Have you ever asked yourself, “If he really loved us, why won’t he stop drinking?”

You’re not alone. So many Christian wives live in this painful confusion—trying to love, pray, and reason their way through addiction, only to feel rejected, unloved and unseen.

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we unpack the truth about the addicted brain and why love alone can’t undo addiction. You’ll hear:

✅ Why addiction hijacks the brain’s survival system—and why it’s not a matter of willpower or love. ✅ How logic and heartfelt pleas fall short when the brain is controlled by substance dependence. ✅ Why advice from people who don’t understand addiction often hurts more than it helps. ✅ A personal story of the naive stage of early addiction and how we think we can snap them out of it, but realizing that his addiction is stronger than we think. ✅ What it means to pray for your husband’s eyes to be opened by God in His timing.

Understanding this doesn’t make it easier—but it helped me stop taking the pain personally. There is always hope, because God is still working behind the scenes in ways you can’t see.

IT IS NOT TOO LATE! Join the Holiday Survival Course, created for wives of alcoholics who want to identify the options you have in situations, set boundaries with grace, and focus on God’s presence in the midst of the chaos. Special Holiday Course, BUT the tools you learn are applied year-long! 👉 https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course

📩 Have a question you’d like answered in a future episode? Want to share anything with me? Email hello@wifeontherocks.com.

Have you ever found yourself drawn into a heated or emotional conversation with your husband after he’s been drinking—only to regret it the next day when he doesn’t remember, denies it happened, or twists your words? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’ll talk about why refusing to engage in conversation when alcohol is involved is not cold or controlling—it’s wise, protective, and biblical. Learn about the ONE boundary that I had to set in our home when addiction was taking over everything! Come along on this journey where co-dependency develops boundaries to deal with alcoholism in a way that can protect in the hard moments of gaslighting and conversations that spiral quickly!

You’ll learn:

• Why alcohol changes how people hear and process words.
• The logic behind disengaging (you wouldn’t debate with someone who’s not in their right mind).
• Why engaging feels like betraying yourself—and how to stop.
• What to do instead of arguing or trying to reason.
• How faith and boundaries can coexist without shame or guilt.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between silence and chaos, desiring to have a close relationship rooted in healthy communication, but instead wind up in an argument that goes nowhere, this episode will help you choose peace—and know that walking away doesn’t mean giving up. It is an essential boundary at times to protect your heart.

👉 Join the Holiday Survival Course to learn practical ways to navigate this season.

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We are not helpless in this cycle, although it often feels that way, there are many things that we can be doing to walk in peace TODAY. Everything that I talk about on the Podcast and SO MUCH MORE!! The best part is that I am teaching LIVE for these 5 weeks and with interactive components, you can reach out for help and support as we go along! At the end of the 5 weeks you will have worked through the common traps this time of year and have built a plan specific for your family that you can rely on any day of the year!

It is like having the podcast (and me) in your pocket. Encouragement for 5 weeks straight!! Wrapped in beautiful paper and tied with a bow. A GIFT for YOU this Christmas!!

1) Guarding your mind from Gaslighting and walking in Truth

2) Recognize unhealthy patterns and how to break them

3) Parenting Challenges, A Child’s Perspective, Traditions and Scheduling

4) Boundaries that WORK for YOUR family

5) Protecting your mind from the mental spiral on the hard days

Don’t walk this path alone again! Find support, connection, and hope as we navigate the unpredicatability together, build a road map that works for your family, and have a plan designed especially for YOU in the moments that are too painful for words. Get your Hot Cocoa and snuggly blanket and let’s talk about how this year could look different!

Course begins in ONE Week on October 21st. Click here for full details and to grab your seat!!

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👉 Need personalized support? Book a 1:1 coaching session or send your questions to hello@wifeontherocks.com. There are a few spots left before Thanksgiving!

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband and thought, “Am I crazy?” You’re not. You may be experiencing gaslighting—one of the most confusing and painful behaviors that often shows up in alcoholic marriages.

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re going back to the basics. You’ll learn what gaslighting really is, how it makes you doubt your memory and emotions, and why it leaves you feeling like you can’t trust yourself.

We’ll talk about: ✅ How alcohol and denial fuel gaslighting in relationships ✅ Common gaslighting phrases and how they twist reality ✅ Why the constant confusion is not your fault ✅ How to start reclaiming your peace and confidence through truth and faith

If you’ve ever questioned your own sanity because of the chaos around you, this episode will help you breathe again and find peace through God’s truth.

✨ Ready to find peace through the holidays? Join my Holiday Survival Course, a 5-week experience BEGINNING OCTOBER 21 designed to help wives of alcoholics stay grounded, set boundaries with grace, and walk in peace this holiday season. You DO NOT have to walk through it this year alone!! I want to dive deeper with you and share with you what I have learned that has helped me to survive the most beautiful.......and sometimes the most painful part of the year for our family ♥

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