What do you do when your partner just won’t change?You’ve done the work, communicated your needs, practiced patience—and it’s still not shifting.

In this heart-opening episode, Mike & Courtney dive into one of the most common questions couples face:

“What if I’m evolving and my partner isn’t?”

They reveal the hidden dynamics underneath this frustration—why we try to change others, what “counterwill” really is, and how to find your own clarity instead of waiting for someone else’s.

🌿 You’ll learn:

• Why “trying to change your partner” always backfires

• The real reason your partner resists transformation

• How to move from control to curiosity

• The link between self-abandonment and resentment

• How to know when to accept, stay, or lovingly let go

• A powerful journal prompt to reconnect to your truth
  

📍 Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships

01:00 When Your Partner Won’t Change

03:00 The Confusion Crossroad: Stay or Go?

06:00 Love, Conditions, and Acceptance

10:00 Real Stories of Growth and Boundaries

15:00 The Power of Bringing Truth to the Table

22:00 Trying to Change vs. True Relating

27:00 Counterwill: Why Pressure Doesn’t Work

31:00 Facing Your Own Fear of Change

36:00 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You

42:00 Taking the First Step—Without a Guarantee

48:00 Acceptance vs. Dealbreakers

52:00 From Codependence to Self-Love

58:00 Journal Prompt + Together Community Invitation

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We’ve all been there—your partner is right beside you, saying all the right things, but somehow… you can’t feel them.

In this deep and tender episode, Mike and Courtney explore why it’s hard to receive love, even when it’s right in front of us. They reveal the hidden forces—like our negativity bias and survival wiring—that keep us stuck in complaint, disconnection, and old stories, and share how to move back into felt connection.

🌿 You’ll learn:

• Why your brain resists receiving love (and how to rewire it)

• The “ANTs” that crawl through every relationship: Automatic Negative Thoughts

• • How to spot when your inner child is running the show
  • A nervous-system-based way to reconnect when you can’t feel each other
• • The simple trick that transforms disconnection into intimacy
    

• 📍 Chapters:

  00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships

  01:00 Why It’s Hard to Receive Love

  03:00 The Negativity Bias & “Automatic Negative Thoughts”

  07:00 How the Brain Gets Addicted to Complaining

  11:00 Common Triggers that Block Connection

  14:00 The Inner Child vs. the Healthy Adult

  19:00 Relearning How to Receive Love

  23:00 Receiving as a Felt Sense in the Body

  27:00 How Presence Changes Everything

  32:00 Guiding Connection Through Curiosity

  36:00 The Art of Staying in Your Seat

  39:00 Daily Practices for Receiving

  45:00 The 90% Rule: Seeing What’s Here

  47:00 Bonus Practice + Together Community Invitation

  
  

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What if motherhood is sacred work and how we change the world?

In this tender and powerful solo episode, Courtney shares how motherhood itself is medicine—a sacred path of rewiring your lineage, healing ancestral trauma, and restoring the balance of love in the world.

She speaks about how mothers can move beyond “doing the actions” and into the deeper embodiment of the Medicine Mama — the mother who transforms her nervous system, rewires patterns, and births a new world through presence, consciousness, and devotion.

🌿 You’ll learn:

• Why motherhood is not just a role, but a spiritual practice
• How to rewire generational patterns through your body and nervous system
• The difference between “thinking” motherhood and being motherhood
• What it means to be a Medicine Mama and embody the Holy Mother archetype
• A 3-step practice to begin healing patterns within yourself, your children, and your lineage

📍 Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships

01:00 What It Means to “Do” Motherhood

04:00 The Lineage & Cultural Patterns We Inherit

10:00 The Nervous System and Generational Rewiring

17:00 Becoming the Medicine Mama

20:00 How Healing Ripples Into Your Children

28:00 Rewriting Lineage Through Presence

34:00 Motherhood as Spiritual Practice

39:00 The Role of Sisterhood and Support

46:00 The 3-Step Practice for Repatterning

49:00 Invitation to The Holy Mama Membership

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