What else but a bit of patriarchy to get us hot and bothered this week. Eren and Ashley tackle 2 particularly potent examples of Fundamentalist Cults. Hear IBLF stories, discussing the "Shiny Happy People" documentary as well as a book written by Tia Levings "A Well Trained Wife." They also tell the story of the FLDS from Rullen Jeffs to Warren Jeffs and the chaos that ensues.

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0:00-3:07 Intro and Trigger Warning

3:08-7:57 Characteristics of a Cult

7:58-23:57 Example #1 of Fundamentalist Cults- IBLP and Shiny Happy People

23:58-28:47 Example #2 of Fundamentalist Cults- Tia Levings and "A Well Trained Wife"

28:45-54:51 Example #3 of Fundamentalist Cults- FLDS

54:52-1:00:02 How do cults trap people?

1:00:03-1:04:18 The message of Jesus, domestic violence hotline, and outro

Eren and Ashley take on Lizzie's Lengthy List of Questions in our first ever Q&A! We cover many corners of life, from worst foods and morning routines, to things that make us sad and how we define love.

Email us at hellotheoutburst@gmail.com. We'd love to hear your thoughts, comments, concerns, or more ideas for questions for future episodes!

0:00-1:09 Intro

1:10-2:08 What is a food you would NEVER eat?

2:09-2:33 If you could learn one new language instantly, what would it be?

2:34-5:07 What is your morning routine?

5:08-7:09 If you were to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?

7:10-9:15 What was your first job?

9:16-17:07 What book are you currently reading?

17:08-18:39 What is something your kids do well, that you wish you were better at?

18:40-20:21 If you got to choose where you grew up, where would you choose?

20:22-22:41 If you could only keep one piece of technology in your house, what would you keep?

22:42-26:58 What is something that makes you feel sad?

26:59-29:12 What is the weirdest dream you can remember?

29:13-31:35 If your life was a boardgame, what boardgame would it be?

31:36-34:23 What is your definition of love?

34:24-38:39 What is something you're proud of yourself for?

38:40-end What is something you're proud of each other for?

With Eren out of town this week, we bring you a minisode! Lizzie is on this week to share her birth story of induction, epidural, and many, many hours in labor. They also get into postpartum anxiety, how intense it can be, but also the help that's available.

Enjoy this little wild ride of a story and we'll be back in two weeks with another regular Outburst with both Eren and Ashley.

If you'd like to send in a question for our upcoming Q&A Pod, email us at hellotheoutburst@gmail.com

We'd love to ask your questions on the show!

0:00-1:17 Lizzie's on to share her birth story

1:18-6:45 Pregnancy- morning sickness and being pregnant with 2 sisters!

6:45-9:09 To induce or not to induce...

9:10-26:22 Labor time- water breaking, terrible contractions, and Mateo the epidural guy

26:23-29:59 Baby is here!

30:00-35:40 Postpartum recovery the good and the ugly

35:40-36:42 Final Thoughts

Today we talk about being moms who also work other jobs on the side. There seems to be some negative ideas around being a mom who has some side hustles, and we want to chat through how we work as moms and why we chose to do it that way.

It's hard to be a mom, but it's also not impossible. Eren and Ashley talk flexibility in work structure, some of the downsides, but also the incredible help in community.

0:00-0:55 Intro and Chit Chat

0:56-18:02 Deciding to go back to work after kids

18:03-22:05 Rant about Maternity Leave in the U.S.

22:06-28:39 Back to Ashley's working mom experience

28:40-33:26 Figuring out time off as a contracted employee

33:54-37:33 Comments people make about working moms

37:34-39:13 People who think work from home jobs are just fake

39:14-43:29 When people only talk to you about your kid...and nothing else (also Ashley's job as an ESL teacher)

43:30-49:44 TAKE the TIME to not lose yourself

49:45-56:58 Lizzie's Take

56:59-1:02:34 Final Thoughts and one more awkward story...

Today we have 2 crazy birth stories for you. One from Ashley and one from Eren. From C-section to seizures these births are wild. Join us as we share our experiences, some of our fears along the way, as well as the best moments of meeting our kids for the first time. Also, a sidebar about the total lack of knowledge of the female body from our 7th grade health classes.

0:00-1:41 Intro and Trigger Warning

1:42-33:48 Ashley’s Pregnancy and Birth Story

33:49-1:07:29 Eren’s 2nd Pregnancy and Birth Story

1:07:30-1:10:17 Final Thoughts and Outro

What is something that a woman can experience that is simultaneously one of the most incredible and challenging things she's ever done in her life? Go through pregnancy!

Join us as we chat through some of the annoying things people say and do to pregnant women, from aggressive personal questions, to weird comments, to random touching, oh my!

Then Eren shares her first pregnancy and birth story, which is, just a little bit of a wild ride.

0:00-3:16 Intro and Trigger Warning

3:17-13:56 Annoying things people say and do to pregnant women

13:57-20:06 Getting touched while pregnant stories

20:07-57:07 Eren's Birth Story

• 20:07-28:35 Pregnancy
• 28:36-57:07 A Version, Induction, Labor and Birth

57:08-85:17 Final Thoughts and Outro

Is modest really hottest?

Join Eren, Ashley, and Lizzie as they discuss modesty "rules" that they had growing up, what the Bible really says about modesty, and the challenges of raising kids in a world of extremes.

0:00-2:20 Is modest hottest?

2:21-6:04 What do you think of when I say the word "modesty"?

6:05-15:55 "The Rules" growing up

15:56-26:39 Youth Group modesty stories

26:40-32:15 What the Bible really says about modesty...

32:16-35:42 My lust is my problem

35:43-36:41 Jesus interacting with a scantily clad woman

36:42-38:24 Side Bar: Breastfeeding

38:25-46:16 Let's talk raising modest kids

46:17-54:16 Lizzie's Take

54:17-55:18 Final Thoughts

When a man and a woman get married who provides? Who stays home with the kids? And who does what housework?

Today we chat traditional gender roles and why most of them...just don't work for us.

0:00-4:04 Intro

4:05-16:33 Gender Roles at Work

16:34-28:39 Gender Roles once Kids come along

28:40-37:07 Gender Roles in the Kitchen

37:08-47:07 What traditional roles DO you do? ...and more non traditional roles

47:08-55:32 Lizzie's Take

55:33-59:30 Final Thoughts