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A paradigm-shifting study of neurodivergent women - those with ADHD, autism, synesthesia, high sensitivity, and sensory processing disorder - exploring why these traits are overlooked in women and how society benefits from allowing their unique strengths to flourish.

As a successful Harvard and Berkeley-educated writer, entrepreneur, and devoted mother, Jenara Nerenberg was shocked to discover that her "symptoms" - only ever labeled as anxiety - were considered autistic and ADHD. Being a journalist, she dove into the research and uncovered neurodiversity - a framework that moves away from pathologizing "abnormal" versus "normal" brains and instead recognizes the vast diversity of our mental makeups. 

When it comes to women, sensory processing differences are often overlooked, masked, or mistaken for something else entirely. Between a flawed system that focuses on diagnosing younger, male populations, and the fact that girls are conditioned from a young age to blend in and conform to gender expectations, women often don't learn about their neurological differences until they are adults, if at all. As a result, potentially millions live with undiagnosed or misdiagnosed neurodivergences, and the misidentification leads to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and shame. Meanwhile, we all miss out on the gifts their neurodivergent minds have to offer.

Divergent Mind is a long-overdue, much-needed answer for women who have a deep sense that they are "different". Sharing real stories from women with high sensitivity, ADHD, autism, misophonia, dyslexia, SPD, and more, Nerenberg explores how these brain variances present differently in women and dispels widely-held misconceptions (for example, it's not that autistic people lack sensitivity and empathy, they have an overwhelming excess of it).

Nerenberg also offers us a path forward, describing practical changes in how we communicate, how we design our surroundings, and how we can better support divergent minds. When we allow our wide variety of brain makeups to flourish, we create a better tomorrow for us all.

©2020 Jenara Nerenberg (P)2020 HarperAudio

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Beautiful

I needed this book so badly. I cried when it came to the end. Not in a bad way, but because I felt I had truly been seen. Ladies, if you suspect or have known for most of your life that you have something different about you, then get thee this book!

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Amazing!

loved it! Thank you for all the research and connections made. This book will serve those who are neurodivergant, and those who want to have a better understanding of diversity in our world.

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Informative and life changing

Literally broke down in tears during parts of this book because I finally have words for my experience in the world. This information would have changed my life if I had have found it sooner. Since exploring this book I have found a new understanding with myself and with my partner. Highly recommend!

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Interesting contents, dull narrator

The main strength of this book is that it focuses primarily on neurodivergent women, a population that is usually overlooked. Aiming to cover all of neurodivergence in one single, fairly short book is rather ambitious, so this book will be most interesting to people who know little about neurodivergence or some of its aspects, like HSP or SPD. The weakness of the audiobook is the voice of the narrator, who speaks in a really dull, robotic AI manner, which makes it a bit challenging to really get hooked into the otherwise interesting contents of the book.

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Pivotal

I'm finding difficulty putting in to words the value of this book... It has provided me with an entirely new perspective. If you're on the fence about whether or not to listen, go for it! If you don't like it you can always return it, no questions asked.
On the other hand, it might just change the way you view the world and yourself in it.

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Validating and Refreshing

Writing is informative, assertive and aspirational. Liked how narrator subtly differentiates voices of individuals interviewed.

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Truly great

Never felt so seen before, cried through the indoctrination. This book is a game changer!

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Deeply affirming

I just keep seeing myself in this book, in ways I never expected. I am only half way through, and know I’ll be listening to it again. I imagine it’s one I’ll recommend my loved ones as well, when I decide to talk to them about my own neuro-divergence.

As a health care provider, counsellor, and researcher - as well as on a deeply personal level - I am SO GRATEFUL for this book. 🙏🏼

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Life changer!

Divergent Mind has brought a calm, curiosity and clarity to my life story and lived experiences. Thank you Jenara for your research and sharing.

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Fantastic Read

Recommend for everyone. This is the new world and I’m here for it. A few issues with the performance of the audiobook though.

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  • Gabrielle F Turner
  • 2020-06-24

Provided no insight

Plot is: author is smart; goes to ivy league; graduates; cannot keep a job; realizes has issue X; turns out lots of people at ivy league schools have issue x; btw issue x is not understood because of white males; did we mention lots of people smarter than you have issue x? The end. issue X is female autism but the story line could have been replaced with any issue. I was looking for concrete understanding about a loved one with autism, not a name dropping book. I guess I need to keep looking.

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  • Carine
  • 2020-08-29

OMG! This is a brilliant ray of hope!

While the narration could have been more animated, I guess the monotone is actually appropriate for those of us who have been told we have robotic sounding voices.

That aside, this book was EXACTLY what I needed to hear at this VERY moment. I am 59 years old and have been struggling all of my life being told by family, friends, and mental health professionals that there is inherently something fundamentally wrong with me. I have been misdiagnosed repeatedly, prescribed what seems like EVERY psychotropic under the sun--new, old, and experimental, and even talked into 12 ECT treatments. None of these helped. All of them harmed. I've been through talk therapy, CBT, DBT, and EMDR with marginal positive results. FINALLY, this book is suggesting that I'm just different rather than damaged at the core of my being. All I've ever wanted was to be accepted and given the appropriate tools to be the best person I can be. This book is the confirmation of that being all I ever needed.

