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  • The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
  • Written by: David Richo
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  • Length: 9 hrs and 20 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (65 ratings)

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How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Written by: David Richo
Narrated by: David Richo
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"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

  1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships
  2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are
  3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament
  4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways
  5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

©2018 David Richo (P)2018 Random House Audio

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Paaaaainful performance.

He speaks so slowly and halts in weird places. It made if really difficult to follow. Putting it on 1.3 speed helped a bit.

In terms of content some good gems if a bit woo-ey

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Best to read the book…

Unfortunately disappointing! I was really looking forward to listening to this book on audible. The author is also narrating, and unfortunately he does not seem to have an overly animated voice, and somehow seems to speak too quickly (not enough pauses to let things settle into the brain and be absorbed) yet at times it seemed like one point would be hammered on over and over and over.
After listening to the entire book - which took me much longer than most other books, simply because I needed to take more breaks from the monotony, I feel that it would be much better off of being read by the individual, especially in the practices chapters. Sometimes I couldn’t tell when one practice finished, and another started simply because there weren’t enough pauses or visuals, given such as #1, #2 or a) b) c) etc.
I feel the book is probably very well written, and very interesting. However, for me, it was not easy for me to follow, and because of that, I don’t feel like I have gained from the knowledge potentially in this book.

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Amazingly insightful

This book just changed the way I see myself, my wife and our relationship.
It just changed my life for the better, I can’t wait to read it again.

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Empowering and brings upon the best of what it is to love

Helpful for all the relationships in your life, by being clear on what it is to love - your soul is awoken

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  • 2021-04-15

Must read!

Delves deep into the psychology of people, from our childhood and how it affects are adult choices in relationships, but more importantly how to learn from that and improve our current relationships and heal from the past mistakes. Amazing!!!

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So bad

The author sounded like he was on sedatives. This was the worst thing I’ve listened to. I can’t believe I paid for it.

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Not too shabby…

I personally liked it - a beautiful blend of poetic prose with a solid background in many psychotherapy areas. A good mix of “gravy” and “meat.” Will likely purchase a physical copy for my practice.

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So glad I found this!

Will be listening to this book more than once. So many things I needed to hear! I wish many of my friends would read it.

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Great Reading

This is a book rich of a lot of insight and Practices, a good reminder of living
Thank you

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It Nourishes A Healthy Mindset…Or To Attain One

To be picked up again and again with each experience one comes by. This is one of the most profound self-developmental reads.

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