Actual Step-By-Step To Authenticity!

I tried fitting in all through my public school years. Then I gave up, dyed my hair, donned combat boots, and started sporting a Mohawk. And I became wildly popular as a nonconformist.
Still, I was miserable. I had no idea how to be me, whatever that entailed.
I love Brene Brown, have all her books, and each has inspired me. Still, inspirational and actionable are two different things.
Finally! Braving the Wilderness has steps one can really, honestly, truly take to get to that fabled goal of Authenticity. Her research brought her to the wonderful checklist, an acronym: BRAVING, where B is Boundaries, A is Accountability, I is Integrity, G is Generosity, and the other letters/elements are covered also in great detail. The challenges that arise with each of these elements are covered, everything, the whole nine yards.
Also, and this I thought was brave of her, Brene discusses how exactly we got to be the volatile, fractured nation we are today; plus she highlights steps we can take to make our interactions with each other more humane, more transformative. And it's not by staying in our own camps either. I know: HARD.
Her narration is warm, her examples, some her own on how NOT to do something, are enlightening, her hope is genuine and contagious.
Okay, so no Mohawk here. But I am ready to take those fearsome, courageous, first few steps...!

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Love this!

I absolutely love this book and my love for Brene deepens more and more! Not only is she a great writer and speaker but she delivers the message in a genuine " I really care about you" tone. Keep up the good work Brene! We love you!

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'I am the wilderness'

There's SO many points to touch on. Impossible to. Instead, I'll list a few favorite parts. Knowing this is different for everyone who reads.

When Brene' storytells the moment she recognized not 'belonging' to her family. Tears well up. Turned off the audio book. Visited her Instagram page sifting for comfort where others would vibe similar. Left a message for her and the page. Feeling less alone. Start listing to the book again

Wrapping myself around self incrimination and wanting to feel ashamed of truth I recognize through out the book. Hearing her ask me, 'why?' Resembles how she hears the voices of others. Like, Maya Angelo. This is why I like audio books. Especially with her. I hear her voice. Overlap my fears and tears. This comforts me

Her epiphany of what the Maya Angelo quote means for herself is awesome! Proves the journey may have twists and turns. Full of all sorts of happenstances. Some our own doing when we did what we thought would work. If we keep searching for the truth of something that conflicts with our sense of self we eventually find the 'wilderness' and belonging to ourselves. You'll have to read the book to relate

The interview with Viola Davis meant another click of the book off. Tears welling up. Visiting Viola's Instagram page. Leaving a heart felt thank you for her courage and appreciation for lighting the path a little brighter for me

The interview of junior high students at the end. Fitting in verses belonging and their take on not belonging at home ... AGAIN, tearing up. Turn off the book. Reflect. By this point, after immersing myself for a couple of days I felt more secure in where I am. Understanding the wilderness a lot better. My place in it

Showing up in the world will never be the same 'practicing being in the wilderness' every day from now on. Especially, 'not searching for confirmation I don't belong' any longer

My whole life timelines itself reading this book. I could see where moments of my life helped set the course. Eventually, becoming my doing. No more

The VA is helping me sort through how the events of my military service caused a disability my brain struggles with. After hearing this book I feel confident these struggles won't keep me from belonging to myself and 'You only are free when you realize you belong no place — you belong every place — no place at all.' Maya Angelo

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Bravery is so what we need right now

I’ve never heard “the wilderness” articulated so perfectly. When you are in the wilderness it can feel like a most frightening crazy place. You can feel crazy/chaotic. The world by nature of its existence is one giant wilderness. It is both breathtakingly joyful, while in a constant state of creating and dying off. This is the bigger world and our very personal worlds simultaneously. When we stand with strong backs and soft fronts - vulnerable, it can be terrifying and leaves us open to the critics and condemning voices - externally and internally. We are open to the wailing of shame, judgement, and fear. It can easily knock us off our feet and set us up to instinctively fight back or retreat into complacency and silence. We all know the falling into of our primitive thinking. That mindset of fighting for or flying off into imagined safe spaces of ideologies, religions, and our tribes as a default response. This is where we all to often stand or retreat to, instead of willing navigating the uncertain necessity of a braver existence. Brene Brown’s book “Braving the Wilderness” is a life/soul preserver that explores the courage necessary to stay buoyant in these unfamiliar, yet exciting waters of life. You’ll be so grateful you found it - listen or read it over and over again. What she is proposing is not easy. If it was easy we’d live in such a gentler world. Today we need more than ever truly brave leaders - not safe leaders, across every corner of our existence.

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Another outstanding book by Brené Brown!

I can relate to Brené's work so much! After listening to this one, I FINALLY see that I never "belonged" anywhere, even in my own family. I was an outsider. As much as I am relieved to finally understand, I am sad that I may have treated my sons the same way. I have a lot to make up to them!

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I wasn't expecting that...

Maybe I just had no idea what I was getting, but I was surprised that this book is mainly about embracing relationship with those who think (fairly specifically politically) different than you. It wasn't a bad message, but I tend to often find common ground with those who express different views so this wasn't quite what I was looking for.

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Standing Up to Truth

Would you consider the audio edition of Braving the Wilderness to be better than the print version?

One of best of Dr. Brown's Audio Books. She shares a lot of her new research about knowing yourself and your needs when choosing to be a caring person. I enjoy listening to her she has a unique style of communicating.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The quotes from Maya Angelou were very important to the spirit of this book.

Which character – as performed by Brené Brown – was your favorite?

She introduced a variety of research studies and quoted from letters and books from successful people who overcame their fears. Most moving for me was her visit with the Sandy Hook parents. There ability to unite together in love was inspiring.

Any additional comments?

I recommend this book for those who find they are angry about their situation in life and do not understand why the feel like a victim of circumstances beyond their control. Her discussion of methods of not to seeing yourself as an outsider who doesn't fit in anywhere are the most valuable part of this book.

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Another great book from Brene Brown

I love Brene Brown & what she stands for. What a great challenge as parents and role models to help kids know that they do belong & are loved. My favorite theme from this book is "stop searching for confirmation that you don't belong"

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Good info but...

I really liked the author, we share many experiences and views. I just wish politics wasn’t brought into the narrative. I hear enough about that everywhere else.

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Much needed book!

I really enjoyed this book. I've struggled for years with voicing opinions that may not be held by the masses especially in recent months. I love that Dr. Brown gives so many examples of how we can brave the wilderness, have the tough conversations without agreeing to disagree or having someone ready to kill us, and how we can use curiosity and truly owning up to the fact that we don't know it all to have an amazing discourse that allows us to ultimately experience the sense of true belonging. Love, love, love this book and I appreciate Dr. Brown for writing it.

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