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  • The OTHER Barb
  • 2020-07-26

I can’t remember

I can’t remember ever feeling so much gratitude for so sustained an amount of time- start to finish. This book treats the inner worlds of NDW as rich, beautiful, and important, worthy of investigation, in many ways directly because of their neurological make up and the gifts it brings. Until this I can’t remember reading a book that does not treat women with mental health differences as people who are either overcoming or not overcoming deficiencies, or even people defined by their behavior at all. In fact, this book doesn’t even focus on behavior or deficiencies at all! But on these individuals perspectives of the world, their experiences, the ways their neurology have been assets to them and those around them, and the hurdles they’ve jumped navigating a world that would actually do better for all by meeting their needs a little better. Honestly, this book treats these women and their inner worlds the way books like this have historically treated men, who at least had the potentiality of brilliant genius built into the spectrum, and who didn’t have their entire life defined by how hard social norms are for them, and weather or not they can learn to form lasting relationships. I had no idea until reading this how much those books shaped my self image, and my thoughts around wellness and even my purpose in learning about my autism, until this book shined a spotlight in. I’m just so grateful. And relieved.

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  • Hannah Crazyhawk
  • 2020-04-06

Wonderful!

As an Autistic, highly sensitive individual, I truly enjoyed this book. It helped me feel more at peace with my own neurodiversity.

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  • R Franson
  • 2020-09-30

A revelation

I will definitely be getting a hard copy as well as an additional copy for my sister. I also think it applies so much to my dad but it’s very targeted to women so I might try to find a book that isn’t specifically about women to give to him.

I realized while reading this that I beat myself up for being impatient with my children sometimes when in reality I am overstimulated by noise. I told my teenager this the other day and it was such a great feeling!! Instead of me pushing down how I was feeling until I said something I regretted, I voiced to my daughter that I was feeling overstimulated and explained a bit about this book. Instead of her feeling like I was annoyed by her or that she was bugging me, she understood that I just needed some time not filled with constant chatter.

I feel so hopeful.

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  • Jacob A. Nordby
  • 2021-02-23

Revealing

I’m a guy. This book was written specifically for women and the author does a great job of explaining why that’s so. I have many women of various ages in my life who have shared aspects of the struggles that the author describes. As I listened to the descriptions of highly sensitive people, sensory processing differences, ADD, autism, and more, I also found myself looking in the mirror. I found that comforting and revealing in the ways that gentle self-discovery can be. As an HSP myself and having children with autism or other neuro-divergent traits, I felt a lot of relief that these things are coming up for discussion and acceptance. I’ve already shared this book with several people in my life, with thanks to my HSP sister who shared it with me.

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  • Granolamom
  • 2020-11-09

Very Insightful

I learned so much from this book. It helped me to see that those of us struggling with neurodivergence are far from alone. So many great terms to use that are not negative. Thank you so much for this insightful, educational literature.

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  • Melissa
  • 2021-07-05

Important paradigm shift but hypocritical and exclusionary

The critique of modern psychiatry is valid and important. So is documenting and making mainstream the traits of “highly sensitive people.” Thankful for that.

The book also lacks a racial justice framework, fails to identify clear patterns of what’s described as neurodivergent/sensory processing difficulties, fails to disentangle behaviors, discomfort, or challenges stemming from sensory processing and neurodivergence from other ones.

For example it’s unclear to me if the author is documenting sensory processing difficulties and their "misdiagnosis" and inappropriate treatment. or if this is a muddled defense of the author's harrowing experience as a human being and perfectionist; intended audience white women with graduate degrees. Author used social justice framing to complain about women being left out of narratives and agendas in psychiatry and compiles interviews from women with degrees from Harvard, yale.

the demographic interviewed seems to be “high-achieving” women who have had access to psychiatry, school resources, and a plethora of doctors even since since childhood. People who are labeled low-achievers; people who are low or working class seem to be left out. This is problematic since this paradigm catches on, accommodations will be made for those with the most privilege. Major oversight.

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  • Catherine Payen
  • 2021-04-19

Allows New Perspectives and Life!

I totally found myself here!
Cried so many times, how pathetic I have felt every time I walk into a supermarket literally brain dead!
It was the first book I read on neurodivergency and I have not stopped since...
My daughter's diagnosis followed and I am now specialised in Aspergers' Females Neuroscience Coaching
I realised as I was getting my coaching certification that other coaches could not hold space for me - no matter how much they tried. This was my line in the sand moment and I niched out because we need space
Step 1. To know
Step 2. To get diagnosed
Step 3. To learn or relearn all our quirks and put them into perspective
Step 4. To relive our life
Step 5. So as to live the future fully with total understanding of whom we are!

I discovered that a particular reaction of mine gave me this response from the neurotypicals 'Stop being so selfish!', 'You spoilt brat...' became for me 'OMG can't you see I'm having a meltdown here!' and thus I had labelled it (Step 1...) Can you imagine how my recovery, personal development and coaching grew exponentially in a fraction of a millisecond?!!

So yes this book put me on the path to discover all this and I love it totally...

Thank you for your amazing work Jenara Nerenberg

Catherine Guimard-Payen

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  • Gretchken
  • 2020-07-01

I throughly enjoyed it!

I learned so much about myself and a lot of things finally make since. I hope there will be more books to come on this subject.

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