is this actually happening?" Track what you discover. Your patterns will shock you.

"What criticism from my past am I still hearing in today's conversations? How is my 20-year-old lens affecting my current leadership?"

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025