In this episode of the Why, Dad? podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad explore the profound question of whether to have children. They delve into the societal and personal implications of parenthood, discussing the joys and challenges of raising a family. The conversation touches on the importance of understanding one's motivations and the impact of children on personal growth and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical reflections, they aim to provide listeners with insights into the decision-making process surrounding parenthood.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why “should you have kids?” might be the wrong question
• Not feeling equipped and why that’s more normal than you think
• Fear of screwing kids up and what actually matters instead
• Freedom, travel, and how priorities shift across life seasons
• Why love alone isn’t enough without intention
• Purpose, responsibility, and choosing fatherhood consciously

Who this episode is for:

• Men on the fence about becoming dads
• Aspiring fathers thinking about the future
• Current dads reflecting on their why
• Anyone wrestling with purpose, commitment, and responsibility

Mentioned in this episode:

• The idea that reflection matters more than certainty
• The role of intention over perfection
• How community, uncles, mentors, and parents all shape kids

In this episode of the Why Dad podcast, hosts Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad engage in a deep conversation with Larry Hagner, founder of the Dad Edge and author of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood. Larry shares his personal journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a dedicated father of four boys. The discussion emphasizes the importance of connection, community, and the pursuit of meaningful relationships in fatherhood. Larry provides practical advice for new dads, highlighting the significance of prioritizing marriage and fostering psychological safety in conversations with children. The episode concludes with insights on building a legacy of love and leadership for future generations.

What we cover:

• Larry’s fatherhood origin story and turning point
• Why good intentions aren’t enough
• Fatherhood as a learnable skill
• The importance of men’s community
• Psychological safety for kids
• Why strong marriages create safe homes
• Leading your family instead of drifting

Find Larry Hagner:

• Website: https://thedadedge.com
• Podcast: The Dad Edge Podcast
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge
• Mastermind: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind
• Book: The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood

Who you choose to build a life with shapes far more than your present. It shapes your legacy.

In this episode, Paul and Andrew have an honest, wide-ranging conversation about how choosing a partner influences the kind of family, values, and future you leave behind. They talk about commitment, alignment, communication, growth, and what it really means to build a legacy of love that extends beyond your own lifetime.

From marriage and dating to parenting and long-term vision, this episode challenges dads and aspiring dads to think beyond chemistry and convenience and ask a deeper question. Are we building something together that’s worth passing on?

If you’ve ever wondered how your relationship choices affect your kids, your future, and the kind of man you’re becoming, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How the partner you choose influences your legacy
• Why alignment of values matters more than perfection
• Commitment as a daily choice, not just a feeling
• Growing together instead of drifting apart
• Communication as the foundation of long-term connection
• Legacy as love, growth, and continuity, not just a name
• What single men and aspiring dads should be thinking about now
• How couples can intentionally shape the future of their family

Whether you’re married, dating, or thinking about the future, this episode invites you to reflect on what kind of legacy you’re building and who you’re building it with.