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Hold On to Your Kids

Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
Written by: Gordon Neufeld
Narrated by: Gabor Maté, Daniel Mate
Length: 13 hrs and 32 mins
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International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, PhD, joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Maté, MD, to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction - their values, identity, and codes of behavior. This “peer orientation” undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming overly conformist, desensitized, and alienated, and being “cool” matters more to them than anything else. 

Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence - and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters, establish the proper hierarchy in the home, make kids feel safe and understood, and earn back your children’s loyalty and love. This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media. By helping to reawaken instincts innate to us all, Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their children.

©2008 Gabor Maté (P)2018 Vintage Canada

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  • 2018-12-30

most recommended parenting book

I am a family therapist and this is the only book on parenting I recommend. Brilliantly written on the latest brain research

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  • Ernest P. Clover
  • 2019-01-14

So great as a young father!

This is hard for me because I was raised a certain way, took in the lies of society, and peer grooming. This really forced me to take a step back and think before I engage with my kids, have a plan to work and work the plan.

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  • Amazon Kunde
  • 2019-02-20

Interesting book

Interesting book, focusing all the time on personal attachment from different perspectives. . . .

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  • DoodleLover
  • 2019-01-28

A must read

A must read For all parents and educators who work with holders. Profound and insightful.