What if your need to be right is actually what’s breaking your connection? In this episode, Matt & Alona unpack how “correcting” can quietly shut down your child—or partner—and how to shift from facts to feelings instead. You’ll learn a 4-step pause that replaces fixing with empathy and helps you connect before you correct.

Moments that hit home:

• ✨ When your kid says “nobody likes me” — and why “that’s not true” misses the moment.
• 💔 The “helpful” correction that made a child shut down.
• 💡 Why couples jump in to be “right,” and how waiting protects closeness.

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👉 Nudge: “When my child says ‘nobody likes me,’ I rush to fix it. Coach me to pause, reflect their feelings, and ask one curious question before responding.”

👉 Nudge: “I correct my partner’s details to be accurate. Help me practice waiting or asking consent before correcting—so I choose connection over control.”

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You’ll learn how to receive tough feedback from your kids (and partners) without spiraling into shame or defensiveness, and how to turn “you embarrassed me” into a deeper bond—not a bigger rift. We unpack “The Gift,” a simple framework to let their feelings land, repair fast, and create third-way solutions where everyone’s needs matter. You’ll also hear why empathy isn’t coddling—it’s a multi-generational superpower that shapes who our kids become. 🌱

Moments that may sting (and change you):

• “Don’t hug me at pickup.” How to translate the pain, validate belonging needs, and co-create private signals for affection (thumbs-up, car-hug, home-hug) so love and dignity both win.
• “You interrupt me.” Spot the weaponized-gift trap, then pivot to needs-language that disarms criticism and invites teamwork instead of score-keeping.
• When a child shuts down. Why silence protects dignity and regulation—and how to guess needs, give space, and build trust (even with nonverbal check-ins like 👁️ blink cues).

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Nudge: When my child says I embarrassed them in front of friends, I feel hurt and rejected. Help me receive that as a Gift, reflect their needs (belonging/choice), share my need for connection, and co-create a plan (private hug, signal, or timing) that honors both of us.

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You’ll hear Matt & Alona flip the script on “feedback” — turning unmet needs into a loving gift that deepens trust instead of detonating connection. They walk through real moments at home, show you how to receive a “gift” with genuine excitement (yes, even when it stings), and model the exact words to repair without defensiveness. You’ll also hear Alona’s raw confession about a parenting moment that cut against her core values — and how her daughter’s “I have a gift” became the bridge back to closeness.

Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

• “The Gift” mindset: share unmet needs without blame so the other person actually feels invited to love you better — and you stay out of the shame/defense spiral.
• Why apologies often backfire (too early = about you), and the step-by-step repair that lands: receive, reflect feelings/needs, express regret, then share your intentions last.
• Gamifying receptivity so kids feel safe giving feedback (hello, $10 rule or special privileges) — because silence ≠ happiness.

Moments that will challenge you (and are worth leaning into):

1. Alona’s “I let her out of the car” story — a 5-second decision that violated her deepest value of “I will not abandon you,” and the brave repair that followed. 😳❤️‍🩹
2. Translating attacks into needs: hearing “You’re always late” as a plea for reliability, predictability, and mattering — then responding without excuses. 🧭
3. Teaching teens to bring you the hard stuff: if you’re not getting “gifts,” they’re probably suppressing — and distance grows in that silence. 🧠➡️💬

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Nudge: “When my kid challenges me or uses a harsh tone, I react with defensiveness or control. I want to try ‘The Gift’ instead. Help me translate what I’m hearing into their feelings/needs and coach me to respond with empathy before I explain myself.”

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Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

• Former Miss California and mom Veena shares how a 30-day, low-oil/low-salt reset and “taste the rainbow” bowls transformed her energy—and her kids’ plates. 🍓🍋🍅
• Matt & Alona unpack collaborative parenting (think NVC “natural giraffe”), where kids get real choices—eat your greens or drink them?—and parents lead by modeling, not mandates. 🦒✨
• The marriage micro-habits that shift a whole home: weekly Sunday check-ins and a daily 6–7 second kiss to reconnect nervous systems (and let the kids witness repair). 💬❤️‍🩹

Lean-in moments that might sting (in a good way):

1. “Perfect is the enemy of good”—ordering Sweetgreen can be the healthiest choice today, and that’s okay. 🥗
2. If we fight in front of the kids, we repair in front of the kids—because they need to see the whole arc. 🔁
3. Your kids’ self-worth grows when love is felt, not guessed—“All you have to do to be loved is show up.” 💗

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• Nudge: “I keep bouncing between ‘pal’ and ‘parent.’ I want a plan to give my kids real choices (eat vs. drink the veggies), stay collaborative, and still follow through on limits without threats.”

