Summary

In this episode of Couples in Focus, Michael and Thomas discuss the importance of recognising overwhelm and stress in relationships, especially as the new year approaches. They explore strategies for managing stress, the role of partners in identifying each other's stress signals, and the significance of maintaining a positive presumption of intent in relationships. The conversation emphasises the need for self-awareness, communication, and mutual support to foster healthier relationships and navigate life's challenges together.

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Takeaways

It's important to evaluate and make changes in relationships as the new year approaches.

Recognizing personal overwhelm is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

Partners can help each other identify stress signals and provide support.

Having a hierarchy of priorities can help manage stress effectively.

Positive presumption of intent can diffuse tension in relationships.

Communication about needs is essential for resource management.

Self-awareness is key to preventing overwhelm and burnout.

Taking time for self-care can improve relationship dynamics.

It's important to teach partners about individual needs and stress responses.

Mutual support and understanding can strengthen relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating the New Year Together

04:00 Recognizing Overwhelm and Stress

08:34 The Importance of Resource Management

13:04 Partner Support and Communication

17:17 Building a Foundation of Trust and Understanding

21:59 Resourcing Each Other in Relationships

30:22 The Importance of Self-Responsibility and Teaching Needs

34:15 Implementing New Habits for Relationship Growth

Even the strongest couples miss each other sometimes. A glance goes unnoticed, a comment gets brushed off, or one partner pulls away just when the other needs closeness. These are the moments where relationships either disconnect — or grow stronger.

In this episode, we talk about bids for connection: the small signals we send every day asking for attention, affection, or understanding. You’ll learn how to spot these bids, what happens when they’re missed, and how repair builds trust and emotional safety. Because thriving couples don’t get it right all the time — they just know how to find their way back.

For more, visit the couples therapy website and the online program.

Why do some couples seem to grow closer over time while others drift apart? In this episode, we explore the small, often unnoticed moments that make or break a relationship — the bids for connection.

Every time you reach out — with a glance, a question, a joke, or a touch — you’re offering a bid. Thriving couples recognise these bids and turn toward them; struggling couples miss or dismiss them.

We’ll unpack why these micro-moments matter so much, how to spot them, and what happens when they’re ignored. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or just starting out, this episode will help you see love not as grand gestures but as the tiny daily choices that keep your bond alive.

To learn more, visit my couples therapy website and the new online program

Why do so many conversations with people we care about spiral into arguments? Often it’s because we’re focused on being right instead of relating.

In this episode of Couples in Focus, I unpack the difference between proving your point and stepping into someone else’s “map” — their inner world of experiences, feelings, and beliefs. You’ll hear real-life examples of how shifting from defensiveness to curiosity can transform conflicts into moments of connection, whether with a partner, friend, coworker, or family member.

We’ll explore why relating builds trust and emotional safety, and I’ll share practical tools you can use to pause, listen, and connect without losing yourself in the process.

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Summary

In this conversation, Michael Preston discusses the importance of giving partners the benefit of the doubt in relationships. He emphasises how this shift in perspective can transform negative interactions into positive ones by fostering curiosity and understanding. Instead of reacting defensively to perceived slights, partners can approach each other with empathy and a desire to understand the other's experiences, leading to healthier communication and conflict resolution.

Takeaways

Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt can change dynamics.

Curiosity can replace defensiveness in relationships.

Understanding your partner's day can foster empathy.

Transforming negative cycles into positive interactions is crucial.

Effective communication is rooted in emotional intelligence.

Empathy leads to better conflict resolution.

Positive interactions can enhance personal growth.

Relationships thrive on understanding and curiosity.

Recognising triggers can help manage responses.

Healthy partnerships require ongoing effort and understanding.

Learn more by visiting my websites and the new online program.

Modern mental health often promises quick fixes — usually in the form of medication. While antidepressants can help, they rarely touch the deeper roots of why so many of us are struggling.

In this episode of Couples in Focus, I take a step back and ask: what if the crisis isn’t just chemical, but human? We’ll explore the four foundations of good mental health — nature, movement, social connection & meaning, and touch — and how losing these has left us unbalanced. I’ll also share the metaphor of the inner compass, showing how our thoughts, emotions, and body sensations can guide us back when we feel lost.

If you’re tired of surface-level solutions and want to reconnect with the deeper foundations of well-being, this episode is for you. Learn more at coupletherapy.earth.

We’ve been sold a lie about love. Movies, books, and social media tell us it’s all about sparks, passion, and intensity — but that isn’t real love.

In this episode of Couples in Focus, I delve into the truth about lasting love: why it feels calm rather than chaotic, why it develops gradually over time, and how attachment theory reveals what a genuine connection is built upon. You’ll hear stories that highlight the difference between intensity that fizzles out and the kind of steady, safe love that lasts.

If you’re ready to rethink what love really means and how to build it, tune in — and learn more about relationships and therapy at coupletherapy.earth.

Why do we so often feel lost in our mental health journey? In this episode of Couples in Focus, I introduce the metaphor of the inner compass — the signals of our thoughts, emotions, and body sensations that point us toward balance or warn us when we’re drifting off course.

Through real stories, we’ll explore how ignoring small signals, such as tension, rumination, or sadness, only makes them grow louder, and how learning to listen helps us make small course corrections before they become crises. You’ll discover practical tools for reorienting yourself to your inner compass, allowing you to find steadiness and clarity in everyday life.

For more on therapy and emotional well-being, visit coupletherapy.earth