When you’re married to an alcoholic, it feels almost impossible not to keep watch over his drinking. Maybe you’ve counted bottles, checked the liquor cabinet, or tracked every sip at dinner—hoping that if you could just measure the problem, you could somehow control it.

In this episode, we’ll talk about why monitoring an alcoholic’s drinking doesn’t work and how it keeps you trapped in a cycle of anxiety, hypervigilance, and codependency. Addiction hijacks the brain, and no amount of checking or policing can make your husband choose sobriety. His recovery is his responsibility—not yours.

You’ll learn:

• Why watching his every move fuels your fear instead of giving peace.
• How addiction and alcoholism shift accountability away from him when you try to manage it.
• The emotional cost of living like a detective in your own home.
• What it looks like to release control and reclaim your peace in Christ.

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe if I just keep track, I can get ahead of this,” this episode will show you a healthier way forward. Your husband’s sobriety is not your responsibility—but your peace, your healing, and your walk with God are.

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When gaslighting leaves you questioning your reality and your worth, it’s easy to spiral into anger, defensiveness, or despair. As wives, we long for our husbands to meet our emotional needs, but the truth is—no spouse can carry that weight fully. And when addiction and gaslighting are present, the gap feels even bigger than we ever imagined.

In this episode, I share how I’ve learned to regulate my emotions in the face of hurtful, confusing words. You’ll hear:

• Why it’s dangerous to seek validation from a spouse who cannot give it.

• Practical ways to counteract gaslighting without losing your peace.

• How knowing who I am in Christ steadies me when my marriage feels like less than I ever expected.

• Why Galatians 5:22 reminds me that the Holy Spirit equips me with self-control—even when I’m tempted to lash back in anger.

If you’ve ever thought, “I didn’t sign up for this—I expected so much more,” this episode will give you encouragement and practical tools to hold your ground in truth and respond with Spirit-led self-control.

📩 Do you have a question you’d like me to cover in a future episode, or a testimony of what God is doing in your life? Does your husband have a question for my husband? We are working on building our next interviews! Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

Living with alcoholism in your marriage can leave you feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. The lies, broken promises, and constant chaos can make you wonder if hope is even possible. If you’ve ever whispered, “I can’t keep doing this,” this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, I share 3 Christ-centered, practical tips to help you take one small step forward when you feel hopeless and defeated. These aren’t about fixing your husband—they’re about helping you anchor your heart, care for yourself, and invite God into the exhaustion.

You’ll learn:

• Where your hope belongs when his choices keep breaking it.

• Simple acts of self-care that bring life back into your day—like stepping outside in the sunshine, turning on praise music, or moving your body to clear the heaviness.

• How to invite God into your weariness, trusting Him to carry what feels impossible.

Hopelessness doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you need fresh ways to steady your soul in Christ. With Him, you can take the next step, even in the storm.

📩 Do you have a question you’d like me to cover on the show, or a testimony of how God is meeting you in this journey? Email me at https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

Addiction, Co-Dependency, Boundaries, Alcoholic, Marriage, Hope