We throw around words like they're interchangeable when they're not—and the difference matters. Weather vs. climate. Listening vs. hearing. Motion vs. progress. In leadership, we do this with self-awareness and emotional intelligence, treating them like synonyms when they're actually two distinct capabilities. I learned this the hard way as a young lieutenant walking into a room full of colonels and generals during a communication outage, knowing my triggers but needing to apply that knowledge under intense pressure. Self-awareness gave me the foundation, but emotional intelligence changed the outcome.

💬 "Self-awareness is knowing. Emotional intelligence is leading. Leaders need both."

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• Self-awareness is the foundation - knowing your strengths, blind spots, and triggers, but it's just step one, not the destination

• Emotional intelligence is the application - using that self-awareness to regulate, communicate, empathize, and connect with others

• Without emotional intelligence, awareness becomes self-absorption - knowing yourself without applying it wisely can make you seem arrogant or unapproachable

• Together they create sustainable leadership presence - people know what to expect from you because you can respond strategically instead of reactively

• Your customers/team don't remember the glitch, they remember how you recovered - it's not what happens, it's how you handle it that builds trust

➡️ There's a gap between knowing your triggers and being able to regulate them under pressure. Self-awareness without emotional intelligence is like having a foundation without building the house. You need both the inner clarity AND the ability to translate that into confident, strategic leadership presence.

This week, notice if you stop at awareness ("I was triggered by this") or if you apply it through emotional intelligence ("Now I'll use this knowledge to respond differently"). Don't just understand your patterns—use them strategically.

"Am I using my self-awareness to build stronger boundaries and say no to more things, or am I using it to push myself out of my comfort zone and lead with greater influence?"

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Thank you for being here, Friend. Knowledge alone isn't power anymore—it's what you do with it that creates influence. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

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Building emotional intelligence is like building a house—and most leaders are trying to pick paint colors before laying the foundation. I realized this when I built my house on 5 acres in Oklahoma. My excitement about fixtures and finishes had to wait because my builder reminded me: "First we pick the elevation and style. That informs everything else." Your leadership development works the same way. If you've read EI books, taken assessments, and attended workshops but still feel like you're winging it under pressure, you're not broken—you're just building on unstable ground.

💬 "Emotional intelligence without a system is just good intentions."

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• The 5 Dimensions of Impact Intelligence work systematically together: Identity Foundation, Growth Architecture, Leadership Expression, Strategic Vision, and Sustainable Success
• Most leaders skip Dimension 3 (Leadership Expression) where your internal clarity becomes external influence—your presence, communication patterns, and boundary-setting
• Random emotional intelligence tips don't work because they don't connect to your specific leadership wiring and core motivations
• High-impact leaders develop EI systematically, not randomly by understanding which dimension needs attention first
• Strategic clarity requires all 5 dimensions working together not just knowing your personality type or strengths

➡️ Dimension 3 is the missing link most leaders never develop. You can know your values, manage your triggers, and have clear vision, but if you can't translate that into how you show up in the room, none of it matters. It's the difference between being self-aware and being strategically expressive with that awareness.

Pause and ask yourself: Which of the 5 dimensions resonates most with where you feel stuck right now? Once you can name it, it loses its power over you.

"Which dimension feels most developed in my leadership right now, and which one feels like the missing piece that's holding me back?"

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Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

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Are you watching good people disengage or leave your team? Seeing departments operate like separate islands instead of one cohesive unit? The problem isn't your strategy or your people—it's that you're leading through your own lens instead of seeing things through theirs.

After two decades of guiding executives through team dynamics, I can tell you the leaders who master this aren't the ones with the most experience. They're the ones who understand that every person on their team has a different operating system. And once you learn to see through their lens, everything changes.

💬 "People don't leave hard work. They leave leadership that doesn't see them."

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• Surface-level leadership manages behaviors and asks "What are they doing wrong?" instead of "Why is this showing up?"

• Pattern-level leadership understands motivations and starts asking curious questions about the why behind behaviors

• Identity-level leadership unlocks each person's unique design—like giving every chef the right tools instead of forcing everyone to use the same saute pan

• The cost of lens-blindness includes high turnover, siloed departments, and losing your best people to organizations that actually see them

• Strategic questioning transforms resistance into engagement: "What's your thought process here?" beats "Why won't you just do what I asked?" every time

➡️ When you have to repeat yourself three times to get through to a team member, that's not a process problem—it's a lens problem. Stop forcing your approach and start seeing their brilliance.

Next time someone on your team pushes back or seems disengaged, resist the urge to explain your position. Instead, ask: "What's your thought process here?" or "What are your concerns?" Then actually listen to understand their lens.

"Which team member am I trying to force into my way of working, and what might they need instead to bring their best?"

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025