On Todays episode I interviewed my 20 year old daughter Amity about her experience of overcoming insecurity ahead of the curve. We also chat about her thoughts on:

Readiness for change. How to increase it, and why you can’t get away with pretending to be ready.

The power of the clean coaching space to facilitate lasting change.

Accusations, agreements and dealing with daddy issues.

How to discover the defining moments that created insecurity in the first place.

Why gamification may be the only way into the journey of overcoming insecurity for most people.

Why it is easy to underestimate the hard work around rewriting the story and the importance of being prepared for the pressure test.

And, where psychedelics fit in the process and what conditions make them safe.

On today’s episode:

Dreams are not random noise. They are invitations to process the unreconciled data from your waking life. If you reconcile, you get to move forward. If you don’t, you stay stuck, looping through the same unresolved problems again and again. Cracking your dreams as codes reveals truths about your story, your fears, and the permission you have withheld from yourself. I’ll show you how I am using ChatGPT in a precise and powerful way to fast-track my dream interpretation and how that is dramatically accelerating my personal growth

And personal work does not exist in a vacuum. This week Barack Obama said, “It is fair to say that 80% of the world’s problems involve old men hanging on, who are afraid of death and insignificance and they won’t let go.” He is right. Insecure wankers are leading the world into chaos. And while I cannot fix them, I can show you how to remove the insecurity in your own life so their madness has no resonance in you. That is the global “why” behind The Insecurity Project.

I also talk about travel as teacher and what my European trip revealed about finding yourself in a wonderful game of hide and seek.

And finally why The Unhindered Collective is the best room I have ever built for doing this work together.

Let me tell you the story of my Sunday. Not because anything spectacular happened, but because it unfolded with such flow and synchronicity that it felt like life and I were playing the same tune. Every moment carried love, creativity, humour, connection, and timing so perfect it was impossible to dismiss as pure coincidence.

What made it extraordinary was that I experienced myself as both Jaemin and God at the same time. I was the giver and the receiver, the wave and the ocean. Life flowing through me and life happening to me all seamlessly, in one loop.

This episode is about that paradox, but even more, it’s about radical self-trust. Because without self-trust, life can never feel safe. You’ll manage yourself, outsource decisions, wait for permission, and second-guess every impulse. But with self-trust, the system is clean. The loop closes. As Rumi says “What you seek is seeking you” and it arrives right on time.

I’ll share the story of that day and the dream that capped it off.

And finally, I’ll show you a clear, practical way to rebuild self-trust when it’s been lost. Step by step, you can reverse the loop of insecurity, make the apology that restores safety, so that you can return to living in sync with yourself and with life and rediscover the joy of being human and divine at the same time.

The Unhindered Podcast - Episode 322: The Value of Being Limited

We chase the idea of being limitless, but what if the key to true fulfilment lies in embracing our limitations? In this episode, I explore the truth that being human means living with limits. It’s within these very limits that the richness of life is found. I’ll dive into which arbitrary limitations come from our minds, culture, and stories, and should be cast off and then highlight the limitations that are essential to our humanity. These limits help us fully appreciate the wonder of being neither fully divine nor completely animalistic, but authentically human.

Today’s guest is Jennifer, who has just completed The Unhindered Experience coaching process with me.

This is a beautifully honest conversation about what really happens when someone commits to doing the deep work of resolving insecurity. Jennifer shares openly about where she got stuck, what it was like when she got offended with me during the process, and why that moment ended up being so important.

She also speaks about how this experience was different from anything else she’d tried — and what finally caused the breakthrough she’d been searching for (hint: it wasn’t me).

If you’ve ever wondered what this work looks like from the inside, this episode will give you a real and raw insight into what’s possible when you face the truth and stay the course.

On today’s episode, Amity is back in the host chair helping me unpack the most common mistakes people make when it comes to dealing with their insecurities.

If you would like to eradicate insecurity from your life so that you are able to be at your best where it matters most, here is what NOT to do.

These simple mistakes are made for a variety of reasons, but each one of them immediately takes you out of the proven path for overcoming insecurity for good.

Listen in to find out each of the top 5 mistakes to make sure you are not making any of them, and to discover what to do instead.

On this episode, my daughter Amity takes over the podcast and turns the microphone onto me.

For all the new listeners and those just beginning the process of solving their insecurity problem, Amity interviews me on all the basics so you can know exactly where to start.

Even if you’ve been wrestling with the fear of not being good enough for years, this episode will help you come back to basics and understand the only path to becoming unhindered from all self doubt, limiting beliefs and insecurities.

You’ll find:

A clear, step by step summary of the seven essential practices for overcoming insecurity.

Practical examples from both of us about how each of these practices apply in the real world.

An understanding of why personal insecurity is such a predictable and solvable problem.

And, some key mistakes to avoid along the way.

On today’s episode, I’ve compiled the 10 most useful skills from the life-coaching world.

15 years ago, the life-coaching skillset was a missing technology in my tool kit for helping people grow and change and find effective solutions to their most painful problems. Although I was often privileged enough to be invited into people’s lives to deal with their greatest challenges, in hindsight, my heart was always in the right place, but I definitely lacked the skills and tools to facilitate lasting change.

Maybe you’ll find these skill are a missing technology in your life too.

I’m convinced that life-coaching skills (when used well) can only add value to your life and those around you, even if you have no intention of becoming a full-time professional coach.

Over the last 15 years I’ve been a coach, here are my 10 favourite life-coaching skills that are applicable in any area of life, guaranteed to make you healthy, wealthy and wise.