What if your need to be right is actually what’s breaking your connection? In this episode, Matt & Alona unpack how “correcting” can quietly shut down your child—or partner—and how to shift from facts to feelings instead. You’ll learn a 4-step pause that replaces fixing with empathy and helps you connect before you correct.

Moments that hit home:

• ✨ When your kid says “nobody likes me” — and why “that’s not true” misses the moment.
• 💔 The “helpful” correction that made a child shut down.
• 💡 Why couples jump in to be “right,” and how waiting protects closeness.

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👉 Nudge: “When my child says ‘nobody likes me,’ I rush to fix it. Coach me to pause, reflect their feelings, and ask one curious question before responding.”

👉 Nudge: “I correct my partner’s details to be accurate. Help me practice waiting or asking consent before correcting—so I choose connection over control.”

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You’ll learn how to receive tough feedback from your kids (and partners) without spiraling into shame or defensiveness, and how to turn “you embarrassed me” into a deeper bond—not a bigger rift. We unpack “The Gift,” a simple framework to let their feelings land, repair fast, and create third-way solutions where everyone’s needs matter. You’ll also hear why empathy isn’t coddling—it’s a multi-generational superpower that shapes who our kids become. 🌱

Moments that may sting (and change you):

• “Don’t hug me at pickup.” How to translate the pain, validate belonging needs, and co-create private signals for affection (thumbs-up, car-hug, home-hug) so love and dignity both win.
• “You interrupt me.” Spot the weaponized-gift trap, then pivot to needs-language that disarms criticism and invites teamwork instead of score-keeping.
• When a child shuts down. Why silence protects dignity and regulation—and how to guess needs, give space, and build trust (even with nonverbal check-ins like 👁️ blink cues).

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Nudge: When my child says I embarrassed them in front of friends, I feel hurt and rejected. Help me receive that as a Gift, reflect their needs (belonging/choice), share my need for connection, and co-create a plan (private hug, signal, or timing) that honors both of us.

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To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.

You’ll hear Matt & Alona flip the script on “feedback” — turning unmet needs into a loving gift that deepens trust instead of detonating connection. They walk through real moments at home, show you how to receive a “gift” with genuine excitement (yes, even when it stings), and model the exact words to repair without defensiveness. You’ll also hear Alona’s raw confession about a parenting moment that cut against her core values — and how her daughter’s “I have a gift” became the bridge back to closeness.

Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

• “The Gift” mindset: share unmet needs without blame so the other person actually feels invited to love you better — and you stay out of the shame/defense spiral.
• Why apologies often backfire (too early = about you), and the step-by-step repair that lands: receive, reflect feelings/needs, express regret, then share your intentions last.
• Gamifying receptivity so kids feel safe giving feedback (hello, $10 rule or special privileges) — because silence ≠ happiness.

Moments that will challenge you (and are worth leaning into):

1. Alona’s “I let her out of the car” story — a 5-second decision that violated her deepest value of “I will not abandon you,” and the brave repair that followed. 😳❤️‍🩹
2. Translating attacks into needs: hearing “You’re always late” as a plea for reliability, predictability, and mattering — then responding without excuses. 🧭
3. Teaching teens to bring you the hard stuff: if you’re not getting “gifts,” they’re probably suppressing — and distance grows in that silence. 🧠➡️💬

Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

Nudge: “When my kid challenges me or uses a harsh tone, I react with defensiveness or control. I want to try ‘The Gift’ instead. Help me translate what I’m hearing into their feelings/needs and coach me to respond with empathy before I explain myself.”

What is Amari? webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Now you can interact with the ideas from our podcasts, articles, and parenting tips — and Amari will help you apply them directly to your pesonal Life. Don't have a Kinectin Account? Create one here
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To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.