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Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

From baton-twirling 🎀 Miss California to a mom juggling work, sleep 😴, and school drop-offs 🚗—Veena gets real about the moment a 13-year-old’s crush 💔 triggered years of body dysmorphia, how “doing it all” quietly kills self-care, and why a plant-forward 30-day reset (think low-oil, low-salt, whole-foods…yes, even potatoes 🥔) skyrocketed her sleep quality, slashed inflammation 🔥, and brought her energy ⚡—and presence—back to her family.

You’ll hear the messy middle: pre-eating before events 🍽️, airport food fails ✈️🍔, embracing grace over guilt ❤️, and teaching kids to notice how food actually feels in their bodies 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦.

Three listen-in challenges that might sting (in a good way):

• The lie that thinner = lovelier 💃: how early “you’d be dateable if…” scripts still run many adult bodies—and marriages 💍.
• Ditching calorie-counting and willpower for plate proportioning 🍲 and self-check-ins—liberating, but only if you’re brave enough 🦁 to trust your body.
• Modeling food sanity for kids: sharing real ice cream some nights 🍦 and “nice cream” others 🍌—without labeling yourself (or them) as “good” or “bad.”

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• Nudge: “I still tie my worth to my weight, photos or how ‘toned’ I look. Help me rewrite this story so my value isn’t measured by a mirror or a number—and give me two daily practices to reinforce it.”

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Wake-Up Call Time!

Matt & Alona unpack with Marcos Spaziani's how relentless hustle, 16-hour days, and “I’ll get healthy later” thinking crash into reality… and how to pivot toward inner boundaries, sleep, connection, and delicious plant-powered eating that actually sticks. 🍽️💥🌱

Lean-in moments that might sting (in the best way):

• “Early detection is late detection.” Why waiting for labs to flag trouble is a dangerous myth—and what to do now.
• The grind lies: building an empire while your body breaks. Marcos’ hospital wake-ups vs. the fantasy of “I’ll rest after launch.”
• Inner boundaries > burnout: trading urgency-scarcity for grounded limits that make you more effective (and kinder at home).

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Nudge 1: “Work has me running 12–16 hours and I keep telling myself I’ll get healthy later. Help me set inner boundaries for sleep, food, and connection so I stop trading my body for my goals.”

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Quit Telling Your Kids “You’re Safe.” Teach Them How to Face Violence—Without Losing Their Humanity.

When your child sees a real shooting video or hears about school violence, the instinct is to soothe, distract, or promise safety. Matt & Alona push back. They show you how to sit in the fear together, regulate first, name what happened honestly, offer real empathy, and only then reassure—without false promises. They also tackle the deeper trap: how “us vs. them” language and dehumanization at home quietly trains kids to accept violence as normal. You’ll learn the simple cadence that calms bodies and brains (regulation → empathy → reassurance), and how to transform scary images and nightmares with co-created stories so your child regains a felt sense of safety.

What might challenge you (and why you’ll want to listen):

• Your comfort narratives aren’t helping: “You’re safe” can backfire when kids just watched something terrifying—honest naming + co-regulation works better.
• The enemy-making habit: labeling people “evil/jerks” teaches kids to dehumanize—and violence grows in that soil. Model feelings-and-needs language instead.
• Rewriting the nightmare: Don’t suppress scary memories; add safety into the story so the body learns calm again.

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• Nudge: My child saw a violent clip online and keeps asking if it could happen to them. Help me co-regulate in the moment, name what happened without sugarcoating, and then guide me through empathy → reassurance so they feel safer in their body.

• Nudge: I catch myself venting with ‘us vs. them’ language in front of my kids. Coach me to translate that into feelings and needs, so I model dignity and reduce the pull toward hate.

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Challenging highlights you’ll want to hear:

🌍 From dishwasher with no English to executive chef in 3 months, Marcos cooked for presidents, celebrities, and sports legends. He starred on TV, lost his restaurant to betrayal, then clawed it back stronger.

💪 A 30-day plant-based reset gave him energy, weight loss, and freedom from pain… until the grind pulled him back into 16-hour days, junk food, and dangerous health scares.

⚡ This episode is a wake-up call for anyone telling themselves, “I’ll take care of me later.”

Stories that might sting (in a good way):

• 🚨 Marcos shares how ignoring warning signs nearly killed him—and why no career win is worth the hospital bed.

• 🌀 The trap of “later” — the lie that peace and health come only after the chaos is done.

• 🌱 How to ride the wave of transformation without crashing back into old habits when life gets messy.

To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.