For years, I looked at the Proverbs 31 woman and felt like I could never measure up. She seemed perfect, tireless, and frankly... impossible. But at 52, God opened my eyes to what this biblical passage actually means—and it changed everything.

In this Season 2 compilation episode, I'm sharing the most impactful moments from our journey through Proverbs 31, including:

The true meaning of "virtuous woman" in the Old Testament (hint: it's not quiet or timid)

How the Proverbs 31 woman is actually a warrior, not a doormat.

Practical ways to pray for your sons, daughters, and spouse

Biblical wisdom for navigating difficult parenting conversations

How to discover where God is calling you to use your voice

Finding freedom in the skillset you've been given.

The word translated as "virtuous" in Proverbs 31 is the Hebrew word "Chayil"—which means strength, power, valor, and warrior. This woman isn't just nice and subdued. She's Lady Bellator: royalty with a scepter AND a sword.

Whether you're a mom, wife, entrepreneur, or all of the above, this episode will help you see yourself the way God sees you—as a woman of strength who can live in the fullness of who He's called you to be, inside and outside of your home.

In This Episode:

Lady Bellator identity and the warrior woman concept

Being a spiritual warrior and standing in the gap for your family

Speaking life and praying Scripture over your children

Setting an example for your daughter's future relationships

Praying for your husband's eyes, heart, and purity

Teaching kids biblical wisdom about gray areas

Stewarding your time and energy as a leader

Finding your calling where the enemy has tried to silence you

Understanding that Proverbs 31 will look a little different in each woman's life

If you've ever felt discouraged by Proverbs 31 or wondered how to balance being a devoted wife and mother while living out your God-given purpose in other areas, this episode is for you.

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Eileen Noyes closes out 2025 with three life-changing questions to carry into the new year: (1) Challenge your mindset, (2) Go to the source, and (3) Who does God specifically say you are? She shares how seeing Voddie Baucham describe the ideal godly man triggered discouragement about her remarriage until God reminded her that every couple struggles, and He doesn't work from a cookie-cutter mold. In this episode of The Unsidelined Life podcast Eileen reveals the shocking biblical definition of "woman of virtue" from Proverbs 31, explaining that the Hebrew word "chayil" doesn't mean nice, soft, or polite but rather strength, power, valor, warrior, and part of an army.

Eileen challenges listeners to examine where their beliefs about womanhood come from (the NFL world, religious teachings, cultural expectations, the world's standards) versus what God actually says, then search out the meaning of their own name to discover their specific calling. She shares how her name Eileen means radiant, light, torch, and bright, confirming multiple times people told her she was a light before she even knew her name's meaning, and how she intentionally named all eight of her children with Arabic and biblical names that carry purpose they're now living out.

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Spirit, Soul, and Body: Ways to Stop the Holiday Meltdown. Eileen shares nine practical ways to avoid freaking out during the holiday chaos, broken into three categories: spirit, soul, and body. After hosting over 20 guests in three weeks, including family, friends, and work connections, she reveals what actually works to maintain peace when your house is full, laundry is piled up, and everyone needs something from you. She discusses how the enemy uses the very things working for you (like morning routines) to distract you from God, why positioning yourself in a designated space matters more than you think, and the importance of being honest with God when you don't even know what to say. Eileen emphasizes being humble and apologetic when you mess up, choosing thankfulness over complaint when you could list a hundred things wrong, and being gracious with yourself when beds aren't made and meals are scraped together. She shares her maintenance journey after losing the last 10 pounds through menopause, introduces Raretra as the product helping her stay balanced, and explains why being a food snob (only indulging in tiramisu and dark chocolate) prevents mindless eating.

