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How to Be an Adult in Relationships
- The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
- Narrated by: David Richo
- Length: 9 hrs and 20 mins
- Unabridged Audiobook
- Categories: Religion & Spirituality, Spirituality
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Psychotherapist David Richo examines the science of triggers and our reactions of fear, anger, and sadness. He helps us understand why our bodies respond before our minds have a chance to make sense of a situation. By looking deeply at the roots of what provokes us - the words, actions, and even sensory elements like smell - we find opportunities to understand the origins of our triggers and train our bodies to remain calm in the face of painful memories.
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very powerful
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Great insight into how our experiences shape us
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In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
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Intro. to loving mindfully.
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- Narrated by: Paul Brion
- Length: 5 hrs and 46 mins
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Psychotherapist David Richo examines the science of triggers and our reactions of fear, anger, and sadness. He helps us understand why our bodies respond before our minds have a chance to make sense of a situation. By looking deeply at the roots of what provokes us - the words, actions, and even sensory elements like smell - we find opportunities to understand the origins of our triggers and train our bodies to remain calm in the face of painful memories.
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very powerful
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- Written by: David Richo
- Narrated by: Tom Pile
- Length: 8 hrs and 51 mins
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Most relationship problems are essentially trust issues, explains psychotherapist David Richo. Whether it's fear of commitment, insecurity, jealousy, or a tendency to be controlling, the real obstacle is a fundamental lack of trust - both in ourselves and in our partner. Daring to Trust offers key insights and practical exercises for exploring and addressing our trust issues in relationships.
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Great insight into how our experiences shape us
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How to Be an Adult in Love
- Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly
- Written by: David Richo
- Narrated by: Tom Pile
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In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
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Intro. to loving mindfully.
- By Saquib Uddin Ahmed on 2018-09-15
Written by: David Richo
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- And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them
- Written by: David Richo
- Narrated by: Tom Pile
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In this provocative and inspiring audiobook, David Richo distills 30 years of experience as a therapist to explain the underlying roots of unhappiness - and the surprising secret to finding freedom and fulfillment. There are certain facts of life that we cannot change - the unavoidable "givens" of human existence: (1) everything changes and ends, (2) things do not always go according to plan, (3) life is not always fair, (4) pain is a part of life, and (5) people are not loving and loyal all the time.
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Very good, but...
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Publisher's Summary
"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:
- Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships
- Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are
- Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament
- Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways
- Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control
When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.
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- Jean-Sebastien Dupuis
- 2019-10-06
Amazingly insightful
This book just changed the way I see myself, my wife and our relationship.
It just changed my life for the better, I can’t wait to read it again.
1 person found this helpful
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- Stanko & Sasha
- 2021-04-15
Must read!
Delves deep into the psychology of people, from our childhood and how it affects are adult choices in relationships, but more importantly how to learn from that and improve our current relationships and heal from the past mistakes. Amazing!!!
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- Ashley
- 2020-12-31
Paaaaainful performance.
He speaks so slowly and halts in weird places. It made if really difficult to follow. Putting it on 1.3 speed helped a bit.
In terms of content some good gems if a bit woo-ey
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- Tyrus Smalley
- 2018-11-08
THE most important thing I’ve listened to as an adult.
Insightful and inquisitive. This book is THE most important thing I’ve listened to as an adult.
13 people found this helpful
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- Annah Nimouse
- 2019-07-26
Missing text
I got the audio and kindle versions of the book. In the first chapter the audio version skipped about 5 pages
It seems great, but I want all the content
11 people found this helpful
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- Gor Arakelyan
- 2020-11-27
Most important book on relationship pshycology
They way author describes and explaines the role of egotism in relationship, changed the way I look at things.
4 people found this helpful
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- meghan
- 2020-10-06
This title should include a PDF
More than I expected content-wise but it would be more useful to have a PFD of the exercises the author wants you to work through. The examples were varied and the takeaway message was impactful. I appreciated the quality of the reading as well.
4 people found this helpful
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- Anonymous User
- 2019-05-18
In Depth Guide to Relationships
This book has helped the way I view all of my relationships (intimate and non-intimate). It has helped me take a mindful approach to how I respond to others and helped me show my love for others in more meaningful ways. I greatly enjoyed this book and all of the journal responses. I have already shared this book with my boyfriend and many friends. I will say that this book is very dense and my boyfriend said the physical copy is similar to a textbook. I chose to listen to some chapters again to fully digest their meaning; however, I found listening to this book very enjoyable. If you find this text too dense, I encourage you to find other information on this topic because it will truly change your life. Please don't let the format keep you from bettering your relationships.
3 people found this helpful
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- Justine Laliberte
- 2018-05-09
very insightful and eye opening
I'll someone who was raised by to narcissist and really had no grass one would a healthy adult relationship is, this book was very insightful and I opening. I will definitely referred to this book again and make notes and let everything really sink in for me.
The only thing I can say bad about this book was at the narrator sometimes was hard to listen to, his tone is alright but it just seems very monotone and sometimes I would fall asleep
14 people found this helpful
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- monica b
- 2021-04-16
Awwwe <3
This is such important reading & it’s given in a beautifully soothing voice. I don’t know what to say other than this is perfection for someone who is curious on how this adult intimate relationship thing works. Underneath self-sabotage & loathing is a need to look in and not point the blame out, one of the gems in existence that I long for all to realize. The performance is great and the insight is priceless.
2 people found this helpful
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- Mystic7
- 2019-10-30
This book will save you years of therapy.
My recommendation is to listen to one to two chapters per month... there is A LOT of information to process...but it is worth it, and it will make you aware of patterns of behavior. The author is a Psychotherapist of Buddhist practice, that has generously shared many years of knowledge in this book. He has a peaceful, soft tone, his writing style is a bit poetic at times, and he uses a lot of metaphors. This is not a fluffy how to book...this book is deep, meaningful and it is meant for those that really want to reflect and develop to be able to have a healthier adult relationship within and with others . This book will gave me the clarity I seeked, now I am aware. Awareness is the key to making better choices and positive shifts in our lives. This book can save you years of therapy. Seek and you shall find -What you seek, is seeking you.
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- ni
- 2022-01-15
Everyone needs to read this!
Make the world a better place. Read and apply this awesome book. Applicable to all relationships (not just romantic ones).
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- Binge Watcher of Everything Awesome
- 2021-10-03
Amazing Audible
Really great audible to listen to while doing house chores, your hair, or driving. The lessons within the book are really great and touch home for me a recent divorcee. I would recommend this to anyone whether you’re in a relationship or not and whether it’s healthy or “toxic”. We all have something we can work on while we’re on this ship called planet earth.
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