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Eileen explores Proverbs 31:8 and the call to speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, revealing how every woman is designed to take down a giant and be a voice for someone else. In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen walks through five questions that expose your true calling: Where are your burdens? Where has the devil tried to silence you? What are you wrestling with? Where is your hurt and trauma? What have you gone through that someone needs to hear? Eileen shares how God highlighted Ephesians 6:12 repeatedly over three days, reminding her that we don't wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers. She discusses the difference between wrestling with doubt (from the enemy), wrestling with resistance (also from the enemy), and wrestling through refining (from the Lord preparing you for your calling). Eileen reveals how her own journey from brokenness in college athletics and the NFL world to helping women know their value shows that where the devil tries to silence you is often where God is calling you. She emphasizes that you may need healing before you can be the voice for others, introducing her coaching program Healed Mom Restored Home as a path to restoration so women can show up differently for those they're called to serve.

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In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes tackles Proverbs 31:6-7 about giving strong drink to those in distress and challenges listeners to handle holiday stress differently than the world does. Right in the thick of birthday season with 14+ people in her house, Eileen shares five practical tools she uses to avoid holiday meltdowns: asking "in the grand scheme of things" before reacting, believing situations are done FOR you not TO you, speaking what you desire instead of complaining, using extra morning time to get ahead, and applying process of elimination to overwhelming tasks. She gets real about a flat tire in downtown LA minutes from their destination that could have ruined their Santa Barbara trip, explaining how choosing attitude over reaction turned crisis into a teaching moment. Eileen breaks down why waking at 4 AM to tidy, pray, and prep dinner in the slow cooker eliminates stress later, and how breaking overwhelming messes into small elimination tasks keeps you from freaking out on your kids. She addresses the necessity of the enemy concept, explaining why the devil throws obstacles right before your breakthrough and how recognizing his strategy helps you push through discouragement when launching something new.

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In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes breaks down Proverbs 31:5 about rulers forgetting justice when they drink and challenges listeners to take alcohol out of the verse and put something else in. What's YOUR drink? What consumes you and causes you to forget the needs of those depending on you for leadership? Eileen gets honest about her own "drink" during the NFL wife years when shopping addiction consumed her attention while her kids were neglected in front of screens. She challenges moms to examine what impairs their judgment: scrolling social media, bitterness over a fight with your spouse, unforgiveness that makes you mentally absent, work obsession, or the "I'm not good enough" mindset that keeps you from making impact. Eileen identifies the three ways the enemy works in this area: distraction, discouragement, and deterrence, explaining how each one pulls you away from leading those who need you. She shares how waking at 4 AM to fold laundry while worshiping and praying allows her to be available when her family needs her, and offers Isaiah 26:3 as the antidote: keeping your mind fixed on God produces perfect peace that eliminates the need for numbing, distraction, or consumption.

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In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes continues her teaching on Proverbs 31:4 about kings not guzzling wine by showing listeners exactly how she breaks down Bible verses to make it practical and applicable. As a mother who's navigated eight kids through divorce, cult situations, and rebuilding life, Eileen shares the five specific questions she asks when approaching Scripture: Who is God talking to? What are the physical implications? Why would someone do this? What example am I setting? Am I above reproach? She gets vulnerable about conversations with her 21-year-old son who wanted to drink after turning legal age, explaining how she guided him to his own conviction rather than forcing rules on him. Eileen addresses why she chooses not to drink even though it's permissible, breaking down whether alcohol is being used as a crutch for stress or socializing, and why leaders need clear judgment. She also tackles the "family devoted woman" lie that makes mothers think denying themselves means total neglect and burnout, explaining why the oxygen mask principle matters and how being stuck in your wounds prevents people from receiving the gifts God gave you to share.

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In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes uses Proverbs 31:4 to explore the difference between legalistic rules and convictions formed through a personal relationship with God. She shares how her strict no-alcohol policy during her first marriage unintentionally taught her kids that alcohol itself was sinful—and how those rules collapsed during her divorce. A conversation with her eight-year-old son about two Christian families with opposite views on alcohol helped her teach that conviction should come from God, not pressure from others. Eileen also discusses her journey with yoga, how seeking God’s guidance led to healing after hip surgery, and why forcing convictions damages relationships. She explains that true transformation happens when conviction becomes internal, and while some biblical instructions are clear, others require seeking God personally.

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